How can I tell my friend to stop showing so much cleavage?

Question

I have a female friend in school who think she's so hot and attractive and wears a low cut top that reveals a lot of cleavage like almost everyday. We're good friends, she likes hanging out with me, and we hang out during lunch and we talk a lot during classes together.

I think she's very attractive, especially when she shows cleavage, but a lot of other people in school think she's kind of slut*y, and I don't want people to think that I'm a pimp or think wrongly of me cause I hang out with her. A lot of people give us looks when we hang out together. What should I do?

I'm NOT gay lmao

Answer 1

So what if those people think that? They're just jealous and insecure, don't let them bother you or her.

Answer 2

Women sometimes do best, feel best, when you tell them what you like. Sometimes women don't like criticism -- even constructive criticism. So if you can be really patient, you might wait until she wears something that's not too revealing and then tell her that you think she looks great in it. When she shows too much skin, don't comment on her appearance. When she dresses appropriately reinforce it by telling her she looks great.

If, and only if, she brings up the fact that you only tell her she looks good when she's not showing a lot of skin, then tell her that you think she's a fine looking woman and that she doesn't need to show a lot of cleavage to be attractive.

Leave out all the stuff about what people think about you. (I mean, do you really care that much?) Focus your mind on the fact that you want your friend to be respected.

But I still think the best course is to compliment her whenever she dresses the way you like. If she likes you, she'll respond.

Good luck, man.

Answer 3

She's insecure. Insecure women feel the need to put what they have on display instead of feeling secure about the other qualities they have to attract men. Have a talk about how she feels about herself and why she wears her low cut tops. Does she have other physical attributes she is trying to hide? (many women who don't want someone looking at say...an over-sized rear end... will do this to direct your eyes to their chest) My guess is she is basking in the attention it gets her. Once she feels more secure about her intelligence, personality and other attributes, she'll realise that sexy is a state of mind, not a state of clothing or undress and she'll pull back and dress with the idea to leave something to the imagination, with confidence that she'll still attract men. (and she'll attract the right ones this time!)

Answer 4

There is some weird hormonal thing that kicks in for young adults that make some individuals wear goofy clothes. Enormous baggy jeans that you have to hold up to keep on your body, dew rags, tight, tight hip-huggers that give you permanent plumbers crack, bra straps showing under tank tops. Every one of these is a fashion abomination.

The wearer is convinced that she/he is the hottest thing since sliced bread and they are just oozing personal style. In reality she/he looks utterly ridiculous. Some girls think that "sexy" means showing their whole goody bag to the world (see Paris Hilton) Where in actuality, it is much more sexy and alluring to get his imagination running while.

This unattractive and ill-considered phase in a young person's life we call, "the unfortunately years."

The thought of the headband, leg warmers and mall-hair I thought were so rockin' in the early 80s, now make me want to cringe with shame. Personal style is someone one has to find for oneself and it takes time to find oneself.

Be a good friend, be there to her, lend her a sweatshirt when you can, but relax and enjoy her company and yourself.

Answer 5

Tell her your concerns about this. Tell her exactly what you wrote but you must accept her for who she is and not worry about everybody else's opinion. People will talk regardless. But let her know that she would be so much more attractive if she showed a lil less. Leave something to the imagination so to speak.

Answer 6

It's her life, her body, and unless the school officials have a problem with her cleavage then mind your own business. If you are uncomfortable being seen with her as she is, find someone who you approve of to be seen with. You sound shallow and hypocritical. You like her cleavage but don't like anyone else liking it. Grow up hypocrite. Looks like you need to wear a turtleneck to cover you cleavage mouth.

Answer 7

Talk to her about it. Tell her that although cleavage gets attention, it's not the kind typically desired and that you've heard people make unkind comments about girls who use cleavage to get attention. Hopefully she'd rather people pay her attention for who she is, than than her cup size. Especially if she's still school-age...

Answer 8

try to give her a bit of male perspective about how she might be perceived when she wears low cut tops. If she's a good friend you really shouldn't be worried about what other people think about her so much. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

Dude if you like her don't worry about what everyone else thinks! Follow your heart, but if some days she is showing a lil to much then (jokingly) say your boobs are popping out cover those puppy's up... then maybe she will get the hint.

Answer 10

You need to tell her too much of a good thing isn't good for you. She is only asking for trouble. She is basically telling rapist's and pedophiles here I am come and get me. Where are her parents? And why are they not telling her she can't dress like that at school?

Answer 11

Express your concern to your friend and talk it out. Also I wouldn't be too worried about what other people think...........you know the truth and that is all that matters.