Hasn't Feminism Benefitted Men More Than The Women??

Question

Feminists are trying to create an equal world for men and women, which at the basis is a noble idea.

However, hasn't it sort of backfired and made it even easier for men to exploit women?

I mean, aside from the educational standpoint and the equal jobs available to women, haven't women, as a part of society suffered due to feminism? It seems like it to me.

Let's look at history:

Before the onset of feminism, men everywhere were fighting for the affection of women. They wrote poems and love letters. They had to respectfully ask the parents for their daughter's hand etc. Most women got married and had families. Men had to make serious efforts to get the affection of a woman and to get laid.

But today, after feminism has "liberated" women, just look at the state of women. They have multiple sexual partners by the time they reach 20. Over 95% have sex before marriage and are no longer virgins by the time they get married. Over 50% of kids in the US are born to unwed mothers.

Tons of struggling single moms having to run a household by themselves.

Men using women for sex all over the place. Women having their hearts broken multiple times in their lives, which is making many of them turn to other women and become lesbians because they are sick of men.

So can somebody sit here and tell me that women are happier today that they are free?

It seems like they are only free to get abused and used. I guess that's equality then. Screw everyone equally.

Society used to cherish women.

Answer 1

I'm not saying yes or no, I just find your own answer to be careless enough logic-wise. To continue your logic...
Before feminism... men could beat the crap out of any woman and get away with it as long as they were married. Before... women had to wait until a man came along before she could become an adult. Before ... I would have been stuck with an alcoholic who beat me and didn't work and live in poverty. Thanks to feminism, I had a decent job and was able to send my kids to decent schools and break the alcoholism cycle.

Feminism doesn't have much to do with promiscuity, but the development of the pill does. For the first time in history, women could have sex without consequences. Just like men. If 50% of children are born to unwed mothers, those same kids have unwed fathers.

Answer 2

First of all, you need to get your facts straight. 50% (or over) of children in the US are not born to unwed mothers ... far from it. If you’re talking about black and Hispanic children, then yes ... the stats do indicate such a rise in unwed mothers giving birth. If this is what you meant ... then you should state that, in your question.

Also, how does one know whether or not a woman CHOOSES to become a single mother or not? We, as women, are in a time where we can choose the kind of lifestyle we want. If we want to be a single parent, we now have the financial means to do so. Because more mature women (over 20 y/o) are choosing to become a single parent, does, by no means ... indicate that feminism has hindered us in any way.

Last, but not least ... who made the rule that women are supposed to be virgins at the time they wed? Society is finally coming to the realization, that females are just as sexually needful, as men are. The Neanderthal way of thinking... that women should only have sex, when approached by a man ... is gone. We may now approach men, when we feel that our physical needs are not being met.

So, in answering your question ... no, women have not been "knotting our own noose" ... so to speak. We've come a long way in the past 20 or so years ... and we still have a long road ahead of us ... one that leads to fairness, on the part of women.

Answer 3

I think you have a short sighted view of what feminism brought women.

Yes, like everything there is a pro and a con, a good and a bad thing. Nothing is ever perfect.

Before feminism, a woman couldn't own or do anything without the backing of a male. Not to mention, women were abused often because it was considered a normal thing to do, especially in marriage.

Women were very vulnerable to the ways of men who didn't mind taking advantage of them at the time.

Stop looking at it from a bubble perspective: It seems like women are "suffering" because maybe just MAYBE men are NOT picking up the slack where it comes to child rearing and housework responsibility?

Feminism hasn't made men less responsible.

Men have just simply dropped the ball and hope women are going to continue carrying their burden for them, coddling their egos like they did BEFORE feminism.

Why should cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids still be a "woman's" job?

You guys don't even want to do it yet you insinuate that WOMEN were probably better off doing what they were doing before femininsm: sitting at home being a homemaker/housewife.

It's the so-called "greatest" profession in the world yet it's the profession men hate doing the most. Geeeeee....I wonder WHY?

As a man, you can speak about it from this point of view because you don't have to choose between working and having a family. You can have BOTH without sacrificing anything of yourself, at the expense of your masculinity.

But as a woman in the 21st century, I'd much rather be where I am now than be what my grandmother was years ago whose husband abandoned her to raise children by herself.

At least I get to CHOOSE what I want to be....

Answer 4

When do you think "the onset of feminism" began? 1970? Mary Wollstonecroft (1759 - 1797) spoke of the plight of women and the hazards and miseries of being a woman in her book, A Vindication of the Rights of Woman.

Women have historically gotten married and had families - the biggest reason for women to become liberated. It is boring, stifling, soul crushing, thankless montontony. It doesn't pay. It's not considered a job a man would abase himself to do.

Society has NEVER cherished women. Chivalry in the Middle Ages applied to the noble class had women at home breeding and being passive when their parents held "business transactions" to marry them off. The majority of women who were poor remained at home desperately clinging to their virginity, married with varying degrees of success or were locked up in a nunnery. "Cherished" is not the word that comes to mind.

Women don't want men to be fighting for their affections. Women don't want aggressive men. Mature, sane and well-balanced women, that is. Poems and love letters are also written by stalkers and psychopaths who harrass women. And they are men.

Men still have to make a serious effort to get the affection of a GOOD woman. Any woman will bed any man. That's nothing new. Shakespeare made a living telling stories like that.

If women have multiple sex partners by the time they are 20, who are they having sex with? Perhaps men? Why aren't men's sexual exploits an outrage to you? Why are women sluts and the same men they sleep with are studs? I suppose you forgot about rape, too. That, too, must be a woman's fault, right?

If unwed mothers are having so many kids, who's having sex with them and then not taking responsiblity? At least a single mother will likely take care of her children and not walk into the sunset, as many men will do.

How many MEN have gone to jail in the beginning of the 20th century for being bad fathers?

Don't worry about feminism and how it's affecting women. Maybe you should volunteer at a woman's crisis shelter or rape centre and get the real information.

Answer 5

at the start, feminism is in step with being equivalent to all people. with the flexibility to have a job, getting paid the comparable quantity as a guy, etc. they do no longer concentration on hating or bashing adult adult males. that's the main suitable factor of feminism. Feminism additionally believes in civil rights for minorities besides. the two way, whether feminism did no longer exist, single mothers nevertheless had to get a job. detrimental women people have been continuously able to hold a job, it replaced into the girls people who have been born into money who wanted the rights till now feminism replaced into based.

Answer 6

I guess in some ways you are right .Instead of being given equal responsibilities,more and more work is being heaped on women.And in their enthusiasm to show that they are equal if not better than men,women are taking up more than the fair share of work.So a man thinks,if she(wife,mother, daughter) can do it alone ,why should I pitch in to help.So feminism has sort of backfired.But there are some plus points too.The financial liberation,sexual liberation and the cofidence that she can manage anything alone--this surely overshadows all the negativities of feminism

Answer 7

Every woman has different life choices she can make. Feminism benefits the woman who has the strength in her to say NO to any man, and have the confidence to succeed in life. Women can be hurt in many ways in today's society I admit, but it really depends on whether a woman follows her instinct when danger is near. For example, never travel alone at night, ect...

Answer 8

Cherish women, sh!t. Society used to use women as chattel. A man would have to buy his bride. The heavens forfend if a woman didn't fit into the very narrow mold set out for her. Artsy? Intellectual? Independent? Not into motherhood? You were screwed and forced into either a miserable marriage or poverty.

Besides, why do you assume that sex is such a chore for women? I happen to rather enjoy it, and none of my multiple partners used me for sex and then dumped me. Sometimes, we sleep around because we _want_ to, just like men. Weird, I know, but true.

Answer 9

Your "statistic" is wrong, go back and check your facts...35.8% of children are born to unwed mothers (see childtrendsdatabank.org). Still, way too many, but not nearly the "over 50%" you quote. As for the rest of it, you seem to be basing a lot of your "theory" on the sexuality of women. And while I don't agree with promiscuous sex, personally, the fact is that women have a lot more control and "ownership" over their sexuality now than they ever did in the past. Before the sexual revolution and the feminist movement, women did not "own" their sexuality. Before marriage, female sexuality was something to be suppressed, denied, and completely ignored. Not true for men. After marriage, the woman's sexuality essentially belonged to her husband, she could be divorced for not being able to bear children; or if she couldn't have sex at all. And women weren't really supposed to enjoy sex, it was seen as unnatural, or at the very least, unnecessary. As far as women being "exploited" now, it seems to me that they at least have more choice in the matter. Before equal rights for women, women HAD NO CHOICE but to get married and have a family. Today, women have a choice, which makes their decision to become wives and mothers all the more authentic; it is not "forced." And their sexual conduct is of their own choosing now, as well. One could say women were being exploited for their sexuality a great deal more, before the equal rights movement, because society forced them into the role of mothers (through societal norms and expectations, as well as a lack of other opportunities). And women used to be "cherished"? If, by "cherished" you mean, condescendingly fawned over, while being treated as little better than children, with very few rights above those of a child, and with little more respect than a child, then fine. But I would much rather have equality, so that if my husband left me, I could support myself and my children, and I would rather have respect, so that instead of only being valued as a "pretty little baby-maker" I can be valued for my intelligence and what I can contribute to society.

Answer 10

Because every action has an equal and opposite reaction. It is the chain of events that is necessary to create a more equal world. Sometimes change can take take centuries, it isn't always sweetness and roses along the way. HTH : )