what should you do if you found out your man for 5 yrs and living together for 5 months, told u last night that is was born in a different year then i thought. my man told me his was born in 1970 but i saw his birth certificate say 1976..
2006-12-28 02:32:01 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he told me that he had to change his age, so he can get a visa.
2006-12-28 02:36:13 · update #1
now he is two years younger than me.
2006-12-28 02:40:02 · update #2
so what does it matter, as long as you love each other and he is good to you. but just be careful that he is not lying about other issues.. my man is married in his country and has 4 kids and it don't bother me.. i live with my significant other and he is 4 years older than me and he accepts my 3 kids from a previous relationship.
2006-12-28 03:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he suddenly know martial arts after awakening from a coma?
On a serious note, I would ask him why the difference. Find out if he has a good reason, if it is a mistake or why he lied. I recently met an old guy at my new job that said his mom told him he was born on a different day than what his birth certificate said.
2006-12-28 02:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to find out why he lied. It could just be that he said that years ago and never knew how to tell you differently after the relationship got established. We all say things on the spur of the moment that we wish we hadn't said, then don't quite know how to take back. This could be the case, and if so, forgive him and move on. If he is a chronic liar, though, then you are better off without him, because you will never be able to trust him.
2006-12-28 02:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch.
find out why he lied about his age to you thats the big thing is the dishonesty.
I would confront him with it and discuss it. Maybe he loves you and was just afraid if you knew he was that much younger you would not give him a chance?
Remember age is just a number how you feel about the person is what matters.
2006-12-28 02:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him why he lied about his age like that and then ask him if he has lied to you about anything else. If you love him (which I'm sure you do after 5 years ), then what does it really matter if he isn't the exact age that you thought he was? Don't get me wrong, he lied to you for that long; however, can you see where I'm coming from?
2006-12-28 02:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a trust issue that definitely needs to get talked about. You will want to let him know about seeing his birth certificate and as a result of this lie your trust in him as been cracked. Trust once it is broken needs to be EARNED back. He will need to earn your trust back by being more honest with you.
You might want to ask him why he felt the need to lie about his age. Was he trying to impress? Does he feel inferior to you or did he at the time that he told you his age and then felt embarrassed about telling you that he lied? Does he feel inferior to others as a general rule?
2006-12-28 02:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question his reason for lying to me and then have a nice long talk with his parents! After all, can you really be with a man who lies about a simple thing like his age. And we are not talking about 3 months age lying, we are talking 6 YEARS! You must ask yourself, what eles is he lying about?
2006-12-28 02:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lilla L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! So he lied about his age!!!!! That is INSANE! 1 or 2 years, i could POSSIBLY understand.... but 6 years is a BIG difference. I guess if you really love him tho, and otherwise he doesnt lie, I might forgive him. But if this is another lie in a very long list of lies, its time to let his liar butt go! Good luck
2006-12-28 02:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility that he thought that you wouldn't want him if you knew this? Ask him why he lied about this and at the same time has he lied about anything Else? I have to wonder how old each of your are? That would help understand this.
2006-12-28 02:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? I guess if you now feel there is a trust issue then ask why he did this. It does not sound malicious to me. Are you older than him? Maybe that is why he said a different age...some people are insecure about things you wouldn't think of. That's my two cents.
2006-12-28 02:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Mugwump 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋