2006-12-28 05:22:29 · 19 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is normal, particularly if you are a person who takes commitments seriously. Whether or not it is advisable in your particular case is another question. You may need a third party to advise you objectively here. What does "plagued" mean? Did it happen once or has it happened multiple times with multiple people? How does your spouse react when confronted? have you confronted him or her? It is hard to advise you with all the facts. I suggest you review all this with a pastor who can advise you better than we can with only limited facts.
2006-12-28 05:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by lmnop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is common! considering the fact which you have relatively worth to your marriage and can get previous the infedelity, it is okay to nevertheless want to have a existence at the same time with your woman! there is no longer something incorrect with that! I even have got here across that a lot of human beings bounce to the tip that Divorce is the only way whilst it comprises Infidelity. it isn't the case! as nicely, human beings can replace, it is not inevitable. as quickly as you enable your spouse comprehend how she harm you, and once you're saying you probably did no longer spend sufficient time along with her, i will inform you it relatively is a good sign that your Love is robust and that i see desire! it is as much as you in case you the two desire Marriage Counseling, yet, in case you could communicate out your thoughts, it would desire to be all that it takes, to your spouse to be sure the type you experience, and you the two could be ok and initiate over. you're a solid person and that i've got admire for you which you're mushy relating to the clarification to your spouse's difficulty, and which you do no longer want to end the marriage! God Bless you and enable others see your occasion!
2016-11-24 20:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like more details about the relationship within the marriage, but with the single question you asked, here is my reply...Yes, it is normal if you love your wife, to want to salvage and forgive!BUT, you need to find out if she wants to save your marriage ALSO.It is sad that too many people do not work to keep their marriage together...so many couples file for divorce at the drop of a hat! If you love your partner, then communication is key...ask her what she wants from the marriage .If she is unfaithful, tell her she cannot stay in the marriage by doing so and it is unacceptable to you.This way, you are giving her a choice to change and be the FAITHFUL wife she should be.If she doesn't want to stay in the marriage, best to get out now, rather than dragging it out.
2006-12-28 05:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by ConcernedMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 12:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's as though you asked the question for me...going through the same hell apparently. Infedelity on his part...filing for divorce...reconciling just before the divorce is final then moving back in together with our child. 2 weeks back together he finds out I had a one night stand. I'm a whore. He can't believe I could do this. Blah blah. We finally get to an understanding...peace at last....this past Saturday he attends his company Christmas Party along with this woman he had the fling with....doesn't come home and I find the the two of them at his work...cars parked side by side.... He's still living with me. We cry and get angry. So if you get a kick *** answer....let me know. It hurts. I feel for you if this is a similar situation...
2006-12-28 05:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Brokenconfused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would say it is normal to want to save the marriage. Unfortunately the cold truth is that the odds are against it. Layers of trust and honesty have been shed away and that critical element of a lasting, committed relationship will likely take a very long time to rebuild, if ever.
2006-12-28 05:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal. It's a real blow to the ego to find out you were cheated on. We all tend to wonder if it's something about us that caused it, or if someone else is better than us. If we do work it out even for just a little while we feel better about ourselves.
2006-12-28 05:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just say if unfaithfulness or cheating is involved? Not many people know what that word means. Anyways it depends if the other person keeps on cheating then I say not you shouldn't stay together but if they did it once and stopped doing it then I say you should work it out. That is up to you though no one else can decide but you. But tha's my advice.
2006-12-28 05:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that a marriage can overcome ANYTHING as long as both still love each other. And yes its normal and i think very courageous.
2006-12-28 05:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by NA2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It's co-dependent and cannot be repaired. Once the trust is lost, respect follows and the marriage is almost certain to fail.
2006-12-28 05:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋