I have so many "friends," these are really nice people, but deep down I don't trust any of them to accept the real me. The more I want to get closer to them the more I feel like I'm pushing them away.
So how do you get close to people? Any advise?
2006-12-28 02:17:22 · 8 answers · asked by The Teacher 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The question is: what is the real "me"? Do any of them know you for what you really are? The only way to get close to someone is to trust. If you wind up getting screwed over in the process, so be it! Live and learn. Unless you learn to trust these people you're living a masquerade and that's the reason they may be being pushed away.
2006-12-28 02:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Johann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy trusting people because nowadays people are backstabbers and can be a good friend one minute and then talk mess about you behind your back the next.
What I do though, is be open minded. I NEVER walk in a room and expect certain people to become my friends. I always just go and think, "If I meet people here-great. If not, it's OK." When I meet people I do my best to let them see the real me. If they don't accept me, then I get away from them and meet other people. It can be difficult to just put yourself out there-but I can definitely tell you that it takes a LOT of character to do that and people will notice.
Remember, good friendships take time to become strong. In fact, all relationships are like that.
Hang in there and keep trying to meet new people. It takes time and patience. Good luck!!!
2006-12-28 10:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a huge difference between "friends" and FRIENDS. I know a lot of people I can just hang out with, drink beer, watch the game, go fishing with, etc. From hanging out in chat rooms in Yahoo I have quite a few people online I can talk to about sports, politics, etc.
But...there's only about five people in my life I can truly call my friends. These are the ones that see the real me without any airs, no having to be macho all the time, and these are people that trust me completely and I trust them. It took trial and error with a lot of people to find them.
To get close you just have to start opening up to people...tell them things about yourself most people don't know. If they are responsive they'll share back. If not...then you know and move on. For me, I'm happier knowing I have a few friends as opposed to many "friends."
2006-12-28 10:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by bruiserkc2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have only one true friend but I can be honest open and me
I find that if you are you all the time your true friends will stay
If you try to be something else they your true friends will leave because they know this is not the real you
BE Yourself Always
2006-12-28 10:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by vet1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force anyone to be trusted. Be sincere in your friendship and you will have real friends soon . Good luck.
2006-12-28 10:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you trust some of the people dont you........so try to get close to the people and try to confront them and figure them out
2006-12-28 10:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by babynene2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts and yourself and go from there--learn to love yourself.
2006-12-28 11:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trusdt is not something you can learn it just comes natrually
2006-12-28 10:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋