I'm interested in going to cooking school, and my parents weren't exactly fond of the idea (but warming up to it) but then I thought I might be interested in psychology and my mom was so happy and thought that was the best thing I could possibly do and really kind of pushed it. Like she made me take an AP Psychology course. I think its partly because she knows i'm patient and sensitive and also because I think she might've wanted to do it a while ago. But now I'm not so interested in it and I don't want to let her down.
2006-12-28 04:38:12 · 12 answers · asked by leena 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Just as Rob said, tell your parents - they will understand. They may seem disappointed, but when it comes down to it, they want what's best for you and they want you happy. Honesty is always the best policy. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 04:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Peachz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the things I regret most is not changing my major when I had the chance. If you're not happy, you won't do well in your major. My parents made me stick with Comp Sci and I ended up failing out of a major state university. I finished in community college, but only with an AA because that's not what I wanted to do. I wanted to start writing. Now I have a job at a magazine, I'm going back to community college to get my pre-req's for an English degree at a private college and I couldn't be happier.
College is the start of your life as an adult. Part of being an adult is recognizing your wishes for your life ahead of those of your parents. More than anything, your parents want you to be successful. For most parents, this translates (incorrectly) to making a lot of money. Psychology is a proven big money field, but you don't hear of many multi-millionaire cooks. Don't worry about money. If you're doing what you love, success will come because you are driven to succeed by a passion for what you are doing. The money will come once you reach a level of success that you find fulfilling.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 12:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to matters of how to spend your life, the most important thing, after all, is not to let YOURSELF down. Your parent may seem disappointed when you don't do what they encourage you to do, but overall, the biggest disappointment they could possibly have is if you are not true to yourself and do not follow your heart's desire. All parents, deep down, want their children to be successful and happy. Sometimes those things don't exactly appear to go hand in hand, so that makes a parent nervous. Do what you feel you must, but respect the fact that they will worry and try to get you to do what they believe is right for you. Stick to your guns.
2006-12-28 12:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please, please.... just be honest with her. She only desires you to have happiness in all you do. She is pleased you looked into psych as an option and will be pleased to know you checked it out and found your interest was not there. This is NOT failure... it is the best way to learn about life. You tried and it did not work for you ( just make sure you did make an honest attempt- not for Mom but for you ). In addition, it is not only important to be honest with your parents but to be honest with yourself. Now you can look to other interests in your studies and figure out what does work for you. Make a list of the different careers that interest you and learn about them and their advantages and disadvantages. Becoming a chef is not a bad career tho it does mean working on holidays. You go and see your school councelor to learn of the many options avilable in careers. They even have a test you an take to find out career areas that will be compatable to your needs and interest. Many students switch majors a few times. This is ok also. Sometimes people will even work at deceiving themselves out of fear to deal with the truth. Always be honest with yourself (and others) as this will lead to a better quality of life for your entire future.
William Shakespeare wrote: 'This above all to thine own self be true." Carry this quote in your wallet and live by it.
Now... find out your interest and take the time to study hard and make yourself happy. Keep the partying down as once you've finished your school goal, you will have plenty of fun time afterward... and a good job that will afford you to live a good life.
2006-12-28 13:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 up and 3 down.
Write down three advantages the you believe cooking has over psychology.
Then write down three disadvantages that cooking has against psychology.
Discuss this with your parents based on what you want.
Follow your passion and make a plan. You won't let her down if you stay committed to your dreams.
2006-12-28 12:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by houss001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you can actually have a future in culinary school rather than being a shrink. State all the negatives of being a psychologist, and that you can get affected from working with mentally ill people. State that you ACTUALLY ENJOY COOKING MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE.
2006-12-28 12:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by EC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your parents. It will make you feel relief with yourself. Believe that you are not doing anything wrong in studying what you want. Your parents will understand.
Good luck
2006-12-28 13:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by kyonkers1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents really care, they will be happy that you are getting an education in what you'll be happy with, and what you can make money with.
-Chris
2006-12-28 13:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by christopher_kitchens562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them.
2006-12-28 13:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by cleanguy4cleanfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her... live your life like you want to not how other people want you to
2006-12-28 12:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by eldridgejoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋