what is the best way to let someone who has been talking behind your back know you know w/o revealing your sou

Answer 1

Confront them about what you have heard and when they ask where you heard it tell that that is not important, what is important is the issue at hand and that is want to discuss with them.

They may guess and figure it out on their own, but if they go around accussing someone of ratting them out it only makes them appear petty. The solution to their problem would be not to say anything behind anyone's back that they would not say to their face and being "ratted out" is the price they pay for flapping their jaws without thinking of the consequences.

Answer 2

The best advice I have ever been given is "Pick your battles". This applies to every situtation in life. You have to decide first and formost if it is even worth you confronting the person or saying anything at all. If its worth it to you, then just be direct, honest, and frank. You never have to reveal your sources. Demanding the source and expecting to get it is a tool used by the guilty to lay blame for their actions on others.

You don't have to scream and yell to get your point across. Have a general idea of what you want to say, and practice saying it if you have to to keep your emotions in check during the confrontation.

The cooler and calmer you are when you use icey words, the better their effect. My husband knows the tone all to well and calls it "the evil side of a woman". After all, well chosen words have a longer lasting effect than any other weapon in the world.

Answer 3

I have had this happen to me before with my best friend . I went over to her house , and asked her to sit down , that I needed to talk with her about something . I asked her if she was talking about me behind my back , and told her that people told me that she was . Now , she did ask me who told her that and I told her ( that is what being a good friend means , not tell , not repeating what someone tells me ) Tell that person you love them and forgive them , and if it happens that your friendship will have to end . Your friend will see just how good of a friend they have in you , we are all guilty of talking behind peoples back , so forgive and move on , you will free better about it .

Answer 4

whatever the person has said behind your back,in front of them to another friend bring into the conversation that some one had said these things and repeat them,you really didnt understand why but possibly they were just bored with nothing else to do,you were really not upset about it because a person would have to care first you had known for quite some time that they didnt care for you but hasnt bothered you and laugh...............luck

Answer 5

If they only told one person, then if you let them know that you know, they will easily figure out where the information came from. If they share their opinion with many, you're less likely to reveal your source.

Go to the unkind person and say "Can you believe rumor has it that you said XXX about me? That's absurd, anyone who knows you knows you'd never treat others that way" yada yada yada...

Answer 6

YOur source should know not to open their mouths and say anything they wouldnt say in open court. Now matter how smart you are about it, there is always the possiblity you get a comeback like "so&so told you, didnt she?"
Then what do you do?

Answer 7

Just say that you overheard them talk about you, you don't have to say so and so told me cuz then your getting someone else in trouble and causing more shat to happen so just act and play it off as if you hear it yourself!! I would be like excuse me why....and whatever she said.

Answer 8

Well if he/she says stuff about your look go rub it in their face.
Be like:

"I heard that someone said my outfit yesterday looked so slutty, I am glad you are SUCH a good friend, and you would NEVER talk behind my back."


Act all sarcastic and serious, so your "friend" will know you know it was her/him.

Answer 9

I would suggest you check for another source before confronting her. One person telling you isn't enough to verify she could be just trying to cause trouble.

Answer 10

Just say something to them that they've said that you said, or do something to them that they've done behind your back. Something they know that only you will know, that will let on that you know.

You know?