my friend says she is too busy to write as much as she used to but I think she is mad at me.?

Question

she always denies that she is mad, and is really busy. how do I know whether she is mad or just busy?

Answer 1

I had a friend who was mad at me, so I asked what was up as did you. She denied there was anything, but things had definitely cooled between us, she just wasn't going to say why.

She may be busy, but if you don't have time for friends you don't deserve them, so accept that whatever the real reason is that she's not keeping in touch as before, she doesn't care much for you and move on to other friends.

Forget her, unless she contacts you.

Sorry for yor loss, I know how it hurts.

Answer 2

There could be many reasons as to why she doesn't write as much. Your question is a bit vague. But you know her better than me.. All I can tell you is that she may really be busy.. even if she wrote you more frequently before, but now doesn't as much it doesn't mean anything. If she makes an effort to let you know she still cares that she's probably not mad at you. And if she says she's not mad at you then trust her. Don't ask her anymore if she's mad at you b/c that will just irritate her. Just let her have some time to do what she needs to do and most importantly don't add pressure by asking again and again why she isn't writing as much. Just allow her to write you when she can naturally. She is just a friend a she's not obligated to write you all the time. Now if you have stronger feelings for her than just as a friend then maybe you should consider letting her know.

Hope this helps

Answer 3

There's really no way to know. All you can do is take her word for it. Sometimes, people really are just busy.

For example, I was so busy the past four months that unless it was a two minute phone call, I barely spoke to most of my family. It's not that I dislike them or that I was upset but rather that I really was just busy.

Maybe you could try being upfront about it. Explain that you understand that she's busy bust sometimes you feel like maybe there's something more because you rarely hear from her. You could add that you really miss talking to her and would like to know how she's doing even if it's a quick email just saying hi.

Good luck, I know how frustrating this can be.

Answer 4

Probably not mad but, if you keep saying or accusing the person of being angry, it may start to change. Give it time. Sometimes we are in peoples lives for a season. Then we go where life leads us in different directions. If she is your friend she will begin to write again. If she feels she is still needed. If she feels it is time to move on she will do so. If you aggrivate her with questions of are you mad at me, it won`t help anything. Believe she is very busy, until she tells you differently.

Answer 5

Maybe she just doesn't feel like writing so she says she's busy. If so, it's dishonest but maybe her intention is not to hurt your feelings (or have you be mad at her).

Answer 6

She is mad I have a friend I hardly ever called and we hung out everyday she is always bragging and it's annoying so yes there maybe something she doesn't like about you

Answer 7

Sometimes it isn't about you. Life happens. Sometimes people really are just too busy. People grow apart as life happens around them. Sometimes you can't do anything about it.

Answer 8

She is busy - and if you keep on pestering her - she will
eventually stop writing all together.
Give her some space.

Answer 9

Maybe neither. Maybe she has a boy friend and want to spend more time with him and not wasting time writing long emails to you.

Answer 10

Just gotta trust her I guess....you can usually tell by the tone of things between the two.