How do you survive the first year of marriage?

Question

Things are tough, but we still love each other and are committed.

Any tips would be appreciated!!!

Answer 1

im only recently married things too here are tough but the best advice i can give you is if you love them and if marriage is meant to work then nothing will break you and your man/husband appart, try doing more things together if you are not already not always does it cost to have a romantic moment together and if you seem like spending too much time together know eachothers boundaries know that sometimes you both like a little chill time to yourself and allow time for yours and his hobbies if you both have a simular intrest in something make it something to do together

Answer 2

Good question adn the first year is a trying one. You're subconsciously testing your limits as a couple to see who is in charge, a bit of a power battle. The golden rule to a successful marriage is: GIVE. Don't take, give. If both partners did this, then a happy marriage is sure to succeed. Also, be your spouse's BEST FRIEND! This is a million times more important than love. Believe me, love comes and goes - depends on the weather, how tired you are, what stresses there are. But friendship remains eternal and it will weather you through some difficult times. So be best friends with each other.
Ignore the idiots who suggest sex parties - sex is not the be all and end all of marriage. There may be times when the sex is infrequent due to illness or tiredness, but friendship will pull you through.
But remember to give to your spouse more attention, and compliments, and affection than you expect to receive. If your spouse does the same for you, you will have a happy and long-lasting marriage.

Answer 3

The first year is a breeze compared to the 7th. Yes, the first year is rough, becasue you're still getting to know eachother. 3 tips, never go a day without saying I love you at least once, Never go to bed mad, and NEVER fight about money. No matter how mad you are at eachother, follow those rules and you'll be fine. Well going to bed mad can be good sometimes..LOL. But Remember it is a process and you are both adults. And don't try to change eachother. YOu fell in love becasue of how you both are. So don't fix what isn't broken. If the love is strong and you don't let petty things get in the way of that, you'll do fine. Remember it's okay to argue and fight, (Not physically), that's where the fun starts with Make-up-sex. I'm on year 13 and still having make-up sex. Don't let others cloud your judgement of your marraige. Your marraige comes before friends. Congrats. And have a wonderful life together. Remember life is too short and there's too much fun together to be had, so don't waste it fighting over money, sex or anything. You will always have ups and downs. LIfe is more fun that way. If everything in life was perfect and no problems, life would be boring.

Answer 4

Marriage is something that has to be worked on 24/7. Believe me, I've been married for 24 years. You will have your ups and your downs. The only thing you can do to keep it going is to keep loving eachother. Give eachother space when you need it and be there for eachother when you need it. You will have your disagreements, and you will have to respect eachother's feelings and thoughts. Although you are now married and made one, you are also individuals with differences. If you keep respect and communication in the marriage, then you should be ok. Also, remember to laugh and have a good time with eachother. Continue to date eachother, although you are married. Pick a night a week where you do something together, go to the movies, go out to dinner together or just stay home and play a board game or video game. A "just the two of you" night.

Good luck and may you be blessed with many, many more years ahead.

Answer 5

Hi.
You should have got married in year two.
But seriously,as long as you are the people that attracted you to eachother in the first place you should survive anything that gets thrown at you. Marriages aren't made in heaven- they come in kit form and you have to build them yourselves.
Just make an effort to keep loving eachother and showing that love is still there,and you'll survive any Tsunami life throws at you.
All the best,
Misterviv

Answer 6

Frosty,
the first thing is to always remember that your best friend is your husband. That is the secret to marriage, always staying best of friends.
Next, NEVER let the sun go down on an argument, because or you will do is wake up to the same argument the next day.
Switch the TV OFF and talk to each other. That is the singular most efective killer of marriages, silence in front of the TV.
I remember my first year of marriage, it wasn't too good. But we got over it and now 17 years later we are still happily married.

Answer 7

Couples usualy survive in its first year of marriage because this is what I refer to as the honeymoon stage where everything seems new to them, wherein they moved from being single into a couple relationship, where their differences crashes at times but can be easily resolved and every issues of life needs mutual attention. The reason for survival...........GIVE AND TAKE. good luck .

Answer 8

Sometimes, letting go seems like the easiest thing to do. But think about this: you've invested so much of your time and energy into another person; you've made a solemn promise; and you still know there's love, even if it's hiding underneath the surface. This website will show you how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, even if you're the only one trying https://tr.im/Dl94N

Answer 9

Stick it out. It's not just the 1st year of marriage, but the first 7 years are the hardest.

Answer 10

My first year of marriage was rough. We had a newborn and moved. I became a SAHM and I had postpartum depression. But we stuck it out. We find it important to have date nights and to have separate interests. He likes to golf with his friends and I like to shop and go to dinner with mine. And we write notes to eachother. Maybe a quick "I love you" slipped into a pocket or a letter to remind us of how much we mean to eachother. You made a commitment and like anything; you have to work at it. Somedays more than others. Find little ways to show you appreciate eachother. Look for the positive points in your relationship. Don't let the negatives overrun what you have. You might find, like we did, you get through it and it makes you a stronger couple.

And Good Luck!