how do you treat your son and his wife with respect if themselves are very disrespectful?

Answer 1

I'd continue to treat them with respect all though they may not feel worthy of respect and that's why they are acting so disrespectful themselves. Sometimes it just a sad situation. Demand respect and if you can't get it, don't subject yourself to disrespect. BOTTOM LINE

Answer 2

How about this; You are 1st an "Adult Woman" and 2nd His(Son) and Her(Your Daughter In-Law) MOTHER! So BE The Adult and Mother, by Example! Show them that you DO NOT have "a wet-noodle" for a "Back-Bone!" Tell them both! You will not have or tolerate their behavior in your house and around you!
Respect is EARNED and TAUGHT, by Example! Your kids think and believe that Momma(You) is "a push-over" who does not have "a back-bone," just "a wet-noodle" so they CAN and Do what ever they please! This is "the example" that they have learned so far, from you!
Our children don't need Momma and Daddy to be their "friend," they have enough friends, as it is! They need us to be "The Parent," that can and does "teach" them to become "respectful" Adults, themselves.
You can show them by being "A Loving Mother," that "Stands-Up" and says; "I've had it! I'm tired of ya'll being RUDE towards me, so STOP all of it right now; or don't bother coming to see me, until YOU CHANGE!"
Or you can continue to be their "door-mat," that they walk all over and really start to treat you worse than they have before, because they know that they can do that!
Once you tell them how it is going to be from now on; and they decide to have "a hissy-fit" and run away, fine! Once they see Momma being "Firm" and NOT running after them saying; "Come back Baby's!" Run all over Momma, here I am laying down "walk all over me," Disrespect Me, some more! They will change so they can be around you, because they will want to be around Momma, because She is so Strong! Momma Loves Herself enough that She won't let us "Abuse" Her anymore, so She must Love us, as much too!
Love and Abuse are "a fine line!" You have to Love yourself, enough and First, before you can Love another! Or else you will only be "Abused" by all, around you.... That is not Love!
Just Be Strong! Act on the feelings that you express to them, and don't back-down, or cave-in to them! You will see a Huge Difference, in how they treat you from now on!
Good Luck!

Answer 3

We are not responsible for how others treat us, but we are totally responsible for how we treat others. You will love him because he is your son, but that doesn't mean that you have to like him. His wife has probably learned how to be disrespectful from watching him. He is the one that needs to be tamed. Don't put up with it, especially in your own home.

Answer 4

This question could've been written by my dad! We also have similar problems with my brother and sis in law but my father was so gracious and such a gentleman. Bottom line is, don't stoop to their level. If they continue to be disrespectful, talk to them and tell them you're not going to tolerate it.

Answer 5

I would just put distance between myself and them. The answer seems to be letting go. In this way, you protect yourself from pain and give them a chance to think about how they communicate with you. You will become stronger.

Answer 6

Do not bite the carrot. We are quick to become a mirror and display the same feelings we receive.... I find myself praying for people I have a hard time dealing with... it helps to pray for people you can't stand to be around... pray for them- not you. You'll be surprised on the results.

Answer 7

distance yourself from what hurts u, limit the time u are around them, if confronting them has done no good.