Feeling guilt and anger toward my mother because I have to see her and talk to her at least once a week. I have a very busy life right now and it's sometimes hard to fit a visit in. But then I feel guilty for not doing it. Anyone else go through this?
2006-12-28 06:54:35 · 20 answers · asked by Lisa G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I visit my mom atleast once every 2 weeks and I talk to her on the phone atleast every other day.
2006-12-28 07:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16, and live with my mum, so I see her everyday. When I get married, my husband and I will visit her a couple of times a week. I can't imagine being away from my mum. I love her lots.
My 3 sisters are married and they visit mum and she visits them.
My eldest sis has 2 kids, and is pretty much homebound, so she invites the family over every one in a while, but she calls mum and asks her to come over every week. She lives about an hour away.
My second sis lives only 5 minutes ago and we see her about 3 or times a week.
My third sister also lives close by and she sometimes visits after work.
I believe it's very important to keep family ties strong. My sisters love visiting mum, because she is a beautiful person to be with and always helps and puts her kids first.
I wish everyone had a mum like mine :)
2006-12-31 23:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship between you two and distance apart. You dont have to feel guilty about having a life. Parents know, though some will not acknowledge this, that when the kids are grown they leave the nest. If you are an only child however, they tend to cling on tighter. Let your Mom know that right now you are finding it difficult to visit her so often. As long as she is not ill or incapacitated, once or twice a month is good.
2006-12-28 14:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that your mom may not be there one day! I know that you are busy but make some time for her. If you can't see her once a week maybe call her more often! I live far away from my mom but I do call her 3-4 times a week for about 30 min. per conversation! Just make some time for her so that you are happy with yourself and your mom still feels appreciated!
2006-12-28 14:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to tell you what to do. But try to be grateful that you have your mom still. I just lost mine about 2 months ago and I would give anything to just have that opportunity to visit her at least once a week. So take advantage of the time cause she will not always be here.
2006-12-28 14:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Edison G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk with her and go see her because if something happens to her you'll feel guilty you fought with her and didn't see her enough. I love my mom and i hated it that I don't see her as much as I'd like to. So what if you have to talk to her once a week I think that's great. Don't look at this as something bad because it's not you should talk to your mother and make sure she's doing alright. People should see their parents as often as they can.
2006-12-28 14:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother once told my mom "you'll miss me when I'm gone". She passed away two years ago. I have never seen my mother so upset and empty. It was like her best friend was gone. But, it maked me realize the kind of relationship that they had. My mother and I are now on the path of having that same kind of releationship.
Just remember..she gave birth to you, would have died for you and was probably your #1 fan. It dosen't take much time or effort to pick up the phone and say hi. If that is to much trouble...then you might want to look at your priorities.
2006-12-28 16:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by blondie4dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms always understand. They like when you have a life. Just remember to call and say you love her (if thats how you are feeling) Dont feel guilty for having a life of your own. Im sure she would rather you have a life than be living off of her! lol
2006-12-28 14:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by winterblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can, your mother should understand that you have a life of your own and that things can get very hairy at times. Maybe on the week you cant go and visit her you can just call her...
2006-12-28 14:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my mother whenever I get the chance.
As for visiting her, I do it when I can, which is maybe 2-3 times a year, since I live in WA and she lives in TX.
2006-12-28 14:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋