I had a bunch of friends in Emelmantary School, and last year everthing when for the worst! Two of my closes friends skip a grade, 4 of my friends turned into what I'll just say the meanest girls I have ever met, I only made 3 friends, 1 has a dad who is an achoolic, 1 has a disorder so she is hyper, and has temper issues, and the other has prolbems with her parents. And my 2 friends who skipped a grade, are going 2 high school next year, without me!!! The only friend I really have is my step-cousin and she is oly with me aunt and uncle every other weekend and lives 1 and half hours away. I feel like I am all alone, and at lunch I it t what people conster the looser table!!! I feel like crap!!!
2006-12-28 03:43:02 · 17 answers · asked by hannahmontanagirl_1994 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop worrying about having friends and stop worrying about what other people think of you. Be yourself. Do what you want to do and be proud of what you believe in.
Having a lot of friends is simply a superficial way to hide from yourself. Spend time finding out who you are and you'll soon learn that you don't need other people to be happy. All you need to be happy is to be happy with yourself.
Once you know who you are, people will see your confidence and come to you.
2006-12-28 03:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a school age girl, and I suspect you are, you might try talking about this to your counsellor. You don't say how big your school is or whether or not there are any places you can go for alternate interests.
The worst thing you can do is close yourself up and dig yourself a hole you can't get out of. Look around you and see if there are some local activities that interest you. Meeting and making new friends is sometimes very hard. Being alone and lonely is harder.
The person who will need to take the first step is you. You cannot allow others to rule your life. You are also an important element in the equation. You must first love yourself and know that you are worthy of the best that life has to offer.
I was a longer all the way through school, either by choice or circumstances. What I did was to find a church group and get involved in helping others who were worse off than myself. Did you know that many people live in nursing homes and are sometimes totally abandoned because in many cases, they have outlived everyone they know? I'll bet you that your local nursing home could connect you up with someone who would love to have your attention and be your friend and who probably need a friend desperately. Why not give it a try.
A good ice-breaker in nursing home visitation is a flower and a great big smile. Don't take food though unless you check with their nurse to make sure they are allowed to have it.
Sometimes you need to find someone needier than yourself to realize just how important your life really is to others. Good luck.
2006-12-28 04:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by krpegelow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make new friends is to reach out to people. You can't always be dependent of others to come to you. And you haven't been abandoned by your friends who skipped a grade. They didn't do that to leave you, they skipped to brodden they're horizens. They aren't going to stop being your friends simply because they're in a different grade level. And as for the four girls that you say have turned out badly, if they can drop your friendship like that, they never really were your friends in the first place so it's not such a great loss. And don't push away the friends you still do have. If you do you'll be putting them through the same thing that you're going through.
2006-12-28 03:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by silver wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even worry about it. When i was in school i was in a gang! Everyone who i thought was my friend to this day i dont even see anymore! i was always popular and thinking that being a rebel was the coolest thing ever! well....when things hit rock bottom I too hit rock bottom! It turned out that no one really cared about me and I had no one but my family! Trust me I know the feeling, its a horrible feeling and to this day i still get it! Look, i graduated but didnt even get to go to prom or have those cool hight school memories.....but that never stopped me from persuing my career and working hard for what I derserve! I may not have 100 friends but I have the best friends anyone could ever have and those are god, my parents, and myself! At the end those three are all you could ever count on! As for the few friends that you do have but have issues, well dont worry about because being a good friend means to accept your friend's flaws wheather you agree with them or not :)
2006-12-28 03:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chikana24/7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have friends at all. I deal with it by having an imaginary friend. You're the type of person who needs friends so I suggest you chat to your friends (who are now in high school) with an internet or cellphone chatter like Mig33. You'll see them next year when you go to high school. I also have a disorder so I don't know anything about making new friends or at least having them. Good luck!
2006-12-28 03:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. stop feeling sorry for yourself. you should be proud of your friends for skipping a grade. next, so what if you friends have issues. just cuz their parents suck doens't mean they do. i have a friend who has an alcoholic father (her parents are divorced tho) and she is my best friend ever. and it is good that you like spending time with your cuzins, but get over yourself. learn to make the loser table a cool table. be unique. get out there and ask people if you can sit at their table. forget your "mean" friends. they are idiots who obviously are stupid that they turned into the Mean Girls of school.
2006-12-28 03:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find new friends but that doesn't mean abandon the ones that have problems. They need help and if you turn your back on them, you're just like those 'mean girls' and you don't want that. Try a bit harder to find new friends who will respect you, love you and comfort you when you need to be. Also, try and help your friend with the alcholic dad and help your other friend with the disorder.
2006-12-28 03:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Prufrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a checkup. maximum probable there is somewhat some rigidity and fatigue on your existence. that desires to be addressed. yet one or two times a week is the norm on your point in a courting. Introduce some romance back into the courting. schedule some date nights. Takes some baths including candles, bubbles and wine. Take a short holiday without schedule yet to "relish" the motel. schedule some "love making" and don't make it approximately intercourse.
2016-12-11 17:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls will be girls. I used to go through the same thing, but I realized I wasn't the only one that has to deal with mean girls. Why can't you be good friends with the girl whose dad is an alcoholic? She probably needs you more than you think.
2006-12-28 03:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding friends at the table you sit at. If none of them spark an interest with you, then try talking to other people. If you feel like you're hitting it off with someone and you're walking to lunch, ask where they sit. If they want to be friends, they'll invite you to sit with them.
2006-12-28 03:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋