Ok lately I have been really busy with work and studying. but he claims to be working till late at night. Twice he went out at 1 am with some friends and their girls but wouldnt ask me even though it was on a weekend. should i take this personally? he says its because i was too busy. he wouldnt tell me about it i found out from his friends. so he'd rather go out with them than come home to me. well he took me out once and told me not to be myself. thats why he doesnt want to take me out but i find it hard to believe that he acts the way he does cause with me he doesnt act that way. plus these are teenagers he goes out with he's 30. they good off a lot. every time i ask him to go out he always tells me hes busy working but he can take a break and go with them. i feel hurt what should i do?
2006-12-28 03:57:41 · 21 answers · asked by katie h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A 30 year old man hanging out with teenagers? BAD NEWS! Drop him...and do it as quickly as you can!!!
2006-12-28 04:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by HENRY M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would not fly with me. If the other gf's or girls in general are invited then I dam well better be invited EVEN if he knows I wouldn't want to go. Its the principal of the matter and seems shady otherwise.
Dump his a$$... if he loved you for who you are and the way you are then he wouldn't ever ask you to act any diferent. If he acts dif with his friends then with you and seems to be 2 faced then you need to question if that is the only thing he is being shady about.
2006-12-28 04:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. These comments of "Just dump him" and all that crap, they don't know what a relationship is about.
You have to communicate to him. Let him know how you feel about all this. Understand that he DOES think you're busy... and you ARE busy. But just let him know that asking you would've been nice. And if he doesn't consider your feelings and if he doesn't do a thing differently, then I think it's safe to say that you tried... and then you can move on with your life without him.
OH... and if he says not to be yourself when you're out with him, well... that's just a sign of him being just plain inconsiderate and disrespectful. He's just asking for you to break up with him on THAT one...
2006-12-28 04:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let's recap. He's 30 and hanging around with teenagers. Doesn't want you to go. In fact, he'd rather be with them instead of comming home to you. He took you out once and told you not to be yourself? (What's up with that one?) Too busy for you,bla, bla, bla. Should you take this personally? Um, yeah.....ditch that loser, he's going through mid-life crisis and making a fool of you and a bigger fool of himself. Those teenagers are using him probably to buy all nite.
2006-12-28 04:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he's either cheating on you or embarrassed of you or both. If he's hanging with teenagers then there he must still think that he's one of them. You should let him know that he needs to either grow up or stop dragging you along. You deserve better than to play the "background" girlfriend. I would give him a dose of his own medicine and go out with your girls. I guarantee you he will think twice before going out again.
2006-12-28 04:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a man who acts his age and is not embarrassed to have you on his arm in public. He obviously has no real self esteem so he surrounds himself with teenagers to make himself feel better.
2006-12-28 04:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to confront him with what you are feeling and also tell him that his actions are hurting you.
Also understand what his requirements are like he wants space or may be the way you dress up,or the way you carry your self ,the way you behave in public ,etc.
do a bit of introspection and i'm sure that you will find a solution to your problem....my best wishes are with you.
2006-12-28 04:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by gp k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is reason to not feel like a priority here, as your not. he is immature, and who needs a man like this, if he isn't inviting u and finding reasons to justify why he won't take u than theres a reason, and it isn't about u, it's because theres someone else he would rather be with, time to move on honey to someone who puts u first, he truly doesn't love u like he should.
2006-12-28 04:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie actions speak louder than words,,be honest with him tell him how you feel, personally i would leave this man to his games and find someone who does not feel the need to have this separate existance without you, is he ashamed of you or himself, whatever,,,i would let him go,,,not worth it
2006-12-28 04:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by nurseynursey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry / but you have a problem similar to mines.What i did was :
1. Visit the beauty parlour & do something good to myself.
2.Go out with my friends like clubbing. leave his *** home
3.I made myself happy and showed him i did not care.
4I was hurting inside & missing him too.
And guess what it felt good and the table turned all around. now he is going out with me.
2006-12-28 05:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by meerielee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋