My wife and i have been married for 6 years, we have two children together and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. Each year for Christmas my wifes parents buy her and my two children(with her) airline tickets to go visit their condo and her grandmother in Texas(we live in Maine). they usually stay between 2 and 3 weeks. Not only do i miss my kids, but feel kind of left out. This year i asked my wife if my daughters and I could go along if I purchased my own airline tickets and rented another car in texas. I was told there is not enough room at the condo and that I wouldn't like it at her grandmothers, so basically i got a no. how should i feel.
2006-12-28 01:40:10 · 12 answers · asked by hhhmmmmm?? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No my inlaws really don't like me. we live 5 minutes from them and i feel they are to involved in our marraige at times and have said so.
2006-12-28 02:15:28 · update #1
I would be upset also. You are a family now and your wife shouldn't want to break that up. She should explain that to her mom and let the gift be half the payment for the whole family to come visit and stay at a hotel. A week would be plenty of time. In laws can be rude sometimes, but your wife should stand up for her family.
2006-12-28 01:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she does not have any one in texes she is seeing b/c me and my husband have been married for 4 yrs we have 1 child with him and 2 from a pre relationship and i will be dammed if he goes somewhere that me and all 3 of me children can not go for 2 to 3 hr let alone weeks so yes you should be very upset about that either she is seeing someone else or her family cant stand you and she does not know how to tell you but she has to realize you are her husband and she needs to see that this bothers you talk to her tell her that you and your other 2 children are going away on a vacation pick a special day like your birthday or anniversary and tell her that her and the other 2 can not go b/c you family is going and see how she takes it then see will know how you feel (dont really take a vacation that could casue more lissue just tell her you are )
2006-12-28 01:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your wife how you feel being left out. How the situation hurts you and how you miss her and the kids when they are away. Do you have issues with your in-laws? Do they have issues with you? You need to inquire more on this situation with your wife.
On the up side, think of it as a mini vacation without your wife and kids around. Think of the peace and quiet! See your family and friends, do household projects that your wife has been bugging you to do, make sure that the house is clean when she gets back.
When she does return, take her out for a romantic dinner. Buy her a card, flowers and tell her how much she means to you.
2006-12-28 01:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by sunnys_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not right. it seems your wife's parents and grandmother doesn't respect your marriage. and your wife, by accepting the invitation and airline tickets, is advocating that. your family doesn't perforate at you and your children from that previous relationship. yeah, she is visiting with her parents and all but she's married to you. when you get married, it's a union between a man and a woman, leaving your parents homes and coming together as one. i'd talk to your wife about it and let her know how you feel. maybe you can resolve things with her.
2006-12-28 02:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be bothered by this. Someone is playing favorites. The entire family should be treated equal and you all should be able to visit granda's condo, even if you have to rent a hotel room or double up the sleeping arrangements. Let her know that you are hurt and feel left out.
2006-12-28 01:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your first reaction would be feeling hurt at being left out, I would take this opportunity and go somewhere with your daughters from your previous relationship. Your girls will not always want to be with their dad, as they grow older they will have friends of their own that they want to be with, so get as much of them while you can. This is a golden opportunity for you to spend more time with your girls.
When your other children get older they won`t always want to go to Texas, one year they will say i want to do something different .... or they may even say that they want to go with their dad, then you`ll have 4 children to contend with : )
Try not to feel hurt or resentful (easier said than done) Just do what your wife is doing with your other children.
You are not being selfish.
2006-12-28 01:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very offended!!!! There is no room for you to "Camp out" in the living room or even on the bedroom floor? the kids don't need a bed, why don't they get sleeping bags and "camp out" at grandma's on the floor. I would not let the kids go....just say, Honey, you go this year and I will take care of the kids and you go have a nice time... see what happens then.
2006-12-28 01:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should feel awful. That's selfish of her and her parents. When u 2 married, u all became 1 big family, not hers & yours. She's dead wrong. It's not fair to your other 2 kids either. If she wanted to keep it as 2 separate families then she should have never married!
2006-12-28 01:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by jlicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both had separate lives at one point. Maybe your wife is trying to keep it simple. Or maybe it is the grandparents that have a problem and your wife does not want you to know, kind of keeping the piece. I would ignore it and carry on with life. Extended families can be awkward sometimes.
2006-12-28 01:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That seems really weird to me. How come there is no room even if its on the floor. She might be hiding something from you.
2006-12-28 01:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by lluvia2wcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋