URRRG this makes me soo angry (i beg of you, plz answer!!)?

Question

my mom agreed to taking us shoipping today for the first itme in 2 yrs.!!!! and then i ask her if we r going and she starts shouting at me !!! she has major health issues and major depression, and i have slight deppresion (the kind of when its not enough to prescribe u anything) and she is deffinatly not helping !!!!!

i mean like mental issues, liek shes always at work. we own a restraunt and evan on christmas she went over there and and worked, when it was closed. o yea and ps. remember i said 2yrs i have nuthin 2 wear

Answer 1

Broken promises hurt real bad, especially when they come from your parent's.
My mum suffered from depression. She never admitted it, never did anything about it but it would be like, on eminute she's sweet and lovey and the next she was screaming at me uncontrolably for no reason whatsoever.
You do have a right to be upset. 2 years is a long time to not go shopping. I wuold go just about as long for new clothes, highschool was embarrasing when you don't have nice shoes or shirts. I just learned to be patient.
My mum was a single parent and worked 2 jobs, on a parent that is very stressful as it is.
How old are you? Is there any way you could get a part time job or volunteer to help your mum at the restaurant. Maybe she feels overwhelmed with her duties and responsiblities.
I'm 23 and i have 2 young girls and one due in May. Wher i stay at home and my husband works it is still incredibly stressful at times.
We snap at our kids but we honestly don't mean to.
Your mum should appologize to you for yelling. That is important and what's also important is you give her a hug and tell her you love her. That you understand she's got alot on her plate to deal with and perhaps you both could talk about how you both feel.
Getting feelings out in the open can be a huge relief. Your mum is sick. And depression hurts, you know that because you feel it. Giver her a hug, she sounds like she needs it and you too. Ask her if she needs any help with anything, even if you do already, just ask.....consideration goes a long long way! I learned that with my mum. I'd ask on the odd occasion, do you need a hand, she'd say no, but snap at me later on for being lazy! (sigh) I started doing things on my own accord such as hoovering, dusting, cooking, making her a drink, offering things, went a long way and she stopped yelling so much. Shame really. I moved all the way to Texas and she's in England and i only realized all my faults when i had my first child.
After you've had a nice long talk or she's calmed down just say nicely, mum, i know you can be busy and i don't want to bother you but would it be possible to have a couple bucks to go get me a new pair of jeans or shoes because i'm outgrowing these ones and laugh and say it's crazy how quickly you grow, she might smile, my mum does now when i remind her that i was once my child's size.
Good luck and giver her a hug for the both of yus!

Answer 2

well you cant really do much about her... you cant get ride of her depression... but just try and block it out... its only causing you more stress--something you dont need to be having at this age... do you have money?... take the bus over to the mall (or somewhere cheaper like kmart or something...to save you money) and just buy clothes yourself..... or try and catch her when she's in a good mood, and her deprission isnt making her angry. .. and ask her for some money so you can go shopping....if that doesnt work..... where's your dad at?.. try and ask him. or another family member, an aunt uncle... someone close to you... try and do things around your neighborhood to earn some money..... you shouldnt have to do any of this just to be clothed well..... but it seems as if its the only way.... but just ignore when she yells out you... im sure she isnt really angry at you, its just the depression getting the best of her.....
stay strong and im sure you will be fine

good luck =]

Answer 3

i think u should get ur money an go shopping!!! (mayb wit a close friend or cousin or anyone)
mayb sumthins botherin ur mom or sumthing, an she isn't able to overcome watever it is. but remeber no matter wat none of this is ur fault (or is it :S) anyways if it really has nothing to do with u, an shes not even ready to open or talk to u....u should not be the one suffering. u shouldn't totally rebel against her or never go home ever again, just do what u think is nessesary (sry sp) for urself. like if u need some new clothes....go get some girl!!! ;)

anyways i wish everything turns all right for u

Answer 4

your right to be angry. she should not promise you things if she is not going to follow through with it. its hard on you and im sure that you are too young to have to deal with this. however. you should just give her her space and try not to confront her. more so for your sake then hers. that way she does not shout at you and it does not make you angry and set off your depression. relax. call a friend and see if there mother or father can take you and her shopping good luck and i really hope things get better for you.

Answer 5

Unfortunately,your mom has a disease, Just like others have cancer, diabetes ...etc. Although it is difficult, you need to understand that she is sick and you need to care for her. She does the best she could and I'm sure she wishes she was not sick. Appreciate the good times you've had with your mom and maybe when she feels better she will go out with you. Best of luck.

Answer 6

Try to not pay any attention to her. That's the only solution I see here. If she's having a depression I don't think talking to her might help, even if she agrees with you, next time she gets angry, she'll yell at you again.

Answer 7

i have to deal with the same thing everyday! just remember it's your life, and don't let miserable people get in the way of it. Just act as if its her problem, and not yours. Just end the convo immediately when her voice starts to raise. you know no mater what you say she'll get pissed off, even if your right. Its hard to deal with it i know. It always seems like they focus on their problems and don't pay attention to yours. Don't worry, and be tough.

Answer 8

Well, if you have slight and she has major take how you feel and multiply it by 10 thousand.

If that is how you feel imagine how she feels!

Now, back off your mother.

I thought about this some more. You say that your mother has major health and depression issues. Then you want to get mad at her for not taking you shopping? Your mother is sick and upset and could be gone any day. How would you feel if she was gone tomorrow? Probably pretty stupid for being mad that she didn't take you out for new shoes. Please do you and your mother a favor and grow up.

Answer 9

maybe you should try speaking to a schol nurse or guidance councellor, maybe even your doctor about how your are feeling. if your mum has depression she is unwell and cannot help how she is acting most of the time. maybe you could try spending some time with your mum talking ?? hope this helps

Answer 10

well- the same thing happened to me!! first you grab your mom by the neck and shake her!!! then you drag her to the car! and then you throw her out of the car while your driving! make sure there are no witnesses! then you leave her unconcious on the side of the freeway! but you also have to make sure she is wearing a deer costume...so she looks like road-kill! if you have anymore questions or comments e-mail me at [e-mail]
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