First of all we've been together for 4 years and we have 2 children together. He is just so completely hateful to me ALL THE TIME. He never even tries to act like he's interested in anything I have to say. Two weeks ago all he talked about was us getting married next year, no he acts like I'm invisible
2006-12-28 04:05:30 · 27 answers · asked by Kristin R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, def not normal for him to be acting like this, tho I guess you could also answer this question yourself if you know how long he has been acting in this manner.
If you marry him before all this is sorted, you will regret it 100%. His behaviour is not teaching your kids any values.
My advice.....talk to him, if he refuses to talk or acknowledge his behaviour, then throw an ultimatum his way.........basically, shape up or ship out!!
2006-12-28 04:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by sel2k00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question should be...
Is it normal for a woman to stay in a relationship where she is clearly not wanted, respected, appreciated, loved and emotionally satisfied?
He is treating you exactly the way "YOU" allow him to.
YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE....
If you are not willing to live with whatever the worst of his character flaws/behavior is knowing that it may never change (or get worse) for the rest of your married life together... then you need to move on with a quickness. Remember if you choose to stay you're also making that decision for your children as well. They'll be exposed to seeing their father treat you with disrespect, contempt and loathing. They will in turn learn that behavior and it will be passed on yet to another generation.
Children practice what they see until it becomes a part of who they are....or become emotionally scared from experiencing a person like that in their lives and thereby influencing their future attitudes, interactions and behavior with people. Why risk that for "the dream"
Oh.. and by the way the dream is the husband, the children, the house and the white pickett fence. All these are great things to have in life... but beware the price of having that. Make sure you're hooked up with the right person who loves, respects and honor's you as a woman.
Would you put up with this behavior from one of your girlfriends? Would you expose your children to her? Think not!
Move on before it's too late. He needs therapy and you need to recognize that you deserve true love and respect... and so do your children.
2006-12-28 12:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm sorry you're going through this.
No, it is not normal for all men to be this way.
This guy sounds very passive aggressive--- he draws you in by saying he wants to get married, then he closes you out and punishes you.
These are the most toxic of men.
I know you've been together for four years. And that you have two children. But, his behavior will undoubtedly continue to deteriorate from here.
Now is the time to take care of yourself and your children. Don't continue to raise them in his world of abuse.
Remember, you are the prize. And you deserve to be treated as the loving woman you are.
Love yourself first-- and get the heck outta there.
Good luck
2006-12-28 12:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal when they are not in love with you, he came to you for your looks, not for what you are as a person. This is a mistake many girls make, they "hear" words of love and they go immediately to bed, they don't know what "wait" means, they rush and then say "if I don't go to bed with him, someone else will". Well, they end up in a messy relationship. I bet he has stopped "liking" you because you have put a few pounds on, and as soon as you loose a little beauty, things will change in his mind. This would not have happened if it would have been love what joined you instead of passion... Yes, I may be wrong, but what are the chances that I am?
Take care. Be wise. God Bless.
2006-12-28 12:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by skydiver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking if all men have mood swings? Things changed over a matter of 2 weeks, and I am guessing he will be back to talking about marriage again this weekend? He needs to know that you love and respect him, and like someone else mentioned could be having a stressful week. Bi-polar is always an excuse for swings like this...could he be depressed? Good luck in your marriage!
2006-12-28 12:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brad D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is this relationship teaching your children? And is it helping you to grow and be happy and content? Life is too short to use our precious days, weeks, months, and years being tied to someone who tears us down rather than builds us up. Take your precious children and run, don't walk, to the nearest safe harbor...family, friend, or women's shelter. Begin to live your life finding the joy that is possible. Your heart and your children will thank you for it later.
2006-12-28 12:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not normal. Normal guys are sweet and kind and thoughtful. They listen to you and take you in consideration with everything they do.
Is this how you want your children to see women are supposed to be treated? Is this the kind of guy you want your son to emulate? Is this the kind of guy that you want your daughter to grow up and marry? You need to square this guy away or get out.
2006-12-28 12:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal - this guy has serious issues.
Don't you dare marry him, or you'll be regretting it as you get divorced a few years down the road.
suggest he seek counseling for his anger issues; if he won't, seek it out for yourself and leave this loser behind. Sue him for child support or not, but you need to move on and get this guy away from you.
2006-12-28 12:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turn the tables, act like he's invisible... two can play that game. Why would you want to marry someone who acts like you are invisible?
2006-12-28 12:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2gether 4 years+2 childern+not married yet = disaster waiting to happen! If he hasn't wanted to marry you yet, he has serious commitment issues. I wouldn't settle for someone who treated me like that for the rest of my life. Do what's best for you and your children first, then worry about him!
2006-12-28 12:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋