Im 7 months pregnant and Im starting to get very afraid (im 23)...is it really that bad??? when u were giving birth was ur husband down there looking.....did it ruin ur sex life afterward...Im afraid that may happen......am I just over reacting???
2006-12-28 04:49:17 · 24 answers · asked by martha95355 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
1. It really wasnt that horrible, i survived lol. It hurts of course but its not unbearable.
2. My husband was holding my legs and stayed up by my head.
3. It didnt ruin my sex life at all
2006-12-28 04:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a completely normal phase. At a certain point, every woman realizes that, no matter how supportive her partner is, how good her doctor is, how reknowned her hospital is, it is SHE who must actually get the baby out. At a certain point, your fear will turn into "I'll do anything to get this over with".
My husband and I had agreed he would be up by my head when the baby started coming out. When that moment came, the nurse (not knowing our plans) forced my husband to hold my leg up! He was right in the thick of things and he's very glad he was there now. And it has not hurt our sex life either.
The pain of labor is immense, but you will make it. Labor lasts for 1 day of your life, at most. And I say all the time I'd do it again for another beautiful child like my daughter.
I highly recommend "The Birth Book" By William Sears. There are lots of birth stories written by real women that I found comforting at the stage you are at. I also thought the authors discussion of labor options (drugs/c-section, vaginal, etc) was very thorough.
2006-12-28 13:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by harrisnish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is normal, you are about to become a mother for the first time. Labor is not that bad unless you make it that way. If you want an epidural get one, if you don't don't. If you choose not to I would suggest you go into labor with an open mind. And with each contraction think of the beautiful reward in the end. And after it is all over you don't even remember the pain it caused. My husband did not get all grossed out by what was going on down there, I think he just saw our beautiful baby. No it did not ruin our sex life. I think all women are afraid that their husband is going to look at them in a different way, but in the end he is still your husband and still has those needs.
2006-12-28 12:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving birth can be a very joyous experience. Things can go wrong but as long as everyone is healthy in the end it is all worth it. I have had three boys, my first at age 22. I was in labor for 32 hours with him and I won't lie, it was not easy and it was painful but as soon as it is all over you forget all the pain that u endured toi give birth to such a precious part of u. As far as your husband goes, if he loses interest then he is a very shallow person. The experience he receives forn watching u bear his child should be a wonderful exoerience for him as well. I f i were u I would just take it easy and not worry about what is going to happen until it happens. Good luck
2006-12-28 12:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by mccoy_jaimee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started to get scared about that time, too, with my first:) I had the epidural and it was a wonderful delivery. Sure it hurt, but I can't even remember the pain, just that it did hurt. I actually changed my mind once I was pushing..."Okay! I'm Done! I wanna go home!!" Of course it was too late:) No it isn't that bad, otherwise I wouldn' be 18 weeks pregnant with my second! My husband watched everything with our first and it didn't affect our sex life at all:) Now that I'm pregnant and knowing everything he knows about pregnancy and birth, he very much loves my pregnant body:) I still do get a little anxious thinking of the delivery:) Its perfectly natural! I'm more so excited to experience that wonderful experience again!
2006-12-28 14:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that bad, my husband was there when my baby was born, and you really don't think about all that, and after you can't have sex for 6 weeks so you can heal up, but as for our sex life it got even better when we could start, don't be afraid of all that stuff. Just look forward to the blessing of having a baby, there will be pain but its worth it. If you have any questions or need any advice email me djd832001@yahoo.com
2006-12-28 12:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, those are very normal concerns for first time mommies. It is scary and painful giving birth, especially the first time b/c you dont' know what to expect. But breathing excersises really help out a lot and help distract you from the pain. Yes, hubby will see down there, but it WILL NOT destroy your sex life. Your husband seeing that side of you is very special, and it is something that he will always remember, not in a bad way, but the day that your offspring came into the world. Let him see! It's ok!
It is hard, I won't lie, but the best part is when your baby is born and they lay him/her on your chest and you see them for the first time. As soon as that happens, you forget about how bad it hurt.
2006-12-28 12:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax!!!! It is all human nature! It really is not that bad. I had my first child at 23 also. My sex life is not ruined. Two years later number two is on the way! Yes my husband did watch the birth, he switched between down there and standing at my head. He said it was amazing and would not have changed it at all. I recommend the epidural, after that it is all smooth sailing! Good luck and enjoy it. It is the greatest miracle... LIFE!!!
2006-12-28 12:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by booker K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had my baby a month ago. it really isn't that bad. just keep telling yourself that you can do it and that it isn't bad. the worst you can do is is tell yourself that it's going to be horrible. have a positive attitude. my husband was really good though all 30-odd hours. he kept trying to make jokes though, then i gave him a look that could kill and he shut it, lol. he was talking to my dr about dogs eating their placentas or some other junk and it was weird. afterwards, it didn't ruin our sex life. it'll be awhile that you don't want to have sex 'cause it's sore down there and your husband might get a bit impatient but it'll be okay. he'll survive. maybe you guys can come up with some unique ways to have fun without having intercourse. everything will be just fine.
2006-12-28 13:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my ex was more concerned about the baby rather than what I was pushing out. It didn't ruin our sex life. He did watch my daughter being born, but he was more proud of me than anything. It is NOT bad to be afraid! Giving birth is one of the most difficult things you'll ever do! You are not alone. Just relax and let things come as they may.
2006-12-28 12:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 when i had my first baby too, congrats. It was painful, but I had an easy labor considering stories that I've heard. My husband looked a little, my son came out kinda fast, not much time to look. It shouldn't ruin your sex life, but I guess that depends on your marriage. Overall, its not that bad. Try not to stress.
2006-12-28 13:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by valedictorian13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋