My husband's ex girlfriend has been sending him sex messages..does that mean he will cheat on me with her?
2006-12-28 03:21:16 · 21 answers · asked by skjrc18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, not necessarily
But it might happen
2006-12-28 03:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is whether or not your husband is responding. It is his responsibility to tell her to stop. He may be embarrassed by the situation and not know how to handle it. Or he may be flattered by the continued calls. Either way, it is something you need to discuss between you and resolved in a manner that is non-threatening to you both..
It may be that this person is obsessed with your now-husband and needs a third party intervention to convince her that her actions are both inappropriate and unwanted. If you are involved in a church, your pastor may assist you. If not, a mutual friend might be willing to intercede on your behalf.
If your husband will not cut the connection, then you have a problem that you need to resolve in your existing relationship. Either way, approach the issue carefully and in a non-accusatory manner and tell him that you are uncomfortable with her messages and feel too new in your own situation and that it is not that you don't trust him, but that it undermines your self-confidence and comfort zone. In other words, make sure it comes across as the ex who is doing something wrong, not your husband.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-28 11:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by krpegelow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they have children together? If they do, he'll have to keep in touch with her. As for as sending text messages, what kind of messages are they? Not sure I'd be too happy with husband sending cute, little messages to his ex. Just not respectful in my opinion. Talk to him about it. Sometimes people don't realize their acts are hurtful. If he's attitude is less than supportive, then maybe you can find out what the messages actually say. You have access to his cell?
2006-12-28 11:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by EV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard to trust someone, isn't it? It is not appropriate for her to send him sex messages. I think you should talk to him about this. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and worried. He should handle this and if he does not then you need to tell him you will. It is very disrespectful and immature on her part. Just b/c she does that does not mean that he will cheat on you. You must have faith and trust in him and your marriage. I know it is hard. Just remember that you can handle anything (God does not give you anything that you cannot handle). Enjoy him and your marriage and continue to be a good wife. That is all you can do. And IF he does cheat on you and you find out about it, have faith in yourself that you can get through it. That you are able to pick up the pieces and go on with your life. Good luck!
2006-12-28 11:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aron H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that does not mean he will cheat on you, but it doesn't mean that temptation is not there either. Truthfully, if he is going to be communicating with her, it should be decent emails, not trashy. But, more importantly why is he still communicating with her? Are you and her friends? If the answer is no, where is the respect from both parties, especially him? The ex should go and find herself a current and be gone!
2006-12-28 11:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that doesn't necessarily mean that he will cheat, but you know your husband. What do you feel? Nevertheless, that fact that his ex corresponds with him (especially in that nature) poses a big problem (in my opinion), and needs to be addressed. Your husband (or you) needs to seriously check the ex, and put her disrespectful a$$ in place.
2006-12-28 11:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Queryous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your husband is not responding in any way that tells you a lot.
If he is responding he is being totally inappropriate. He dosn't have to cheat to be acting like a little boy and you shouldn't be married to a boy.
2006-12-28 11:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he responds with a message. If given the chance, he will cheat.
2006-12-28 11:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know your husband and as far as she goes I'd be pissed. But then again im a bit over zealous. I believe it is up to your husband to COMPLETELY put a stop to it. Does he even know it upsets you and does he hide it from you? Some men are open and honest and if he is telling you then he wants you to know and its no secret and know u have a good honest man
2006-12-28 11:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by CHaBeLa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn not tolerate this for 2 seconds. I would text her back myself and tell her f---off.
Then I would sit my husband down and find out the truth. Hopefully he isn't already cheating. If he is, I think you know what to do! Leave him.
2006-12-28 11:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no---notice u say the ex g/f has been sending messages---he cannot control what others send him
You do not say he is sending messages to her
SO RELAX
2006-12-28 11:23:33 · answer #11 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋