My bf asked me to be her maid of honor and i was thirlled to say yes. well now the best man is my ex who I cheated on my husband with when we were sating (i didnt sleep with him), I do not want to cause problems with my husband by being around my ex. My husband hates the thought of me even seeing him around the town. so What should I do? ask my bf to let me just be a bridemaid and I will still be a part of the wedding or just drop out all together to mek my husband happy and piss of my bf?
2006-12-28 04:29:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to speak with you BF about the arrangements of seating and activities up to and around to the wedding itself. I'm sure your BF knows what is going on, I hope, and will understand that your husband will be at your side at all times.
Sit down with your husband and tell him that for every event your ex is around he will be at your side. Let him feel secure that you are not using this as an opportunity to be next to the ex. If it becomes a huge issue you may want to back out now before you leave your BF hanging.
2006-12-28 04:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say this twist of fate is very unfortunate but dont let it cause problems with your husband. Ask to be a bridesmaid so you dont have to be paired up with him. If your BF cant be understanding, then she has a learn about marriage and maybe isnt realy your best freind. Avoid him at the wedding and make sure you tell your husband how much you love him on that day and tell him there are no feelings for that guy anymore. Even if there are, tell him there's none. Guys need to not feel like they are competing for their own wife.
2006-12-28 04:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by shellybelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband attending the wedding? This is one of the biggest days of your best friend's life. Why ruin it with your drama? Clearly your husband does not trust you yet if you can't be around this guy in a very public setting. You should tell your husband that you want to be there for your friend on her big day. Be the matron of honor. If your husband can't handle you being in a wedding with this guy, then you have bigger problems to deal with.
2006-12-28 04:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
occasion with the different bridesmaids and tell the MOH you won't be able to discover the money for what she has planned and if she insists on doing it that way she would be able to pay for all of it. additionally tell her you're unlikely to bypass alongside with ingesting. an excellent form of bridal showers are held at somebody's domicile or apt with a fowl caesar salad or different low calorie dish and a sheet cake for dessert and should no longer cost too lots. that's a luncheon. very few people bypass out to a cafe or spend an excellent form of money on a shower. A stripper is ridiculous and an excellent form of brides do no longer take care of that. an excellent form of people have a spa evening instead of a no longer uncomplicated center bachelorette social gathering.
2016-10-19 02:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame your husband for being annoyed, he should have just left you then there would not have been this problem. But since that is not the case, I'd say be the maid of honor. This is your friend's day, not yours or your husbands.
2006-12-28 04:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by d_magical_s_sweetness 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weather your a brides maid or a maid of honor your still in the wedding and because she's your bf your still going to see him alot because she will be married to him I think you should still be the maid of honor.
2006-12-28 04:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by colormespoiled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends are forever. Who did you have first, your husband or your bf? Your husband needs to get over it, especially if he will be attending the wedding with you.
2006-12-28 04:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say talk to your husband about it...all you have to do is walk next to him for 30 seconds...or you can ask your friend to change the walk. maybe the best man can already be next to the groom and you can walk by your self...then you just have to walk out you know...ether way let your hubby know that you know how he feels and that you want to respect him and also your best friend (who will hopefully will only be getting married once)
good luck!!!
2006-12-28 04:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by hollie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a committment, and your best friend should mean more to you that any discomfort you may have from a past experience. Just resolve to act like an adult, make your hubby promise the same, and the day should go smoothly.
2006-12-28 04:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its alright if your husband gets mad tell him you dont mean it its just part of the wedding and you dont want to emss it up so tell him u will push your ex out of your life after the wedding.
2006-12-28 04:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Push Play for Jonas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋