I am married.I have a malefriend.I now realise that he wants more than just friendship. Should I end it now?

Answer 1

No you should not end it now. I will tell you why, I had a great male friend, my husband knew about him, but never knew I considered him a good friend - he was someone I trained with (martial arts class) anyway - he was great company - also married and he knew my kids and I his - Iknew his wife etc - nothing hidden - However, we weren't really hoenst about how much contact we had, we texted reguarly simple things like how's your day etc - but i suppose it was deeper than a reguarl friendship - but that was all it ever was - a strong friendship - we talked about how we would never ever further the friendship into a relationship because we knew it could destroy the friends bit as well as devastate families we loved. so it stayed as frineds until my husband read an email i sent to a girlfriend saying I had missed the male friend while I had been on holiday. it was enough to cause my husband to think all manner of things were going on when they were not and ultimately he confronted him accusing him of wanting to "F**k my wife" etc and threatening to kill him. It was terrible and it ruined the friendship. Worse tho, it drove a wedge between me and my husband - that was 3 years ago - he has always been jealous type, can't even look at another man - but friendship? it's outta the question. I wish I had sttod up to him years ago - instead i let him beat me down and now I am miserable and desperate for freedom - worse part is I have few friends. If you want this friend for more than friends, you are not being honest about your feelings for your husband, Analyze yourself, but don;t ever let yourself be bullied one way or another - life is too short. Good luck xxxxx

Answer 2

Why are you asking? If you are married and this male friend wants more than just friendship, he is not only disrespecting you, he is disrespecting your marriage. What kind of friend is this? You shouldn't even have to ask this question. Sounds like you may want a little more than just friendship also. DON'T DO IT! Take my word. It's not worth the pain and guilt.

Answer 3

You should step back from the friendship before it ends up causing some type of problems in your marriage.

Answer 4

Not end the friendship, but let him know: I AM MARRIED. He needs to understand. Unless you also like him.....

Tell him all the great things you and your husband do and he'll think that you're already happy ....... sort of brag.

Answer 5

Of course not. If your current husband does not satisfy you then you have a second man that might be able to.

Men have a responsability to deliver at home. Both emotionaly and physically. It is natural for women to persue satisfaction outside of the home when their man is inadequate. Wait and see if your hubby makes the grade princess.

Answer 6

maybe the reason for him to want more than friends with you is that.. he sense something wrong with your marriage.
maybe there are times that out of curiousity you were able to mention something not good in your relationship with your husband.. and he took that or he misunderstood that as a sign of you wanting him to act someone special.. that he might be thinking that it is you who want to have a more than just a friendship 'relationship' with him.

Answer 7

If you want to save your marriage, I suggest you end this friendship. You can't be friends with someone who threatens your marriage.

Answer 8

well seeing that he is ur friend i know he knows ur married so tell him how it makes u feel that he is putting some unwanted pressure on u. Tell him u'd like to remain friends, but his exta attentions have to stop! Or the friendship will have to cease!

Answer 9

You should end immediately. Do not think twice. he wants to take disadvantage of your friendship.

Answer 10

If you love your husband, say no to your male friend. It is not possible if your male friend make you fall in love with him. Quit your friendship with him.