i have a 13 daughter and i see myself becoming a soop i check her e-mail her myspace and her friend list. is that to much. and yes i found some thing that shouldn't be there, and she know i do this. she just says that her friends mom trust them more.and that i am a soop. is it to much?
2006-12-28 01:11:49 · 12 answers · asked by CHARLES L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, you are a snoop, but you also have the responsibility to make sure that your child is safe as she's only 13. Snooping is your responsibility from time to time.
As a parent, remember one thing, if a teenager's lips are moving---they are probably lying.
2006-12-28 01:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing with my two teenagers. They kind of expect it from me now because I have always done it. I've told them that it is not a lack of trust, it's instead, an overwhelming concern that they may make some serious mistake and I want to help prevent that if I can. I love them both very much and they know that. So just instill in your daughter that you too love her very much and maybe she will accept that dad is just looking out for her. BTW, it seems as though she gets so upset about it because she has something to hide. Be cautious!
2006-12-28 09:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give your children some privacy so that they are able to make decisions some good and some bad. This is how a child learns and becomes the person that we want. Everyone makes mistakes along the way as I am sure that you have and we must trust are children with the values and direction that we have given them, to make the right decisions. As a child gets older they want privacy and to govern themselves in certain ways. Times are different now and we must allow are children a certain amount of privacy. If you are truly concerned get Net Nanny or another program to monitor the sites your child visits on the web and make sure that she is very savvy when it comes to web predators. Good luck and it is such a demanding job trying to raise and child and keep them safe in these times. I am sure you are doing a great job. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-28 09:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is your job and responsibility to know what is going on. And in the age of Internet and the issues and concerns that arise due to computer access. I do the same thing. With the explanation, I am the mother. Bottom line. You have some privacy and will have more when you are grown. However as a mom, it is your duty to know what is going on if she is uncomfortable. Your doing your job. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-28 09:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents need to be aware of their children's activity but at the same time we also need to trust them. You cannot protect her 24 hrs a day and she can still get into trouble. Keep talking and educating her about the world so that when you are not around she will make the right choices.
2006-12-28 09:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am 20 and I know when I was that young my mother was in my business all the time and I am sure she pervented me from doing things I shouldnt have been doing and I thank her for it. So in my opinion I think it is fine what your doing. Your daughter is young and isnt aware of whats really out there. You and I know what kind of people are on the internet and they aint always good people. So your doing great and you prevent her from doing wrong. Good luck, Take it from me she wont understand till she is around my age, then she'll thank you
2006-12-28 09:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have more faith in your daughter. Sit her down and tell her that the only reason you do is b/c you care about her. Tell her if she thinks you can trust her than you'll stop, but she should tell you anything that goes on. However, that'll probably only work if you have a good relationship with her.... and scince your a snoop I bet your relationship isn't to good.....
P.S learn to spell
2006-12-28 09:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To them it is snooping and not trusting them. When they get older they will understand that you are just trying to protect them. There are to many perverts out there that prey on young girls through the internet I will do the same thing to my daughter when she gets older
2006-12-28 09:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to do this in a kindly manner i have a step daughter who i trust but she is only 14 and she starting to notice the boys and i just want to keep her safe and know what she is up too i want to hope her upbringing would be at her best judgement.....so yes take a peek once in awhile...
2006-12-28 09:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by kris b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch for her because some child molesters are. You can never be too cautious.
2006-12-28 09:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Collared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋