still not sure what to do about my situation, should i just say screw it save my money and bail. He has lied to me in the past. We we engagend once. But i don't know what to do about the other woman he was living with when we broke up. Now I am back and he is talking with her about who knows what. I already know he slept with her before christmas.
2006-12-28 04:18:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
id say you could find someone better! you dont need someone that is gonna be sleeping with other girls!!! he sounds like a jerk to me!!
2006-12-28 04:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon! I felt sorry for you after reading your first question but this one has more information. Now I realize how absurd the situation is. HOW CAN YOU BE "stiill not sure what to do..."!!!!!
Do you really expect that this boy will suddenly morph into a responsible trustworthy and loving gentleman whom you can trust with your future? The answer is NO. And frankly, why should he mature when you tolerate his behavior? I hold YOU accountable for the mess you've created here.
Do you know that awful adrenaline/anxiety feeling you have in your chest when he lies and when you know he is with someone else? Well... get used to it. This is your life now and you have no one to blame but yourself!
2006-12-28 04:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by 2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he is still sleeping with this woman, then you need to let it go. You cannot keep doing this to yourself! You need to decided that enough is enough and stop letting him do this to you. I believe that people can change, but they sometimes need a little motivation. Leave him alone and if it's truly meant to be, he will change and come back to you. If not, then you saved yourself from another heart break. He obviously has something going on with this woman and you do not need to stick around to see how many times he can hurt you. Move on to the next (you'll probably find someone better anyway). Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-28 04:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. The second time around is easier now and the first chance he gets he'll do it again, especially when he knows you will forgive him again. The other women he lives with is probably his wife and men never leave there spouse. I can say been there done that. You are in for a rollercoaster ride and need to get off as fast as you got on.
2006-12-28 04:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now that u are back with him, he has again changed his feelings, he is a deal breaker, if he is again sleeping with her, it is a pattern of behavior with him, and he will not change, get rid of him unless u are into heartbreak, let this other woman have him, let her suffer the pain, and u move on in life to someone who doesn't lie and cheat on u. got to have self respect for yourself, takes more than loving someone , u need trust, and once that's gone it is pretty much over with. u do nothing about this other woman, what can u really do about her as she has her own agenda, and obviously could care less about u. he is your problem, he makes the choices here not her, get rid of him or suffer over and over again.
2006-12-28 05:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel compelled to tell you this. Trust is the hub of any relationship and if you can't trust him anymore but you're willing to admit to yourself that this feels wrong then save your money and get the hell out of dodge. I'm guessing here but I would bet money he's still sleeping with her, please don't let him into your pants it would be like you sleeping with whoever she has (not just him). Please remember this once a liar always a liar. If you can't tell the truth you are nobody! I wish you the best.
2006-12-28 04:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves happiness. You're obviously not going to have it with him. Leave him, forget him, and move on. It won't be as easy as all of that, and it may be painful for you, but you need to drop him like a hot rock. He's not interested in a monogamous relationship with you and cannot be trusted to respect your relationship or your love because his goals and your goals are not the same.
2006-12-28 04:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that the drama you want in the rest of your life? Then bail out NOW and save all the future heartache and bs. It will be difficult now, but you WILL get over it after awhile.
2006-12-28 04:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to gooooooooooooooo! For real, I need to walk away from mines too! You they lie and something keeps you there I understand I am secertly preparing to leave him in May I am saving money and when he comes home from work one day all my crap will be gone and he will never hear from me again
2006-12-28 04:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't really need to ask do you? you must know in your heart that this is not what you want. you will never be able to trust him.and lets be honest,do you really want to spend your life with someone you cant trust?? so if it were me i would BAIL!!
2006-12-28 04:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know the answer...he obviously isn't ready to commit to you and you either need to accept that you don't have a committed relationship or just move on. you can't make him change...he has to want to change himself.
2006-12-28 04:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋