How did you get over the fear of sending your children to school? I know some parents can't wait to send their kids there but I on the other hand am a nervous wreck. I have never been seperated from my kids but now the time has come and I don't know what to do. I guess my biggest problem is that I feel like I wont be there to protect them. Is this normal? Am I being too overprotectant? Please help, thanks to all.
2006-12-28 00:30:27 · 9 answers · asked by ♡Rummy1125 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Sorry dads...I forgot to include you guys when asking this question, you're thoughts are just as important! Thanks so much.
2006-12-28 01:08:26 · update #1
Boy, the differences in response from male to female is amazing!
I went through the same thing when I had to send my children to school for the very first time. You are not being over protective and it makes you a wonderful mother. It is something that most good mothers experience. One of the things I used to combat this was to play an active roll in their school experiences. I became a teachers helper and eventually a part time sub-teacher. It was great! There is always something to be done at school and even if you are not in your child's class you are near them and see them when you want. I never interrupted the classroom, of course, but I would walk past the class just to peek in. It was an overwhelming feeling to see my child interacting with other kids the same age and I became more comfortable after I saw their happy faces. Now, that isn't to say they were happy every day! There were times they refused to go to school but I really had to take the time to talk to them and find out the reason. Most of the time it was because they were overwhelmed with the mental stimulation and felt a bit out of sorts.
I am now a Grandmother of seven and I must admit that there were times I didn't think my children would make it that far. lol
They did great, and so will you! It takes time but eventually with all the activities and homework your child will be bringing home and talking you into, you will be greatful for the breaks you will receive while their in school.
Keep your chin up Little One! You will do wonderful! Just remember your Mom! Nobody will ever be able to replace you!
Good Luck
Blessed Be
2006-12-28 01:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A father here...
Have you ever seen kids who are 20-30 years old, still lives at home, and can't interact or function as an adult with others? This is an extreme example of what happens when parents protect their kids too much. Your child will be going to a very protective environment, where he will discover a whole new world. You have provided a foundation for him, now it's time for him to spread his wings a bit and look a little further afield. Look around you - everyone you see made that change, and probably over 99% of them did it successfully. Your child will, too, and in a few days, you'll realize that you were worried over nothing.
Besides, he'll be back home in just a few hours.
2006-12-28 00:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everything you are feeling is very normal. Every mother goes through that when their child starts school for the first time. Here is what I suggest. Let the child ride the bus the first day (if he gets a bus) or drive him yourself and pretend like you are leaving. Go outside of the class room and peek in. If you see there is a problem, then you may take the child home and try again. However, chances are pretty good that the child will make lots of friends and actually love learning. Teachers understand what mothers' go through and will accomodate you on this. Don't worry, your child is going to be just fine. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-12-28 00:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Ralfcoder, it may be very difficult to let you kids out of your sight for a few hours every day to go and play with strangers for the most part but it extremely important for you kids to know you love them and that you do not fear what is going to happen.
Children know and can feel when your upset or scared and if you feel like the world if a scary and terrible place they will never enjoy school or even want to leave the house. (This is bad)
My mother was also very over protective, and my 27 year old brother still lives at home and has no desire to leave or have a family of his own.
Every child looks back at their parents when their older and thanks them for encouraging them to leave and go outside, and play with friends and try new things. No one says to their mother thanks for being overprotective and helping me fear the world outside this house.
So let them go to school, be happy for them and if your worried don't show it, and walk them to and from school if possible it will show you love them and let you know they arrived safely at least.
Good luck,
2006-12-28 00:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Gary Bucht 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal!
The first day of school is every mothers "sick day", I cried all day and gave myself a stomach ache. Try not to show your fear to your child, it will make her/him more nervous. Remember that once your "baby" is there with other children s/he will be playing and having a wonderful time making new friends. It is much harder on us mom's left behind at the bus stop.
In the meantime, take a tour of your child's school. Meet the teacher and find out where the classroom is. It helps to be able to imagine your child sitting safely in their class having a favorite book read to them by a smiling face of a teacher you have met and know by name.
2006-12-28 00:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is in 1st grade and my son in 6th. Im always a nervous wreck. Kids pick on my son because hes not ghetto and hes a bookworm. I just want to snatch him out of school sometimes. Then we have my little 6 year old who's friends are talking about sex to her. Its crazy out there. We cant monitor what are kids are being exposed to at school and thats what is causing me to go crazy.
2006-12-28 04:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is completely normal. Something to consider for yourself is to get involved in something while your child is in school. This way you can get out of the house for abit as well while your child is in school. For example, just as your child is going to school you can return to school and take courses in something that you enjoy or that could benefit your financial future.
2006-12-28 01:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal and I feel the same way. Our kindergarten program here is only about 3 hours a day so it's been really good and has helped me prepare for when he is gone all day. Almost every mom feels this anxiety. Our little babies are getting more independent every day and you'll be fine.
2006-12-28 00:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by BAnne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem with my mother---------she never accepted the fact that her children grew up, and were not always there to live with her. Parents must realize that life is a journey-an exciting journey-for their children. This is the way it is, from birth to death, each person must have his own life, and this is the way G-d has ordained it. We are all a small part of history, and must have our share of it...one step at a time. Parents are put here to help their children go out into this life, not to hinder them.
2006-12-28 00:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Shossi 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋