Ok, so I'm pregnant with my third child. I'm with the same guy, not married (although I don't think that really matters), and my youngest is 7 months old, oldest is 5 years old. My dad is a preacher and I'd rather not hear all the lectures he feels he needs to say. I'm just having a hard time telling them. Any imput would be appreciated.
2006-12-28 06:47:52 · 16 answers · asked by wendylotr 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
As long as you are proud of what you are doing the lectures and preaching should not matter to you as long as you know what your doing. really in the long run your in control of your children no one else is as they cannot tell you how to live or do things. you just need to be up front and truthful, and be proud about it if you really want to tell your parents.
2006-12-28 06:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erica M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married and you already have a 5 year old and 1 infant and your having another child. Why aren't you more concerned with how you are going to care for those children then the impact a lecture is going to have on YOU?! Telling your Dad is the least of your problems! Just drop him a note and say "oops I did it again"! I'm sorry I never express anger on this site , but I can't help myself. After a divorce that was not my choice. I raised 2 daughters for 12 years. I worked all the time full time , part time, picked up extra work everywhere I could. I couldn't give my girls all the attention they were entitled to because I was providing for them. I HATE they did without. Who is going to pay for your children? The Dad who doesn't even think it necessary to marry their mom? The state ,which is all of us? Had you planned on them having braces if needed ( both of mine had them) Will they be able to go to college? Finally is it really that difficult to swallow a pill or use a condom?!!! With the choices you have made, expect a LOT of lectures!!!
2006-12-28 15:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I found out I was pregnant with my second child I was just as scared to tell my mom as I was with my first. I too am not married, but like you I don't see why that matters. The best thing to do is just get it out in the open. The lectures suck, (trust me I know) but it is better to get it out now and get it over with. The sooner you tell them, the sooner all the drama is over, and the sooner everyone can be excited about the baby.
2006-12-28 14:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just blurt it out. Surely by now they are comming to terms with the fact that their plans and yours don't match perfectly. I agree with them that a child needs two married parents, but its your life. If he's a good Dad and an active part of their lives, your parents should be glad you picked a good guy. Hopefully they'll see that and your happiness and your marital status won't matter so much. They just want you happy and safe. If this is your idea of happy and safe, surely they'll respect that. Tell him as much as you love him, you want his support and not his lectures. He did a good job raising you, but its your turn to make the choices for your life.
2006-12-28 14:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know i'm sorry i can't help more but the truth in the matter is you just need to say "mum, dad I'm pregnant" obviously the words can change but the fact is you just need to use all your courage and stregnth and tell them. i know its hard i've been there, im only 18 and i'm pregnant. Not only am i not married Im no longer with the babies father, and i had to just be strong and tell them, it was hard but there is nothing anone can really say that will make it any easier.
2006-12-28 14:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by kimberley123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna be painfully honest, since you don't see the answer like I do and you're asking. Say to your dad, "where are the sinning abortionists, cause you don't wanna hear the crap from the first two times again"
You're independent and do what you want to. Living the moment, that should give everyone a new perspective.
2006-12-28 15:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is your 3rd child, not your first.. same guy.. He of course is going to say something him being a preacher and you not being married. Although I agree, that shouldn't matter. Just stand up to your parents and tell them like you told them about the 1st to. I am pregnant, and please spare the lectures I have heard them twice.
2006-12-28 14:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay-
I would assume the preacher would marry you two?
Just tell your mom the good news- Happy New Year.
Then tell her that this time your getting your tubes tied while your in the labor and delivery room. Do it.
A child is a blessing to all that behold it. Remind your father that he is blessed with another grandchild. Rejoice, you will live forever in the eyes of this child .
2006-12-28 14:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till midnight on the 31st and say" Happy New Year am pregnate isnt that great!!"!!that should start it with a bang and if he gives ya any s*it tell him you guys planned it and that in gods eyes your married Best of Luck!!! oh- How old r u that he feels the need to still butt in?
2006-12-28 15:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tonipearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them the same way you told them the first 2 times. And if you didnt really think it mattered if you were married or not, you wouldnt have a problem sticking to your guns with your dad.
Why havent you married him yet? You keep having his kids, so why not marry him??
2006-12-28 14:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by KTINA 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋