My husband use to watch porn, well he stopped because we "both" agreed that it not right for us. He has been doing an excellent job not watching it. But now (5 months later) he has to see boobs in movies, sex action in movies, etc. I do not like this because he is using movies as porn. Today we had another talk about this and he told me, " Yes, I need to see this to be happy most of the time". WHAT DA HELL??? I thought I made him happy. I do so much as a wife for him. Why would he need to see that to be happy. I am a beautiful women (I mean Im not a model or anything but damn im his freakin wife).
PLEASE EXPLAIN SOMEONE!!!!!!
2006-12-28 02:08:01 · 30 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would slap him. I mean, he needs it to be HAPPY? That's kind of insulting, like he's not happy now or something.
2006-12-28 02:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
There is a difference in wanting and having.....he is more than likely an addict and it has nothing to do with you, but his own mental health is at stake. He would not be a normal guy if it did not titilate him to see a little nudity, but the fact that he must see it is different. I totally agree with you that he should be satisfied with you and not have to seek it elsewhere, unfortunately he doesn't sound like that is what gets his rocks off.
Turn the tables honey, see if this changes his perspective. The fact that you did get him to stop watching porn is a positive and means he does have somewhat of a conscience. I watched a movie not too long ago that had a full frontal nudity of a man, R-rated. See what his reaction is to this and be sure to make lots of racy comments while watching another mans hard body.
Good luck!!!
2006-12-28 02:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatly, the man has to have visual. The woman is mostly emotional. But, if he needs to see porn to have sex with you, then that is a problem. If he can't see you naked and get the same results, there is a big problem.
Time to see a councelor and get help, or start watching porn with him that you like. LOL!!!
My wife divorced her first husband because of that sh*t. My wife is hot!!! I can't understand why her X would need porn? She's a pornstar in her own right. LOL!!! Try to get help for your husband I would say.
Peace.
2006-12-28 02:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gasman 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whats with all these MORONS advising you that if you don't let your husband watch porn, he will cheat, or my favorite, "At least he's not cheating".............FAITHFULNESS IN BODY AND MIND SHOULD BE A GIVEN IN MARRIAGE!".....Geez!
SJ is this man's WIFE people!!!! And I do not blame her one DAMN bit for wanting all of his sexual attentions to be directed solely on her! If he wants to enjoy other womens bodies so damn much, let THEM wash his clothes, cook his dinners, put up with his bad moods, make nice with his family, bear and raise his children, and every other countless thankless job a wife does!!!!!
I'm sorry, I am not married, but if I was, I would be the same way, SJ!
And by the way, this does not make you insecure- only and insecure woman would allow her husband to do this- because she is afraid if she puts her foot down, she will lose him!!!!
***stepping off of soapbox***
2006-12-28 02:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's just a matter of understanding that men and women are wired differently mentally. Men are wired to seek out fertile females and procreate, and the more females receiving their seeds, the better chance of procreation happening. That's why men only need a couple hours to "reload".
You need to learn to play to what appeals to him. Not saying it's always right, but I'm just telling you how men think. Regardless, you want to be the center of his world again, and are jealous that he needs porn. Here's what you do:
Make sure he's always in "unloaded" mode. If you see him looking at porn, don't scold or whatever. BECOME the center of his world, and take charge of his pleasure. NEVER let him leave home "loaded".
Chances are, if you take care of him every time you see him watching porn, he will soon lose interest in the porn.
Good Luck
2006-12-28 02:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
When will you women get over the idea that porn is bad and that your husband/bf is a perv if he wants to look at it - GET OFF OUR BACKS ABOUT IT!! The worst thing that will happen is that your man will be horny all the time - JEEEZ! Let him cruise on the computer and look at stuff. Since you are not into porn tell him to have enough repsect for you to look at it only when you are not around. Follow the don't ask/don't tell rule....
PS Valerie....stay off your Christian soap box for the sake of most mens' mental health....
2006-12-28 02:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
guys will be guys. I hate saying that but its true. Give a guy a beer while you are topless and he's prolly gonna be content. The male is a very basic creature.
I'll just apologize for the whole lot of us, sorry.
2006-12-28 02:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Reisnoh 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I cant explain but i can sympathize with you.
My hubby is the same way he likes watching porn and thats just what he enjoys doing. I have just gotten over it and let him do his thing.
Hes not cheating, hes not going out drinking and hes at home. It may not be something I enjoy but then I can spend hours sitting reading a book and he hates that , so I fiugre its just his thing.
As long as its NEVER with the kids home then I leave him alone about it
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2006-12-28 02:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I can't explain it. He's obviously oversexed to think he needs boobs to be happy - maybe he should get some implants!!!! I think your hubby may be depraved. "Both" of you apparently did NOT agree - he was telling you what you wanted to hear. He has issues - and you can't deal with them for him.
2006-12-28 02:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how it's hurts you to hear him say that. Most men will look, but it seems to me that he NEEDs this to make him happy and that's not right. take a photgrapgh of your your self in the nude and tell him when he NEEDs to see something to look at that. i wish you luck.
2006-12-28 02:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No he is disrespecting you! He cannot demand you to adjust to his needs o fwatching other women. It is unfair from his side. He is supposed to give the same attention to you and get that satisfaction from you. Try watching other men nude in front of him. Bring videos of male strippers and watch them. He will soon realise how you are feeling about him right now
2006-12-28 02:12:28 · answer #11 · answered by Someday 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋