2006-12-28 06:29:53 · 16 answers · asked by doctor_rajsantlani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i never want to hear from her and see her in my life........
2006-12-28 06:31:08 · update #1
get laid
2006-12-28 06:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Irenevmk" had the best answer, because it's based on a spiritual truth. We mistakenly think our attention follows our desires. (ie: You would be "obsessing" about your ex-wife because you must still really "love" and desire her.)
Nope. It's just the opposite. Our desires follow whatever we give our attention to. (You still love her because you're spending alot of time thinking about her.) That's a crucial statement whether you realize it or not, because that is the key to your complete recovery.
That's why Irenevmk was right to suggest cutting all ties. (If you can - and keep her at a distance if there are children involved) Simply direct your attention elsewhere - soul ties break hard, but they do break. Retrain yourself not to think about her by getting involved elsewhere. Not necessarily in another relationship, but go to church; take on new hobbies; get active in a sport like tennis or golf or bowling; call up some old friends and go see some movies or take a trip or whatever you want to give your attention to.
Your desires will begin to follow whatever you give your attention to. Don't wait until those desires smolder and hope they fade away and then try to change your focus...it simply won't happen.
Stop thinking about her by focusing on something else, and you'll be free! In other words, move on in life, and then you'll forget about your ex-wife. I promise!!
2006-12-28 06:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably NEVER forget her, but that doesn't mean you can't move on, and won't think about her less. The break-up is probably still fresh. Take time for your self. Hopefully there are no children involved which will make it a great deal easier. If there are no children - cut all ties. Even if it means changing your number (that is if you have reason to believe she will contact you). Then do exactly what you're trying to do... move on. Direct your focus on yourself, and learn to enjoy being by yourself. Start to do things that YOU enjoy. Eventually, she will no longer be an issue. You won't have to TRY to not think about her, you just won't anymore.
2006-12-28 06:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Queryous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie do not forget her because if you do you will be forgetting the reasons why you are not with her and may repeat that same mistake again with someone new. Instead move on and thank God everyday that he gave you a new beginning also when you find free time to your self ask Him to give you the strength and the courage and the will to move on to new and better endeavors and not to turn that good person who comes in your life away because of your past life with your wife. Pray sweetie, for God has the answers and hear all prayers plus heal all wounds.
2006-12-28 06:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relocate to another country from where she is coming from or relocate to a place VERY far without her, her friends, family or relatives knowing where.
Cut all communication.
Date and fall in love once again. Give love another chance. Don't hold back. And if ever you fall in love again with another person, don't hold back. Give it your all. It would be unfair with the other girl if you're still thinking of failing in another relationship you'll get into like what happened to you and your ex.
2006-12-28 06:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you writing about her?
She's not bringing you up; you're bringing her up.
Pain like this is difficult to overcome, especially if she's really done you wrong. You feel violated, used, and degraded. Its hard to just "move on" or "get over it."
Throw yourself into your work. (And maybe daydream about throwing her under a bus.) Just don't allow yourself to become consumed with thoughts of revenge. In the end, it a hollow victory, and a waste of your life.
2006-12-28 06:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, cutting all ties is a move in the right direction. If you have no kids then that's better. Now time will heal all wounds and eventually you will find someone else and be happy, in the mean time, keep yourself as busy as you can and know that however bad you are feeling right now, it will get better,
Good luck
2006-12-28 06:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go online and meet a bunch of people.
Hang out with people of both sexes in a platonic manner.
Be safe when meeting folks, but as long as your a straightforward with them and let them know that you just want to have fun and no major relationship, just enjoy it!
Take a cruise and change your scenery a bit.
Best of luck.
2006-12-28 06:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by cleanguy4cleanfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove all traces of her from your life. Don't answer the phone when she calls and don't listen to messages from her or read e-mails...delete...don't look for her in public and if you happen to see her, avoid recognition and eye contact (even if it means having to walk the opposite direction) and don't speak to her...pretend she does not exist and soon she wont.
2006-12-28 06:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that isnt true! youre probroably just mad and need to take some time to cool down!
BUT-
if you really do want her out of youre life just stay away from places she goes and try not to do things that remind you of being with her
2006-12-28 06:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might get urself a hobby to fit in ur time. make use of all ur time. u can also consider move to another place so tat ur old place wont remind u of ur ex. hope u success
2006-12-28 06:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋