Will she come back is it just hormones?

Question

me and my wife married 2mnths ago we were trying for kids.Everything was okuntill we had a terible row before we new she was pregnant i turned a table over in pub i have done eveything to change she did come back for 2weeks she said she loved me and missed me then i came home she asked to go for a walk andbookchristmas meal i said i was looking forward to baby then she said her mum wont forgive me and it wont work and she left again im 26 and im devastated please help

Answer 1

Give her a little space and then talk to her. You two are married and that basically means the cord needs to be cut from the parents!!!!!!!!!! She is pregnant and hormones could be it or maybe she just needs her mom right now. She will come back! Somethign you may want to do if you can is start purchasing things for the baby and set them up. Like a bassinet for you and your wifes room. Just show her you really love her and remind her why you got married. Just hang in there and goodluck, you have a precious bundle of joy on the way!!

Answer 2

Hi Darren,

I don't know if she will come back, it really depends on why she left. From your question I would guess it may be because of fear of future violence. Her mum may be putting pressure on her in an attempt to protect her daughter.

Whatever, it sounds like your wife is confused about what she wants and I am sure the hormones won't be helping.

Communication is the key. You need to know exactly what her concerns are before you can address them. Suggest joint counselling or mediation, she may feel more comfortable with a third party about. Give her space, let her know that you will be there for her and the baby, whatever happens. Be there.

It might help to try to mend the bridge between yourself and her mum.

Good Luck,

Sparky x

Answer 3

Darren, to turn a table over at the pub is a bit of a overreaction. If you are hot tempered the way you describe, well, I suggest you back off now. Odds are she will be in touch again. You should then show understanding and hold a very low profile. She is obviously being influenced by her mother and I can understand in a way, because it is a nightmare to live with someone strong tempered.

Answer 4

It probably is just the hormones!! If she still saying she loves you, give her space!! Try woo-ing her again, but take it slow. Not knowing too much about your fight, I would try and make amends for that! Being in the early stages of pregnancy the hormones are running riot and she will be feeling all sorts of things. Everything will be blown out of proportion, so take it slow. If you love someone, that love doesn't just die over night, so with the ideas of a new arrival, and the fact that you are the father, I reckon she will see the light soon enough! Just hang in there. You know her ... you know how to get through to her in subtle ways. You could try by telling her that you want to work things out now, as you have every intention of being around for the baby as well as her. Perhaps take her out for a really romantic dinner and try speaking to her again. Be a little distant, don't throw yourself at her mercy ... and just explain to her how much you love her, how much you regret the fight, and how much you want your child to have the benefit of both it's parents!! Goodluck!

Answer 5

try controlling your temper! who wants to live with the threat of violence because if thats what you do in public imagine what you are like behind closed doors.

Or what was she asking for it. Maybe she wants to bring your baby up in a safe and caring environment - get some anger management and maybe then she will see that you are trying rather than making excuses for your behaviour. As for her mum she obviously doesnt want her daughter to be anyones punchbag.

Answer 6

she will come back.
Tell her this isn't her moms business in a polite way.
you seem to have a temper so chill out.
Buy her the book "what to expect when expecting" and get her some cocoa butter lotion for her tummy.
Just by supporting her through this and doing sweet things will win her back.
Tell her you have been stressed and fustrated but tell her you want this more than anything in the world. Be nice to her.
Offer to take her out to eat.

Answer 7

She is acting like a child and needs to start thinking about the child she is carring. Its not fair for the baby to not have a dad cuz her mum wants to be a you know what.

Answer 8

mate she needs to get a grip of herself and grow up!
you need to go round and put her old dear in her place!
like you said your 26!
tell her mum how it is and if she starts arguing you need to tell her NO this is a one way conversation!
your Mrs says she loves you and Misses you!
for Christs sake go and get her! you need to stand up to her mother in front of her in a calm and adult manner! if she starts going off on one at you just let it go in one ear then out the other! then carry on with what you are tying to prove! just make sure you aren't giving anybody an excuse to say changed Pah!
I'm sure it'll work out in the end! good luck!

Answer 9

Get her away from her interferring mother and you might have a chance. However being violent and turning tables over is not on, so stop behaving like a prat.

Answer 10

she will regret the day she turned around and told you its not gonna work , sounds like its her mother running her relationship mate . you could try talking to her but if all else fails try getting on with your life . i know its gonna be hard but at the end of the day you have done no wrong . all the best mate