I have a great relatonship with Dad and was raised to be a respectable man. Now he is old and sick. He was such a strong man, full of life. I am going to be so torn when he goes. I feel like I'd have been better off if I'd never had this gift from God. What am I going to do when he dies. How can I prepare??
2006-12-28 01:05:34 · 11 answers · asked by Carl Ray 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Words & Wordplay
My dad left when I was a year old and it has seriously messed me up, admitted to a psychiatric ward at the age of 16, and I still have resentment towards him. It's better to have had a dad in your life, because at least you can share the memories you have of him. I'm sorry to hear your father is unwell, erm...maybe you could prepare by getting a video camara and recording you and him spending time togther, or just look at some old photos of the two of you and talk about them. Good luck whatever happens xx
2006-12-28 01:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by angel_of_thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to lose someone you love so much. The best thing that you can do is to be there for your dad the way he has obviously been there for you. Don't think that it's a taboo subject with him, either. He probably needs to talk about things just as much as you do and will be grateful if you're upfront about things. I think you already know that you would NOT have been better off. There are many people out therethat would love to have a father just for a day, let alone the years that you've already been blessed. I would suggest some grief counseling in the meantime, and just be sure to let your dad know how much you love and cherish him as much and as often as possible!
2006-12-28 09:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so blessed with a good father who care and raised you to be a respectable man. It will definitely be painful and sad to lose him. Life still goes on and no one can live forever but memory can. So what you can do now is to spend more time with him whenever possible. So that you would not regret not having spend the most precious time with him.
And always remember that no one can help you except yourself. If you choose to be strong after your dad is gone, he will be very happy for you too.
2006-12-28 09:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by whiteeagle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is far better that you have been blessed with this gift of having such a wonderful father than to have never known or experienced his presence in your life. He has helped to make you into the person you are today, and for that you should be grateful for however long he is in your life. It's hard losing someone that has always been a part of your life, that you love and that loves you in return. Knowing that you will eventually lose that person never makes it any easier. But think about how much better off you are for having him in your life, for however long or short that time may be.
Think about the kind of person you would be today if he hadn't been present in your life at all. Would you be the respectable man that you are now? Wouldn't you be just a little insecure about yourself and possibly jaded and/or cynical about life, if he wasn't in your life?
My dad passed away when I was 15. He wasn't my biological father, but he was the only man that I had ever known as a father figure and the only man I ever called "dad". We knew before he died that he wasn't going to live long, but that didn't make his passing, when it came, any easier to deal with. The unfortunate thing about his passing was that, even though we had expected it, I realized only too late just how much I had taken him for granted. We had a falling out days before his death and I never had the chance to make amends for things; a chance to apologize and make things right and have peace between us.
There have been many times over the last 9 years that I too have wondered if I would have been better off without him in my life. But you know what? I wouldn't have been better off. I just wanted to be selfish and spare myself the pain of his loss by thinking I would have been better off without him in my life, when in reality he gave me and the rest of my family so much. I wouldn't have my little brother and sister now, I wouldn't have seen my mother happy for the 11 years that they were married, and I wouldn't have experienced his unconditional love that was not hindered or limited by our lack of biological ties. And most importantly, besides his part in helping to make me into the person that I am now, he taught me to cherish the people and small things in life that we are given and to never taken anything or anyone for granted.
There is no way to fully prepare you for your father's death. As someone that learned the hard way, I would like to extend to you the following advice. Love your father while you have the chance, without reservation. Don't be afraid to tell your father that you love him. Those three words can never be said too much. It is better that you tell him while he is alive to hear it, than to regret not taking the chance when you had it. If there is one thing that I wish more than anything, it is that I had just one more chance to tell my dad that I loved him (and still do). So tell your dad that you love him, every chance that you can. And cherish this time that you have with him, however long or brief though it might be. Spend time with him. Treasure those memories that you two have already created and create some more to carry with you when he does pass on. Other than that, just be there for him, be strong and remember that he'll always be a part of you. I wish you well.
2006-12-28 20:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by xx_villainess_xx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A father is the most practical guy in the family. That makes it hard to get what he really is from his external outfits. The best gift to a father is when you can understand what he really is and show respect and knowledge towards that.
Also naturally the father is satisfied when he believes that he is leaving his beloved with some one who can care for them after he leaves.
2006-12-28 10:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ajane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is Better to have a Dad that you spend time with all of your life then to not have him in your life.
Death is a part of life and it is one of those things that everyone of us will go thru.
When my father passed away we celebrated his Life and remembered him always.
There are still times when I miss him and those feelings are what keeps him alive.
It is better to Love and loose then to never love at all
2006-12-28 09:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The saying goes it is better to off loved and lost than never loved at all. I no this is little comfort at this time. I new my granma was passing before she did, and nothing prepared me for it. But you do get threw it. Make sure you have chance to say goodbye and have no regrets!
2006-12-28 09:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. Loving people makes us very vulnerable.
There's that old saying about better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, but it's hard to agree with that sometimes when you're hurting.
2006-12-28 09:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't lose your heart, man is mortal, one day all of us will have to face the end, but nothing is end,you are lucky that you get such a worderful dad.
2006-12-28 09:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering all factors I would prefer to have one as that makes life for my mom more comfortable.
2006-12-28 09:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by ccfruitpunch93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋