I only have my side of the story and I'm trying to understand her prespective so I'm going to try to respresent the situation the best I can. Please keep this in mind. The situation- You and your partner live together. Your partner is the one who does most of the cooking and fixes lunch for work for both of you each day. Lately you and your partner have been argueing alot about your weight. Your partner feels you are not eating and you have lost to much weight. You feel you are just not hungry and although have lost wieght do not feel it is a problem. Lately you and your partner have been busy in the evening so your parnter is making breakfast in the am (when they are not quite awake). Therefore they have been making some mistakes. For example this am your partner meant to pack you a chicken patty sandwhich however forgot to pack the bun (only packed lettuce, cheese and the patty- also packed sweet potato fries, carrots, cookies, ketchup for the sandwhich and honey for the fries)....
2006-12-28 04:43:36 · 9 answers · asked by tana 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yesterday yor partner told you they were stressed witht he food responsibilites becasue they were afraid if they didn't cook you wouldn't eat (which would be a problem becasue of your current weight). On the ride into work your partner realized they forgot to pack the bun. your repsonse "great I guess I just won't eat then, I'm not going to eat a patty without a bun that is gross". Your partner suggested you cut the patty up and eat eat like nuggets, you response "but I like to dip the nuggets". Your partner topld you they packed honey. Your response "you can pack honey but not a bun". Your partner told you they meant to pack it for they fries. So here's my question; would you have been mad because your parnter got the lunch wrong? Would you have responsed in the same way considering the conversation you had yesterday and the issues you guys have been argueing about.
2006-12-28 04:44:26 · update #1
FYI- I am the one that packs the lunch. I'm just trying to understand why she got so angry at me this a.m. and if there is a point of view I may be missing.
2006-12-28 04:52:43 · update #2
I'm sorry, but I have to laugh, not "at" you but with you.
Seriously, it's kind of silly to argue about a freakin' bun if you think about it.
Yes, my partner and I have had similarly stupid arguments, but we get over it. It's typical in any partnership to argue over little things like who forgot to pack the bun in the lunch. So what? Really, in the grand sceam of things it's really a non-issue.
So, you forgot to pack the bun. You were hurried and tired. It happens. If your partner is that upset about it, maybe she does need to eat more. Maybe she needs to see a doctor if she's recently lost a lot of weight for no reason.
Look for other clues to a medical condition, such as drinking a lot of water, craving fruit...paticularly ones high in potaseum like bananas and pineapple....hair loss, vision complaints. You've already mentioned irratability, these all combined may be symptoms of either diabetes(hyperglycemia) or hypoglycemia(low blood sugar levels).
If you notice other clues, suggest she see her doctor...but do so in a loving, compassionate way.
My partner was like that to me just before she was diagnosed with diabetes. She was craving fruit, always seemed thirsty, irratable, was complaining that her vision seemed to be getting worse...I suggested she might want to see her doctor, if only to make sure there wasn't something going on.
Unfortunately, there really was something wrong, but the good news is we have had it under control for several years now and all the petty stupid arguments have stopped.
Now we only argue about the big things! LOL
Anyway, good luck.
2006-12-28 05:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if I were the partner I would tell you to fix your own lunch then if you don't like it. Why is the partner the only one to cook and make lunches. Ever heard of helping out? I also would tell you to stop arguing about such small, insignificant things in life. There are much more important things than a bun in your lunch. Get over it. Stop at a gas station and buy some bread.
2006-12-28 04:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, if my fiance got a dollar for every time i forgot to do something for him, he'd be a very wealthy man. your partner obviously has a lot on her mind, and it's causing her to make a few mild mistakes, it's really not something to make a big deal out of. i make mistakes every day, i'm such a mess sometimes, but my fiance accepts that i get frazzled sometimes and don't do things that i should. you should try to talk to her to see if there's some underlying problem that is weighing on her mind and keeping her from being 100%.
it's good that she worries about your weight, that means she pays attention and cares about you very much. the only way you can stop that argument is to go get yourself checked out by a doctor and discuss your weight loss with them. if the doc says there's a problem, then you will be given instructions about how to maintain a healthy weight. if the doc says that nothing's wrong, then your partner can't keep harping on you about the issue.
just try to not sweat the small stuff, what matters is that you are together, and you both care for and love each other. best of luck.
2006-12-28 05:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really i think you are blowing this way out of proportion. What's the big deal. From now on let her pack her own lunch or make sure you put something together that she likes. As far as the weight thing goes if you feel ok then dont worry. Maybe your mind isnt on packing lunches and its somewhere else.
2006-12-28 05:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People argue over the stupidest things. Generally this is to mask underlying issues; which they daren't or don't know they need to discuss.
Is it really just her weight and whether or not you've packed the lunch box right? Perhaps you both need to have a think about what is going on in your lives and then have a REAL discussion.
2006-12-28 05:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lunch thing is irrelavant. they are doing a nice thing and everyone makes mistakes. the bigger issue here is ur weight. If we are talking a significant weight loss and ur dietary habits have not been changed signifcantly then u may have a serious health issue that needs to be addressed. sudden and rapid weight loss without a significant change in diet or food intake is often a sign of a serious health condition.
2006-12-28 04:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she m ust be angry cuz she might not be prefering to eat out,n ur sending her food which she doesn't like ...as its but natural for a person whhos working out,.to get hyper at small things,n this is rather a big thing(her daily food)which is irritating her....u either let her eat out or u try to make what she wants cuz this way ure not helping anyone of u two...All the best.God Bless!
2006-12-28 05:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by kawal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have thanked them for fixing me lunch - especially since it's not their forte. Then If I didn't find it satisfactory, I would not have eaten it but kept that fact to myself. After work or whatever, I would tell them how much I appreciated the meal but they forgot the bun which is important for energy and weight gain;) No sense in borrowing trouble.
2006-12-28 04:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lilith 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm...i'm a pick your battle kinda gal....and this just doesn't seem like a worthy one to me......either you each pack your own lunch or double check your bag before you leave to make sure it's all there....bun included....life is too short to be this petty.
2006-12-28 04:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋