I can't tell you how many b/fs I've had, that claim to be putting out a CD, but never made it. I'm involved with someone now, who has been trying to be a rapper since 1991. He is now 36 yrs old and hasn't dropped a CD yet!!! For the last 15 yrs, he's been "so close to closing the deal" but nothing ever materializes! Something always seems to fall through, right before he signs on the dotted line.... But let him tell it, he's husstling deals, meeting up w/ producers, making recordings, having attorneys look over contacts etc... This has gone on for 15 yrs!! He's made so many tracks, but over the yrs, everything has become outdated, so he has to constantly change his style and re-record to keep with the to latest trends.
Is it wrong to tell him to hang in the towel and start looking for a real job?? I'm all for following your dreams and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but c'mon not everyone can be a star. When is it time to be realistic and move on?? He's 36 and broke!!
2006-12-28 05:36:31 · 7 answers · asked by Engage Me 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Girl, we all have or have had that problem. If you are supporting him financially, its time to stop after 15 years. He needs to grow up.. there is NO reason why he cannot work while persuing his dream. I am making progress while holding down a FT job AND being a mom.. He sounds so much like my ex, I want to tell you to RUN before he drains your bank account.
I mean its not like you don't believe in him or his talent, its just that you want to eat and have lights, clothes and shelter.. LOL
Maybe suggest to him that if he goes and takes some classes about the industry he will have a leg up and in the meantime he can be working to support himself and get money to get a REAL QUALITY demo and get started the RIGHT way.
2006-12-28 05:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think there would be nothing wrong with following his dream, but if you can't make money and aren't getting anywhere after 15 years, he should focus on getting a real job and growing up. He could persue the rapping as a hobby or part time deal. I personally couldn't deal with this and have to find a real man. Maybe he doesen't want to work! And this rapping carrer is a lame excuse for being a lazy bum....
2006-12-28 13:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by INSANE SUGARPUFF 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOW would be a good time to either Change his Style of music or as you put it throw in the towel.
Obviously he is 1--not meeting the RIGHT people or
2 He is not as good as he thinks he is or
3 At 36 It is that he is just too old to Start a career in music.
He could get a regular PAYING job and still do his music in the evenings and/or week-ends.
Good Luck honey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Just be nice when you talk to him.
2006-12-28 13:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a bunch of dudes like that. Every guy wants to be a rapper, but none seem to get the deals. I mean, follow your dreams, but do what you gotta do to support yourself and your family in the meantime.
2006-12-28 13:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are meant to be just that ... DREAMS .. and in the morning when we wake up, we put on our work clothes and GO TO WORK to EARN the living that we need to PROVIDE for our families as Responsible ADULTS!
That said, I sure hope that you are NOT supporting this guy in any way (Financially, especially) ... you need to take care of YOURSELF ... because if YOU are taking care of him financially -- you ACTUALLY are co-dependent, and ALLOWING him to continue on with irresponsible behaviors ..
At age 36 -- he is OLD ENOUGH (by far!) to be able to settle down, pick up a full-time working job, and after work, he can continue on with his hobby/dream ... but that is AFTER working a full day doing what the rest of the world does as RESPONSIBLE ADULTS -- earning the living that allows us to PAY THE BILLS that happen every day!
NOW is the time to be REALISTIC and move on ... and you need to reflect on whether or not you want to support this person financially all your life or not ... NO ONE can make that choice for you, YOU must make that CHOICE for YOUR SELF ...
Sounds to me as if there is a bit of hustling on his part going on (he is looking at you as a "sugar momma" -- not a good thing!) and doing all he can to DELAY his entry to responsible adulthood.
2006-12-28 13:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by sglmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll just address the question and not all the ink. ALL dreams are just dreams! That's why you wake up in the morning!
2006-12-28 13:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, he should work on something he feels he really can be successful on.
2006-12-28 13:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by sPrInG LiLY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋