I plan on going to visit my daughter when i get out of work and dont have class at night, I hardly saw her during the semester...should i ask to have her every other weekend or should i just plan on going to my old house on the during my non-school nights and on the weekends?? Its not an issue unless my wife gets involved with someone else, but dont know when that will happen, we are currently very civil with each other.
2006-12-28 05:51:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make every effort to spend time with your child now. The formative years (up to age 5) will be crucial for your continued relationship. It may be hard to juggle with your studies, but parenthood is a responsibility that cannot be taken lightly, put on the back burner, or meted out in segments.
2006-12-28 05:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are working out well and everyone's happy right now, I think you should continue visiting on non-school nights and weekends. Should your ex-wife start a new relationship with a man, then you're both probably going to want to re-examine the visitation/custody agreement. Cross that bridge when you come to it. Meanwhile, your daughter will enjoy the stability of the current situation. If things change, you can work with your ex on the best way to prepare her for that.
Best of luck and enjoy your times with your daughter!
2006-12-28 13:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you are married with child, but do not live in same household as wife correct??
i think you need to speak to your wife. and see what is best for the child. it is your responsibility to visit your daughter as often as you can. Every day even if you could. Be more responsible. Have your priorities straight. And plan, plan, plan, work your schedule around these visits instead of the other way around. Your career is important but so is your daughter...
so I recommend that you not make a full commitment now. since you were not responsible for a whole semester (4 months or soo!!) so talk to your daughter's mom. say that you will see her as much as possible. you know yourself what your schedule looks like. think of something resonable, do-able and stick to it. you MUST follow through. So if in doubt do not promise everyother weekend, if you will NOT follow through. But I think everyother weekend if great if that is all you can do.
good for you for trying to get back into your daughters life. she needs you. do it for her!!!
2006-12-28 13:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your divorced you dont need to go stay with your wife,,, thats over move on,, even if it is a little hard with school and work, make a way for your daughter to come to your house so she can feel safe there. Good luck
2006-12-28 13:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's a pretty cool scenario. I would say, leave it like it is for now and deal with the changes as they roll. If your ex doesn't mind your schedule, avoid putting it to paper. If more couples dealt with it like you two are, there would be a lot less issues in the world!
2006-12-28 13:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you wish you had started law school before your divorce? I did and saved a bundle. That said, it would be better for you and your daughter to go to your domicile.
2006-12-28 14:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on to that civility and ask your childs mother if you can see her as often as you can while you are able,,no parent wants to ruin something good,or shouldnt for their child and if your commitment is there you should ask,,tell her you respect that she may find someone and she will want a little space but until then you miss your child and would love to see her as often as you can.
2006-12-28 13:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should discuss this with her first, good thing, you guys are civil to each other, so it would be easy to get a solution
2006-12-28 13:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Patriot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would actually go ahead and set-up visiting times with your ex, that way it is done and when you or her start seeing someone it won't have to change.
2006-12-28 13:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by mprice9802 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO WHATEVER YOUR HEART DESIRES!
2006-12-28 13:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by R.J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋