2006-12-28 03:06:33 · 10 answers · asked by homespaparties4u 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would think that he is comfortable enough with you now to discuss these issues in a mature manner. There is nothing wrong with dating a bisexual, if you were gay or heterosexual. If they are faithful to you, then its a good love thing going on. :)
However, if he tells you this on the hopes for a threesome, then chances are he isn't relationship material, unless both partners are secure and into it.
(Sidenote: Are you female/male,gay/straight/bi/trans?) Just curious :) )
2006-12-28 03:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard men are very unlikely to be bisexual. This is where the saying comes from, 'bi now, gay later'. However hopefully you'll get some bisexual males on here disagreeing. I don't know. -
If he really is bisexual, I don't see why it should be a problem, even though you may need to get your head around the idea. I am a girl who has recently admitted it to herself that she is bisexual. I have a boyfriend I hope to marry. After getting used to it, he was very supportive and helped me through it and now everything is just the same.
Bisexual doesn't mean your man needs a partner of each sex or that is is going to cheat on you. If me and my boyfriend stay together I have no inclination to cheat on him with a girl whatsoever. In fact if we split up I think I would stick to the opposite sex anyway.
2006-12-28 11:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to explore both sides of this situation. First is put yourself in his shoes: Admitting his bisexuality to you was probably one of the most agonizing things he ever had to do. And it's not necessarily something that gets easier with each girl he admits this too, or a gay man for that matter. Conversely, he probably has a much easier time admittting his bisexuality to other bisexual men. Bisexuals are discriminated against by both the heterosexual and gay communities, as they accuse bisexuals of being "fencesitters" and spreading AIDS to both communities. The reasons he took so long to admit his orientation may be threefold: He a) wanted to wait until he knew you well enough to know whether or not you were biphobic so he can freely admit this to you, b) accepted his bisexuality but was afraid of what you would think and admitted it to you to "Get it off his chest, or c) has been closetted for quite a while and finally wanted to admit his sexuality to both himself and you.
Now for yourself. You are entitled to any feelings you may have about what you are going through right now, with the exception of being derogatory or biphobic. The first thing you may feel is being lied to and wondering "Why did it take you this long to admit this to me?" His hesitance to admit this to you may be even more puzzling if you consider yourself a tolerant person. This does NOT men you are biphobic; you're just sorting out your feelings at the moment. The first thing is call your boyfriend and tell him we should talk about what is going on, either at one of your apartments or in a public place like a coffee shop to ensure neither one of you "makes a scene". The first thing you could say, in a calm but honest manner, is "Well I would be lying if I didn't say I was hurt by you taking so long to admit that you're bi. I always thought we trusted each other. But I do know how hard it was to admit whio you are to me when the whole world is out to judge you. I want to let you know I'm not one of those people." You should then ask if there's anything he wants to say, and then just sit and listen. He should do the same to you when it's your turn to talk. Good luck. :)
2006-12-28 15:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Megosophy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Bi myself it wouldn't be a problem, though since I'm upfront about that myself from the start, I'd ask why he felt the need to conceal it so long.
2006-12-28 11:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't nessacarily make any difference. the relationship lasting depends on what kind of person he is not his sexual preference if he's bi. Now if he isnt being honest about his feelings then that could be a problem.
2006-12-28 12:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would make me the happiest girl on earth! I love bi boys!!! So much more free, so much more willing to do and try things... hun, trust me, as long as he's a good person you should keep him around for a while!!!
2006-12-28 11:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he did not feel safe with you until this time. Perhaps he thought you would be critical or judgmental of him because of who he is.
If your relationship is otherwise going well, I don't see a problem. Most people are not all straight or all gay. We are all somewhere in between, especially under the right circumstances.
2006-12-28 11:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Debra G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as that isn't a segueway into a discussion about how him sleeping with a guy isn't cheating, honest, then there would be no problem.
2006-12-28 12:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by random6x7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to understand that hes opening up his feelings to you. Dont dump him or do anything to hurt his feelings, talk to him.
2006-12-28 11:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jus call me "BUBS" 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd think kewl, can I watch!
2006-12-28 11:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋