My husband is upset that a brother from our church kissed me on the cheek when he greeted me. He has always done this and was even a groomsmen at our wedding. I think my husband is being immature and insecure. What about you?
Before you say what if it was him, sisters in the church have greeted him with a hug and kiss on the cheek as well and it doesn't bother me.
2006-12-28 07:07:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe your husband has heard something that may have caused him to react this way (i.e the fact that this "brother" may have thought you attractive) this could cause insecurity.
Before judging your husband too harshly, take the time to talk to him, find out what caused him to react. Maybe, even if you "accept" the sisters kissing him, HE may feel uncomfortable as well with this.
You should know the man you married, does he normally over-react, or is this abnormal?,
If this is abnormal, try to discuss and solve
if this is a normal overreaction, then discuss how overreactive you feel he can be, and ask how you can help alleviate this habit.
2006-12-28 07:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by arcticraven77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if it bothers your husband, then do the right thing. Stop it. So want if your husband got jealous or childish. The bottom line is it bother "your" husband. And if it don't bother "you"that sisters in the church kiss him on the cheek then don't make a big deal out of it. Again it bugs "your" husband. Why would you allow something to bother him? He is the man "you" married, your to please him, not other people. You need to read two books 1) the proper care and feeding of husbands and 2) you and your husband need to read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. You and your husband can learn a thing or two from these books. It has really helped me. If I knew about Dr. Laura yrs ago I would of done a hole lot of things different. Now do the right thing
2006-12-28 07:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in america greeting people with a kiss on the cheek and a hug is normal. especially from a brother at the church, so i think ur husbad is being immature he should understand that its just a customary thing to give a little kiss and a hug, and he has to know that u are married to him and he should be worrying about other people.
2006-12-28 07:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right (about him being immature and insecure)... as long as the kissing was done in a "polite" way on par with the hugs/kisses he receives from women at your church.
If he was lingering, biting your earlobe or his hands were wandering where they shouldn't then your husband definitely has a legitimate gripe.
Maybe there is more to the story? Could there be more problems between you two and this is just the one he brought up? A good, frank talk between you two may be a healthful right now.
2006-12-28 07:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has insecurity, immaturity and masculinity issues..oh did I mention jealousy? Tell him that what is good for the goose is good for the gander and that if he doesn't want the Brothers kissing your cheek than he needs to keep the sisters off his...if not, then he needs to sit down, shut up and take the "Of your own medicine" spoonful..
2006-12-28 07:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the "brother" greets EVERYONE with a kiss on the cheek, no problem - your husband is making a mountain out of an molehill.
BUT, if he is only greeting you with a kiss, then your husband is justified in being upset and I would ask myself if I were you, why are you allowing him to kiss your cheek if it upsets your husband?
2006-12-28 07:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-28 13:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me your husband has a issue with this man. I think he is being immature and insecure. Ask him why it bothers him so
2006-12-28 07:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think that is really immature of him to do that if he gets kissed and hugs from the sisters in the church
2006-12-28 07:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Brooke H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is he feeling insecure? Is he being childish? I dont think I would call him childish. You need to help him through his insecurities.
My partner and i both have moments of insecurity and we try as much as possible to help each other through it.
Best of luck
2006-12-28 07:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋