What's the best way to get back at the woman who slept with my husband?

Question

they had a year long affair. she slept in my bed, put her son in my baby's crib, and had sex in the backseat of my suv. I want revenge and sadly, the way i want best to get it is illegal. Any ideas?

I just wanted to add that I am not looking over his guilt by any stretch of the imagination and honestly, I am dealing pretty well with my anger. I just lay in bed thinking about this all the time. They WORK TOGETHER and see each other ever day. It's just driving me insane. I am still with him, but obviously don't trust him and ever detail that I find out about their relationship just makes me that much more disgusted. I know I just should be angry with him, but I can't help but hating her. I know her. I've talked to her. She also is married and has a son just a few months younger than mine. My husband wants me to call her family to tell them what she did so that she can "suffer" like he is. I wish he didn't care. I wish I didn't care.

Answer 1

I am so sorry this has happen to you however there is a innocent child involved, so be realistic first the person you should be angry with is the one you are with, he made a vow and broke it, as for the other person involved she doesn't know you to care how you feel so of course she is a bi--atch and a loser, I would divorce him, he obvious did not appreciate or love you enough to consider your feelings and he works with her I would be make him quit his job then leave him on the under, it's your life, live it well there are so many people who would treat you better but you will never know until you move on , I hope you will make the right decision remember the little one that is your life.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

As someone who has lived through being cheated on, those angry feelings are completely normal. However, I really think you are probably feeling the hurt and betrayal that your husband caused you. If you are laying in bed thinking about ways to "get even" with her, you are obviously still hurting very much...which I would be too. However, hurting her might make you feel justified in the short term, it won't do a thing to take away your pain or help you trust your husband in the long run.
I know when it happend to me I wished terrible STD's on the woman, I wanted to rip her hair out, I just was so hurt and angry. But in the end, I had to face the fact that it was my husband that had cheated on me....not her. It was him that had broken my heart. I hope that helps, but I know it isn't what you were looking for.

Answer 4

I am terribly sorry that this has happened to you. I know if my husband had cheated on me with another woman I would be angry at both of them. Just remember your husband played the part in the infidelity as well. The only thing you can do now is to heal yourself and work on your relationship with your husband. I know that you are so pissed off right now and you have every right to be because it hurts so much. Perhaps try some couple therapy.

Answer 5

The best revenge is by being the bigger person.. be angry with your husband only. Do not say a word to her, that will actually get to her because she is expecting your revenge. Sometimes silence can be the greatest revenge ( it may not seem so now but wait and see, she might come and apologise one day).

I believe that you are hurt but by doing something dump you might actually get more hurt then this..I know this is easier said than done Time..give it Time...

DON"T DO ANYTHING STUPID AND ALL THE BEST

Answer 6

You need to find yourself a new man that will make you happy and help you forget them both. If he is handome enough then she will wish she had him too. Let her keep the leftovers (your exhusband). You be happy and don't look back, they don't even deserve each other. Make them feel worse by being nice to them and just be sweet so that they can see that they only made you a favor. And thank her for taking the garbage out of your house. I promise that when you let go of the revengeful thought, you will find peace within. Then follows love and happiness. I was cheated on twice by both husbands and getting revenge on both of them only made me miserable till this day. We can't change time, only our actions. God Bless!

Answer 7

Wow! we should be friends.... first I think you should create a fake letter head as if you are from a paternaty place and address it to her husband in a regular envelpoe but have it sent by curier so you know that he gets it hisself. Make him sign for it and only him., On the letter you should address it the the both of them. Make up some story that their son may not be his and that the baby maybe your husbands. Make the precent chance be grater for your husband than hers.
Also put in ther that she needs to have a pap smear because they had abnormalities in the testing and want to make sure everything is okay! Juice it up big time.
Serve thier asses right. Punish your huband too. go to Vikkie secrets and buy some lingurie and put it in a travel bag, leave a peice of the satin hanging out and spray some mans cologne on it. Make his *** pay big time!

Answer 8

my dad had an affair for two years, and the woman he had one with lived in a different continent! he has a bunch of online businesses so he would use that as his alibi to go to england every two months; he told us that he was trying to start some stuff there, too. when my mom found out, my parents began to attend counseling sessions, but the problem persisted, and eventually, a few months ago, my dad told us he wanted a divorce so he could live with her. he left for a few days, and came back crying and told us that he's been looking at pictures of me and my sister and crying himself to sleep every night since he left, and he and the mistress talked and they both agreed that what they've been doing was wrong and that they've decided to forget about everything and move on with their lives, etc. etc. so he came back, and my mom still checks his cell phone and stuff but he hasn't talked to her at all, and they still kind of have problems, but i think that if you can work something like this out with your spouse, you're the strongest person in the world.

so, my advice to you is, try to stay strong. have you and your husband tried to work things out at all? don't always assume that the problem is the one having the affair, there was obviously something wrong with the relationship to begin with.

Answer 9

First of all, don't do anything illegal. ( I found that out the hard way after 15 weeks of anger management counseling)
Nothing you can do will really make you feel better except realizing that nothing good will ever come to her. Karma is a
***** and everything she did to you and your family while she was being "used" will come back on her tenfold. Don't stoop to her
level.

Answer 10

Take him for everything he's worth in the divorce, and take the high road. Act above them and make them feel like scum. And make sure everyone knows how dignified you are and how low they are. Of course you cannot do this by bragging about yourself, sort of defeats the purpose, but word will get around. Better yourself in every way you can and make him see what he's losing for a low life skank like her. Trust me there's no better revenge.