''''''''''''(i only really babysit the 8 year old, the 11 year old isnt very trustworthy considering they have a pool)''''''''''''my neighbors were about 8 and 11 and the 8 year old comes running down the stairs to me and started telling that his older brother(we will call him jo) was itching himself while getting dressed i asked tom (the 8 year old) where because jo is alleregic to many bug bites and the mom was gone, and tom said his 'peepee' (jo shares his room with tom (the 8 year old) (tom walked in on him)i , of course was shocked and went up stairs, i didnt go in or look but i asked if he was okay, he said he was and he would be down in a few minutes. their parents are divorced and they live with the mom. any way when he came down stairs tom started laughing at him and i had to drag tom away and tell jo that 'rubbing' himself is normal (they cry alot) jo then started crying and started to tell me the story, which consisted of some late night adult tv, tom in bed, and parents
2006-12-28 06:27:44 · 12 answers · asked by beanie1635 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
and parents being gone, he told me how it felt good and that he was worried that he wasnt normal, anyway i had to give him """THE TALK""" and he felt alot better, tom was upstairs the whole time, but now anytime he sees me, jo gets embarrassed but i am really nice to him still
have you ever had this happen to you with neighbors, friends, or family???
2006-12-28 06:29:59 · update #1
ill report you if you make jokes
2006-12-28 06:30:24 · update #2
the mom was drunk when she came home
2006-12-28 06:34:40 · update #3
should i tell his mom when i go and babysit tommorrow or just let it go and be a secret
2006-12-28 06:35:19 · update #4
he was not being abused he was just watching adult tv and saw some guy rubbing himself i guess
2006-12-28 06:37:33 · update #5
OMG people i didnt get in to details im 13, i just told him rubbing himself was okay and that girls and men and women do it and when it feels hard it helps make a baby
calm down
2006-12-28 07:27:53 · update #6
First, congrats on handling it with sensitivity. I have never had to deal with anything like that before, but I was wondering did you mention anything to the Mom (of course I don't know how you would bring it up)? And if Jo is still being abused you might want to make an anonymous phone call to the authorities.
2006-12-28 06:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by S_Monica 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a great babysitter. You have a big heart and great intentions.
I'm a mom of a 10 year old who is starting the whole "penis, puberty thing" I think that you should a talk with his mom if she is an understanding kind of person....on the other hand if she is not an understanding person and she finds out that you had "a talk" with her son she might get a little pissed.
Just keep being the good person you are. Of course he is embarrassed!!
If there is something going on as far as the parents being sexually involved call the police.
2006-12-28 06:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Megz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you did was right to explain. But you should have had a talk with the parent as well to let the know what is going on. At that age there should not be any adult shows for him to watch, and his parents should be aware of this. He could go to school and do something he doesn't truly understand, and end up in big trouble. Don't worry about him being embarrassed, he will get over it.
2006-12-28 06:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How inappropriate. How dare you have "the talk" with someone else's children!
You're a borderline child sex abuser. If I were the parents of the children you babysat, I'd have called the police on you. I'm reporting you to Yahoo.
2006-12-28 07:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its normall just keep between you and the boy ( w/e his name is) dont tell his mother because you never know what she will do with her beinge drunk n them beinge seperated. if your talk made him feal good n n( or beter about himself) their is no sence to y bring the subject back up again but if he was still worried THEN i would tell his mom BUT the boy IS NOT any more so their is NO POINT OF TELLING HER
2006-12-28 08:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by raiderspimp408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he lives with his mom, he prolly didnt know what it was. its a good thinig you gave him "the talk" becuase no one would have. just tell him not to over do himself and go crazy with jo
2006-12-28 08:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You must let her know as Its bad for the young. They shouldn't get influence by such things. And parents shd teach their children sex edu right? Okay maybe in the future.
2006-12-28 06:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
with honesty being the best policy, I would tell the parents, probably the dad, if I was scared, I would write it in a letter.
2006-12-28 17:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. It's not worth snitching on. You'll come off as a molester and lose a job.
2006-12-28 06:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had no right having "The Talk" with a kid that's not yours. You should have told the mom what happened and let her deal with it.
2006-12-28 06:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by blackbeetlewidow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋