This guy knows that I am married and still is trying to flirt with my wife. My wife talks to him on the phone when I am not around and she thought I did not know until I confronted her. She says everything is platonic. I dont know if that is true or not but I know for sure this guy knows shes married and I really want to call the SOB. What do you think?
2006-12-27 23:59:57 · 21 answers · asked by Mist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why bother the guy? He isn't your problem, your wife is. There is no human female so hideous that SOME guy won't sleep with her. That is how things are. Your wife is the one that is wrong, and you are wrong also. You aren't dealing with a home wrecking guy, you are dealing with a wife that is either cheating, thinking about it, or just immaturely flirting. You are blaming the guy- when you KNOW the problem is your wife's actions. Deal with your situation, don't lie to yourself by laying the blame on some guy.
2006-12-28 02:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is that your wife was talking to him and not being honest with you. That is her issue not his.
I would be more worried about HER dishonesty. Confront her on the issue of her lying to you. Tell her that it is very difficult to feel that this is platonic when she feels the need to lie to you about it.
I have male friends who are strictly platonic, but I would never lie to husband about speaking to them. (Just as my husband has female friends who are platonic.)
Marriage is based on honesty and communication - I wouldn't give a rats butt if she was talking to the Pope if she felt the need to lie to me! If she lies about a phone call imagine all the other things she might be lying about!
2006-12-28 00:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him and tell him to stay away. See if you can block his number on your phone. But you really need to be talking to your wife and find out what the problem really is. It is all up to your wife she can stop this if she wants to.
2006-12-28 00:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by forme_75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife and let her know how you feel about her talking to this guy let her be the one to cut the ties, because right now it doesn't matter what you say to the guy he is still going to look at her until she tells him different
2006-12-28 00:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife knows that you are not comfortable with this, why does she feel the need to talk with him over the phone when you are not there? Have a heart to heart talk with her. If after all this, she continues to talk with him, then call him. See what he has to say.
2006-12-28 00:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could confront him. What happens the next time your wife decides to buddy up with a louse? You can't spend the rest of your life running interference. You need to let her know that this is inappropriate - and you won't stand for it.
2006-12-28 00:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The issue here is not him, it is your wife. She is the one who is married. You need to deal with her directly and not re-direct your problems on to this guy. Get into counseling. Honestly, if you and she were communicating, she wouldn't be needing to talk to this guy.
Work things out with her. Calling him up and yelling at him might make you feel better, but it's not going to fix the problems in your marriage.
2006-12-28 00:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by leaptad 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In all actuality, it is not the guy's responsibility to stop. Apparently, he knows that you are married and doesn't care. It is really up to your wife to stop the contact with him, that is if she truly values your marriage. So, to contact him would actually only feed his ego. Your only concern should be with seeing why your feels that this sort of behavior is appropriate and tell her that she needs to stop.
2006-12-28 01:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dazed and Confused?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a truck driver and you know we all have anger issues for starters. So, after I tied him to the back of my truck, naked, I would drive slowly down the street, letting him run behind (not hurting him-he he) and use my air Horne so everyone can come out and see what scum sucking cheaters should get. Oh yeah, I would write in permanent markers on him cheater too.
if that failed, I would beat the sh*t out of him in front of her then find a divorce lawyer.
2006-12-28 00:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem lies with your wife. She is the one married to you, not him. If the relationship is platonic she should not have to speak to him secretly.
You need to be talking to her not him.
2006-12-28 00:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by mothersister_3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋