2006-12-28 01:13:08 · 29 answers · asked by tazzyoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmm,
Does it bother you if he has female friends? Do you believe that married men should not go out with females, not on a date, but just friends going out, meeting for lunch, a show, just so that they don't have to do something alone or even just to hang out? A guy will probably prefer the company of a lady or ladies. IF he was a popular guy before marriage, then to expect him to become a wallflower now is absurd. So long as he isn't engagine in any cybersex, then he's not doing anything wrong per se. If he prefers to be online with them over his wife, now he's crossing the line. The rule of relationships is that a man is as faithful as his options. A man that only knows one woman has few opportunities to cheat on his wife. A man who knows a lot of women may have more opportunity, but then he's meeting these women online, not in the real world. Does he really have a chance with these ladies?!? Even if in his mind he believe he could score, the reality is that he's safe to these ladies, because they don't have to see them. Now, if these are people he knows in life, co-workers, neighbors, etc., then I might show some concern. He is married and while he may have friends of both genders, at home, he should focus on you. An occasional conversation with someone else is fine, but prolonged talking, to a specific lady is cause for some concern. Unless the woman is dying of cancer or having family issues, then he needs to spend time working on his own family issue, namely you. IF there are issues that he's assisting someone with, he could involve you, and then you won't feel threatened or concerned. You'd be part of the conversation. At least while he's online, he's home and available to help you out around the house. Its when he isn't home that you need to look for a lawyer.
2006-12-28 01:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Neptune 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it need not be cheating...
I am married and in college, i sometimes chat with my freinds online. There is nothing wrong we talk(we r mostly joking around and having fun). We just talk like regular friends and they r all decent guys! Yea it has never gone in the wrong direction. They respect me in a similar way and my hubby does not have a problem with it.
However if your hubby is doing it everyday with the same girl and goes on to talk for more than an hour long chat and very frequent chat during the day. There may be more to it than just chatting. Try to sneak into thier conversation sometime and find out what they r talking about everyday!
2006-12-28 01:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Someday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how the hubby is talking on the computer. If he is talking romantically or otherwise, and by otherwise I mean "naughty", that is cheating. If he's just talking about sports or friendship type things, then it wouldn't be considered cheating.
Perception is everything. If hubby is being secretive, then he has something to hide.
2006-12-28 01:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by moonprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they're talking about.
When it gets to the point where the husband starts to think about being with another woman, whether on the computer or in person, that's when it becomes cheating.
I would say if he's flirting with other women on the internet, it's cheating. Just becuase he typed in instead of saying it out loud doesn't make it any different, it's still cheating.
2006-12-28 01:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well do you consider it cheating if he:
talks to women at the office?
chats with women at a cocktail gathering?
I think not...although what is being discussed may have an influence. I guess that I have a hard time calling it cheating if there is no physical contact. If there is x-rated online talk, then it is stupid for a married man but still not cheating IMHO.
2006-12-28 01:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by I know for sure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Conversations lead to all types of crap. Like secret hook-ups, sex on the down low. Meeting for drinks and a movie. Yea buddy, it's all considered cheating
2006-12-28 01:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is what it may lead to that is cheating. It is a beginning sign for something. You need to talk about this on how it effects you and why he feels that he needs to talk to another women online.
2006-12-28 01:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds stupid and is a poor liar. what variety of guy might shaggy dog tale on his spouse, intentionally putting theory and doubt into her head that he's dishonest on her? No SANE guy who valued his existence. Secondly, he have been given caught, he probable meant each and every thing he stated. Thirdly, he overcompensates with the aid of telling you he loves you plenty the two out of guilt or that precisely, to overcompensate. He sounds as though he remains in love along with her. i'm sorry if it is not what you had to pay attention yet it is my common opinion.
2016-11-24 19:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by rolland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how they are talking to one another. if its just friendly talk then its nothing. Its jus a female friend like you have guy friends. But if he's having sex online...then it is cheating. if he wants to go further than just the friendship. Just ask him about her.
2006-12-28 01:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would think so... his attention is going elsewhere instead of towards you... Talk 2 him find out why... May be you need to kick it up a notch or 2 w/him and you...
2006-12-28 01:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋