Can any one help me and say who is wrong?

Question

i am very egoistic person..i am workin in MNC as software engineer...i dont know any work in kitchen..today morning my mom called to kitchen....i helped little but dropped milk....and asked her sorry..and also said i will clean by myself...but she hit me like something...i dont get tensed for hiting me..but she said i wont come up in my life never and i will lose everything wat i have in my life..after hearing this i poured hot milk on her..then also she didnt stop she said i will die in fire...she said that my hubby will send me divorce notice once i get married....am i wrong or she?
my friends are asking me to ask sorry to her...but she had done more good to me in past..only because of her i am in MNC

Answer 1

It all deals with ETHICS...
If u r still reading this.. then let me proceed....

I think this is the best advice coz u r admitting that u r an EGOIST.
So The mistake could be possibly from ur side from what u have described if it is exactly the same with what had happened.....
U said dat u r working in an MNC n admit that u donno any work in the kitchen...
May be ur mother was really very busy n didnt expect u to spill milk.. or may be she was a bit disturbed by something dat had happened sometime ago... so PLEASE STAND IN THE SHOES OF UR MOTHER for a while n think...
u'll understand everything... n i'm too young to give u a suggestion coz u r in a position wherein u can imagine urself to be someone...

so I sincerely advise u to follow what ur friends have said and please please please apologise to ur mother...
because no matter whatever u do... u can't repay ur MOTHER... that's the most toughest thing in the world....

moreover u r saying dat she had done a lot good to u in the past. n its only coz of her dat u r happy now in the MNC... then... what more to think???
BETTER LATE THAN NEVER...
immediately plz.... go n apologise to ur mother...



Regarding the kitchen work... u just convince ur mother dat u will learn it slowly n gradually coz u r also working in a MNC n so u'll be strained in ur job... So explain it to her in course of time dat u'll learn those jobs also coz itz a mandatory for women in INDIA to learn all household work.......

n plz plz plz plz Never repeat such an act of spilling hot milk or anything like dat on ur mother... its very painful u know...
Just think of urself in dat situation n ur child doing the same with u.... Mind this U said that u r an egoist.. So itz not tough for u to be in such a situation . after all u r also gonne be a mother in the future...

so PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ... love ur mother.. n never hurt her.....
Plz.. I request u...



P.S
IF U REALLY SEE MY MSG N FOLLOW THIS.... Do reply me at [e-mail] coz i'll be happy dat atleast u've valued my words n all my pleadings haven't gone to the wind.

Answer 2

Learn to be more responsible for your actions in the kitchen and keep in mind that violence is never the answer. No need for hitting and no need for pouring hot milk on anyone, you are both wrong for the way you treat each other. Continue your schooling. Your mom should say sorry to you for hitting you and saying such hateful things to you and you should say sorry to her for pouring hot milk on her. Also you should think of living at school or at least not living with your mother as she has anger issues and is perhaps jealous of you for wanting to better your life beyond kitchen help. Be attentive, be responsible, but don't be disrespectful and let your mom know that her negative attitude toward you is hateful and hurtful and no respectable mother should treat her child that way. She should not be angry with you because she is unhappy with her station in life.

Answer 3

Who ever you are you are a person, with feelings. Every individual has talents in one area or the other, your skills are best suited for working as a man but your home making skills may not be according to your moms expectations. We all have some kind of flaw. Your mom has no right to hit you what ever be the reason. She needs to stop this violent act. Just because she is your mother does not mean she can do anything to you. She needs to have some respect for you, just as you have all the respect for her as a mother, respect goes both ways.
YOu mom sees your life based on her fears, probably she was treated in her marriage this way, where she spent all her life caring for her husband 24/7 or some bad deep seated experience in her life. She wants you to be like her, and you dont meet her expectations. Its after all milk, and you did not do it on purpose, and this is the only way some people learn, i have people who still depend on everyone else fo rcooking except themselves. They too are leading a life! Why make a big deal just because you dont work in a kitchen. As a kid you were fed with a thought of being economically independent now this has been achieved now the pressure is on being a good wife.
You have asked sorry already, whose turn is now? just because she made you who you are does not mean you have to lead a life of slave, this she has to understand.
Ask her what she is upset about, was it she was angry with someone and displaced this anger on you? Ask her what is bothering her about you, if she says she fears that your husband will leave you for this silly reason tell her you can take care of yourself and not to worry. unburden her and give her confidence in her self, tell her if you can work like a man you will also work like a woman, and cooking is not big deal, now everything is sold and you are making enough money to buy them. if not you will hire a cook, what is life after all? NO one is perfect, or tell her you will marry someone who knows to cook. there are so many couples who are happy with out knowing cooking, from garlic paste to cook food everything is on the shelf.
YOur mother is wrong for over reacting, she needs to learn to love her children.

Answer 4

Working in MNC or being a software engineer does not mean you are at the top of the world. Just have a look at this and you will what parents are.

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.

He said, "Please excuse me too; I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I. We! went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told, How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. "Move out of the way," I sai! d with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken. I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed, God's still small voice came to me and said,

"While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor, You'll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow, and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small, And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed; "Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.

"Are these the flowers you picked for me? "He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they're pretty like you. I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."

He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay. I love you anyway."

I said, "Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think?

So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

Thank you.

Answer 5

My Dear,
I will not approve of you poring hot milk on your mother, but I also don't agree with her criticizing you! Because you live with your mom then you must obey and follow her rules , try to talk to her and let her know that the things she says to you hurt! Believe that you are special, and rare , God has made you for a special purpose. Never give up on your dreams and don't let what others say or think about you keep you down. You were created to be great and you are!

Answer 6

I'd say you are both wrong. Hitting one's daughter is wrong. But pouring hot milk on your mother is wrong too.

Perhaps you and your mother have behaved in wrong ways towards each other for a long, long time. And now it's hard for either one of you to break your bad habits of misbehaving with each other.

I think that both of you can change for the better, if the two of you move away from each other and live apart for while. Being in relationships with other people will help both of you learn to behave in better ways.

Answer 7

No body is wrong dear! only thing your Mom has Old kind thoughts..I guess you must be Indian..and you know old ppl from India believes " If Milk pour out or drop on the floor, that action is unlucky and something wrong happen in life..." so she might has strong belief about it and she thought like that.. only u have to explain her nothing happens like that ..and prove her ..if nothing gonna happen after that, then say ..it was wrong belief u had it..so she will be okay..

Answer 8

first u stop thinking tht u r egoistic. if u r unable 2 do it try and try till some number of people say tht u or ont so. Now let us come to ur morning kitchen problem which heart u a lot. first think why ur mom hit's u like something. hear r my few qustions

1. do u help ur mom in any of her works b4 she ask's u.?

2. compare u r self with other girls how they help their mother?

get some tips hw 2 impress ur mother.by asking ur friend's mother, what a mother expect from a girl?

mother is the one who give life 2 us wth lots of pain's. she had right 2 shout on us or rais her hand on us. tht dosent meen tht she hate hey own child. mother is first teacher in ones life.

first try to avoid getting tenced for every thing in u r life. think how much ur mother feel bad abt this. think if u do this mistake after getting married in ur motherin-law house, how bad wil U fell and wht type of comments wil they pass on u some times they may make it public topic. So to avoid these problems u should try a lot 2 get controled at peak temper also.

and now lets come to ur mother topic. first u should come to know that no mother want's her child to suffer a lot in life. so never care for the things what ur mother scold's u. and according to me you r not wrong and not your mother is also not wrong. this happen in every indian houses. any one in her position will react in tht manar.

always think how much care she took on u for these many years. and how many problems she faced all these days atlest for that in replay try think for a gud way how u can satisify her in kitchen work.

THINKING DOSENT COST U ANYTHING.......

Answer 9

I think you should apologise to your mom first.she is after all your mother.you can never imagine how home makers live their life.you are a working lady.once you become a homemaker you will come to know how frustrating it can become when you are not helped around with your chores.whatever your mom said was just an outburst of frustration.keep your cool and say sorry to her.and assure her that you will try to improve yourself and help her with her chores.i am sure she'll later realise her mistake too.

Answer 10

I hope you're making up this story. This sounds like an abusive situation on both parts! If she's hitting you for accidentally spilling milk and you're deliberately pouring hot milk on her for saying something you don't like.....then you both need spiritual and psychological help, and you're both seriously sersiously wrong!