She is my girlfriend, we are not married yet.......although I have told her even before this that I love her and would marry her. Sorry for the confusion. What confuses me is why she "plays pregnant" around me and friends of ours. She will hold her belly, not drink, eat right, and do everything you should do to stay healthy during the pregnancy, I mean she even sleeps on her left side now. And now she wants an abortion, I am confused by all this.
2006-12-28 07:06:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if she didn't want any kids, someone should have used some type of protection. ask her to keep the child and if you want the child that much, then tell her you'll do the raising of the child.
Mom of B & D
2006-12-28 07:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of B & D 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted an abortion she would go and have one. She wants to make you beg her to keep the baby. She wants you to show her more attention and assure her that you are there for her through all of this. She is acting like this because she doesn't want you to know that she is scared that it won't work out or if she acts like she wants the baby you will be upset. She is afraid. She should be. Being a parent is hard and stressful and it changes everyone involved. Usually those changes are for the better but she may be worried that even though you say you want the baby, once you see how it really is you will change your mind. Just reassure her often that you love her and that you TWO can do this together and it will all work out in the end.
2006-12-28 07:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing you can do is talk to her. I don't know what she's thinking, so I can't offer anything better than that. Abortion though? Is she sure she's prepared to live with that for the rest of her life? Sit her down, talk to her. Maybe she's just scared, maybe she's just not ready. A baby will change a lot. Maybe she just needs time to come to terms with it? Her eating right, and taking care of herself, suggests that, although she says otherwise, she knows (maybe subconsciously) that this baby is a part of her life now, and she's going to be a Mom. Regardless, she's going to be someones Mom now. I read somewhere, that an abortion doesn't make you NOT pregnant, it makes you the mother of a dead baby. I think more people need to think about it that way.
2006-12-28 07:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you can take her to court to see if you can make
her keep the baby, but if that is the case then do it. She is the
Stupid One, Once this baby is born if she decides to keep the
child, then take her to court to fight for full custody. Besides she
didn't want the child in the first place. Make her have the visitation
and maybe later on she will change her mined on having a baby.
She is young and when both of you were having sex you should
of thought of the consequence. You are a good guy, don't you
ever change the way you are, cause there is a lots of DEAD
BEAT DADS OUT THERE THAT DON"T GIVE A SH*T ABOUT
THEIR CHILDREN THEY HAVE NOW!! Keep talking to her hoping she will change her mind. If she didn't really want children
she had two choices 1. KEEP HER LEGS CLOSED. 2. USE
PROTECTION.
2006-12-28 07:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe she is just scared. You need to sit down with her and let her know that you want to be a big part of this baby's life. Try to reassure her and make her feel like she can do it, esspecially if you two do it together. If after that she still wants to have an abortion, and you are really serious about wanting this baby, tell her that you will take care of tha baby. I know some people wouldn't believe in that, but it can and has been done.
2006-12-28 07:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being the father has no rights to that baby. I know its sad. I don't get why not, its your damn baby! But as far as I know its the woman's choice to terminate the pregnancy if she wants to. The man may not stand in the way. You may be able to take her to court over it. Put would you want to risk her doing something to the pregnancy if she doesn't want the baby? I would hate to know that she had an abortion knowing how much you sound like you want this baby, but honey I'm not sure if there is anything you can do,
Sorry to bring you bad news.
2006-12-28 07:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big fan of abortion but when does she plan to do it? She might change her mind since she's acting like a prego. I think the longer she stays pregnant the more bond she develops with the child. Good luck!
2006-12-28 07:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL MAYBE SHE ISN'T READY. TRUE IN DEED IT IS WRONG TO HAVE AN ABORTION. MAYBE IF YOU JUST LET HER KNOW THAT YOU'LL JUST TAKE CARE OF THE BABY UNTIL SHE IS READY THAT IS YOUR BLOOD AND YOU'RE WANTS IN THIS MATTER REALLY ARE IMPORTANT. I THINK SHE SHOULD CONSIDER IT IF SHE REALLY LOVES YOU. ONCE SHE SEE'S THE BABY, HOLD THE BABY JUST THAT WILL CHANGE HER MIND AND SHE WILL WANT TO DO HER PART. BUT FOR NOW JUST LET HER KNOW IF YOU REALLY WANT IT THAT YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF THE BABY UNTIL SHE IS READY. TRUST SHE WILL CHANGE HER MIND WHEN THE BABY GETS HERE. A CHILD IS A BLESSING AND IT'S MEANT TO BE. IF SHE LETS GO IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN PROTECTION OR NOT BECAUSE YOU CAN'T STOP GODS PLAN.
2006-12-28 07:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants the attention of being pregnant but knows if she lets it go on for too long you'll realize she wasn't really pregnant to begin with. But then again, a much easier way would just be to fake a miscarriage. Maybe she enjoys the attention but still doesn't want to have a baby. Have you asked her about it?
2006-12-28 07:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should propose to her if you really do love her and would marry her. maybe she feels like you might not stick around. it sounds to me like she really cares for the unborn baby and that having an abortion would be really traumatic for her emotionally and would probably destroy your relationship. i think you need to talk to her. try to get her feelings out. ask her why she is considering this option if she was so excited about being pregnant and if she loves you and you guys want to be together! i think she may just be confused and need reassurance from you that you will be there.
2006-12-28 07:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is not sure yet just tell her that you think that she would make a great mom and that you will be there every step of the way to help. Tell her that it would bring a whole new love into your lives and that you will be a better person for it. Keep reminding her that you love her and that you will love the baby and none of that will change.
2006-12-28 07:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋