2006-12-28 06:58:58 · 30 answers · asked by Lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After being apart for awhile one tends to forget why they got seperated in the first place. Then you get back together and then sooner or later you remember real quick why you split up before.
The odds are against you, but if you do decide on getting back together with your ex-husband I hope you prove me wrong!
2006-12-28 07:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tigerhead90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are the same as they were when you got married the first time. The bonus is that you know what caused you to break up the first time (you do don't you?). It will take the same amount of commitment and love that it took the first time. The bad thing about knowing what caused the first breakup is that when you start seeing those same traits again, it may be easier to just say, "screw it, I have seen this before and I am not going to go through it for 20 years this time."
Go get some counseling before tying the knot this time. It would be good to get all those thing out on the table BEFORE you make another commitment, than to just have them resurface after the fact.
2006-12-28 07:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry but the odds will not be in your favor,after being seperated you both will have experienced new things and you both will have questions about the other,you didn`t say how long you have been seperated and that will matter, a person should know and understand why they divorced in the first place think before you act and make sure that you could live with the past......Good luck
2006-12-28 07:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ZERO TO ZERO. I have never seen anyone that get divorced 5 or 10 years get back together and it works out, 20 years, WOW.
To me that their to much water done run under that old bridge. You will argue , throw stuff up to each other, I just hope it works for you, but I know it wouldn't work for me, Once I divorce one I am through so through. Oh, lord I can imagine remarrying my husband you talking about. "Where were you when the sh** hit the fan." It would be a knock down and drag out.night and day.
2006-12-28 07:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good if you two have resolved all the issues you had when married. Plus I guess also it would be why you needed the divorce after being married for so long. Try dating and see how it goes. Usually we can tell by actions so don't be in such a rush to get back into the same rut.
2006-12-28 07:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... that was a long marriage. If you want to go at it again, go for it. The second time around should be sweeter and intense. You know each other better and by this time have reflected on what caused the break up. If you want better chances this time around try counseling. Good luck. Happy new year.
2006-12-28 07:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by ppv918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were the reasons behind the divorce? Is there a chance that you will be plagued with the same issues? If there is you may want to reconsider. In addition, try counseling before you leap this time.
2006-12-28 07:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by mothersister_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were together for 20 years... you should probably know. But honestly, I think a big problem nowadays is that people aren't willing enough to work through their relationship issues. It's never going to be perfect... and today people just immediately resort to divorce. I say give it a chance.
2006-12-28 07:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say why you divorced. or how long you have been apart. sometimes people learn from their mistakes and grow up. might not be a bad idea to check out a counselor. you need to hash it out between the two of you, see where you are both coming from, if you both have grown and changed in a way that the relationship could work. i have seen it happen.
i wish you the best.
2006-12-28 07:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both mature now. it will be different. you should have the feeling that you will make it. you must really love him for a second time. you all could have made it the first time apparently, someone wasn't able to give a little. you both know each other. some likes and dislikes are new and thats interesting for you to get to know. you already know your in-laws and you probably have kids together that have been praying for their parents to get back together.
2006-12-28 07:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋