things use to be what is wrong with have sex with him on that the first outing if things picked up right where they left off before the two of you broke up. I left him because I needed more then what he was willing to give as soon as he came home from Afghanistan. I wanted him to keep all the promises he made while he was over there, but I wanted them as soon as he came home he could not give it to me so I left. I do think he had some other things going on so me leaving was probably what he needed as well. Now we are both in a different place, I am still in love with him, and things are back to the way they use to be and as far as sex it has been a while, but if I have sex with him will I ruin what we are trying to build or since we are both mature adults does it really matter. I am not asking for permission nor do I need it, but I do know that women can screw things up for themselves just because they are in love.
2006-12-28 07:13:31 · 8 answers · asked by Sexy Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes...women do screw things up when they are in love but only you know what the real story is here.....It sounds like you put a lot of pressure on him when he first came home and that is not a good thing.....he needed time to reacclimate into his world....I guess your leaving gave him some time and space....now you need to work on rebuilding the love and trust you once had.....make love...it could be healing for both of you...good luck
2006-12-28 07:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you guys should probably sit down and have a long talk before you guys do anything. The last thing you want to do is go back to the same habits that did not work in the past. Try to talk things out and see what he wants out of the relationship and make sure that he knows what you want. Because your needs are as important as his. Hope it helps and best of luck with everything!!!
2006-12-28 15:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious talk with him. You need to find out if he wants the same things you want. It will never work if he doesn't. Having sex with him is a recreational thing and since you guys are both consenting adults I don't think it will harm the relationship. You really need to know for yourself if you are wasting your precious time on him. Good luck and enjoy. I know he's wanting it after being in the sand box!
2006-12-28 15:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your behavior sounds quite cold-hearted. Being in Afghanistan isn't like having a job in the next state over. It's a rough place to have to go, and it's highly stressful not knowing when will be the next time somebody is going to shoot at you. Your little issues are trivial compared to the sacrifices he has had to make. If you can't show the guy love, then end it permanently so that he can get emotional support from someone who actually behaves as though she has a heart.
2006-12-28 15:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the two of you. My partner and I have gotten back twice now and we have always had sex. The thing is that he couldnt give me what I wanted and to be honest at the time I couldnt either. We are so strong now I would not have done it any other way. The sex sometimes is needed, it can bring peaple closer.
Whatever you decide best of luck
2006-12-28 15:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys really love eachother and you have had sex before than I don't see a problem with it. You will obviously have sex at some point so what does it matter when. And if it causes things to change, then you will know sooner than later! I say do what feels right and good luck in your relationship!
2006-12-28 15:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your call re: when to have sex. Go with what feels right. No harm in waiting if you think it might disrupt what you are trying to rebuild.
2006-12-28 15:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you and him have had some conversation about what you need from one another. wait and make it special for you + him
2006-12-28 15:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋