am i getting married too soon?

Question

i dont have a job, yet. but im about to graduate from college. i plan to get married rite after college. is it too soon?

Answer 1

Definitely.

Look, I understand the desire. But it's really easy to have a good relationship in college. All that is required of you in life is to make it to class, do your assignments, and maybe hold down a part-time job to pay basic living expenses such as rent and beer money.

However, the real world is a far more demanding place, what with career, a major uptick in living expenses, etc. etc. And chances are you'll change more in the next five years after graudation than you will for the rest of your life. Goals, careers, friends, attitudes, and tastes will all change radically, whether you realize it or not. Will the person you marry change alongside you or shoot off in a different direction.

After my graduation, I attended 8 weddings of friends that summer. 10 years later, 7 of those couples are divorced, and the 1 remaining couple isn't doing so well. In fact, all the happiest, most stable relationships I know are the ones who waited.

So there's your answer. It's probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's really, really good and important advice.

Answer 2

Yes get yourself situated first your are going to be the spiritual head of the household and that includes a lot of responsibility. Don't rush into marriage it is nothing to rush into it's a very serious matter that need serious communication before it takes place. What do you expect out of this person what you want from this person Finances, rasing children how many etc Take your time work on you Marriage is more than Love what? it is yes Love is patience, forgiving, better or worse bad habits, not controling building a trust partnership, enduring, not jealous, understanding, solving problems without verbal or physcial abuse, etc I can go on and on it take a life time to get to know your spouse and everything change the day the ring is on the fingers and you walk into that beautiful home full of new beautiful problems, Bills, debt, taxes, spending, etc God bless you darling

Answer 3

Yes. What's the hurry to get married?

You should learn how to live independently before you marry; this includes money management, decision-making and generally being totally and completely responsible for yourself. Keep in mind that many things in life can happen; if you find that you have to carry the load due to illness or unemployment of your spouse, you have to know how to do these things on your own.

If you're asking, you have doubt. Go with your gut feeling. If you decide not to marry, it's not the end of the world and you could be preventing a costly mistake.

Answer 4

I met my wife when she was 15 years old, we married when she was 19 and we have just celebrated our 10th anniversary.

Noone can answer this question for you and many people Im sure will tell you you are too young but there are people that get married at a young age and the marriages do last.

Answer 5

Too soon is a determination that only you can make.

Some people will tell you not to marry until you have lived with someone for a while and some people think that it is wrong to live with someone b4 marriage, so it is really a personal choice.

I personally lived with my husband for 3 years b4 taking the vowels. people are different when you live with them from when you just date them and I feel you need to make sure you can handle the difference b4 you say I do.

Think with your heart because truly only you can make this determination

Answer 6

I never recommend anyone to get married before getting a job and a place to live.

Without these 2 how do you expect to get married?

"My two brothers got married before getting a job or a place to live, they are both suffering the consequences, one of them lives with his wife at my parents house."

Why a job?
You need money to pay water bill, electricity, groceries, cable, gas, car, clothes, rent, etc.

Why a place to live?
You and your spouse as a married couple will enjoy the benefits of a newlywed life with all the privacy in the world to have sex, argue with each other, laugh out loud and simply have your own life as independent couple.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

That depends on a lot of things.
- r u a guy or a girl? guy needs to be financially independent before marriage. a girl can seek career even after marriage.
- wots so hurry? is it love-marriage? is ur beloved not ready to wait till u settle down in life?
- r ur parents forcing u to marry so soon?
- hv u had enuf time to spend with ur future spouse?
my suggestion would be to settle in life, date ur future spouse for at least an year to know him/her better and then think of marriage.

Answer 8

Well I think so . I would like to see you establish your career for at least one year or two, before you make the plunge. Marriage is stressful on your people today due to finances. Why add stress the first year?

Answer 9

If you are questioning it, then yes you are too young.

Plus, you have a lot of growing and maturing left to do...finish up that before you committ yourself to one person for life, who may not grow and mature at the same pace or in the same way as you.

Answer 10

Do you love her? Are you willing to do anything to make her happy? If you can say yes to these, than no, it isn't too soon. Just work hard to ensure her happiness, and the best of luck to you!