We share 2 children together and have been together 6 years. He is younger than I am. Afraid of committment due to parents failed marraige.
2006-12-28 05:41:03 · 13 answers · asked by GREEN_EYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Doesnt sound like you are the one with the problem. It appears that he needs to grow up. He needs to get over some of those fears of his and man up. Remind him he doesnt want to be that type of man that isnt there for his children.
and for you... if you are not happy, you need to be strong enough to be able to say he isnt meeting the needs of you and those of your children and move on with your life. it will be hard, but at some point love isnt worth some of the other stuff that comes with it.
2006-12-28 05:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by The MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is commitment the only problem here?It seems to me he has committed to u,u share two children and have been together for 6 yrs,is it a ring and fancy wedding u want?maybe there is an another reason that he is no good 4 u hard to tell!but either way u need to talk and find out what commitment means to both of u before u make ur decision,r u happy together otherwise?its not easy being in a relationship if ur not happy!but it is really hard starting over again!so weigh it up and do some sole searching,u have the answers ur self,its having the courage to act on it! good luck!!
2006-12-28 16:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by moran_mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OoO. This one is a toughie. How do you fall out of love? If you're trying to, perhaps you are. There is no specific way. I'm afraid that it just happens. you two don't share the same spark you once did, it seems. Don't try to hold it together for the kids though. It just makes it so much worse than what it really is. Be supportive of their decision of living w/the other parent. I speak from experience. Good luck.
2006-12-28 13:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. For a long time I told myself that I wouldn't marry because of my parents past/history. Yet not everybody is like that! Times are changing. Plus when it comes to a stage like Marriage with someone you'll know when they are the one...and you won't be afraid...and everything in you're heart and soul will tell you they are the one! I know and even now I'm still a little intimidated, yet I see myself settled down in the long run. Now me being 26 no. I see it more down the line like 36.... =) '
To be honest now a days marriage comes and goes like seasons. Most people don't take it serious at a young age. I still feel that I'm young and still need to grow. It's all up to how you feel within youreself. Plus you already have 2 children with this guy! Doesn't that mean something? Already toghether for 6 years....another 2 years and you'll be considered married anyway...common law.... =) Soooo you're set! =)
2006-12-28 13:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fall out of love with him no matter if you moved on you'll always have feelings for him, it may not be as strong but it'll be there. Obviously u need a a real man. You should start looking for a man thats loves you and is not scared of having a serious relationship and who will be a good role model for ur children. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-28 13:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by blackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as bad as it may hurt...the only thing to do is leave. even if you still do love him. sometimes its better to be in love with a person than to be with them...love hurts and sometimes you can cause the pain to youre self.
BUT -
if you really dont want to leave you can try what my hubby and i did when he didnt want to get married... go to counsiling together if he will go. they will talk about the problems you are having and may actually help! as you can see it helped us so maybe it will work for you!
what ever youre decision it can only be made by you! good luck either way
2006-12-28 14:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's two ways to get over someone .. avoid them completely (that's probably not going to work for you though) or simply move on with someone else. You should confront him and try to work it all out. 6 years is a long time!!
2006-12-28 13:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by mel4o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to fall out of love to leave them. IF you are smart enough to recognize they are no good for you, you are smart enough to walk out the door. Knowing you are doing the right thing for you will make it easier. Doesn't mean it won't stilll hurt.
Good luck.
2006-12-28 13:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation was a little different, but every time I started to miss my ex, I just started remembering all of the hell he put me through. It got easier every day until all of the feelings just went away.
2006-12-28 13:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant fall out of love, but you can give him an choice, marry me are lets be friends.
2006-12-28 13:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by MsTruthful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋