i did nothing wrong?

Question

ME AND MY BOFRIEND AND HIS FRIEND. WE WENT FOR POOL AND DRINKS. SO WE HAD FUN AND WE WENT TO GET SOME PIZZA. WE WENT HOME. MY BOFRIEND WENT TO SWITCH OF THE LIGHTS AT HIS PLACE. ME AND THE HIS FRIEND WENT UP TO EET. AND THEN HE STARTED TO KISS ME. I SAID STOP. AND HE DID. THEN HE STARTED TO KISS ME AGAIN. I SAID **** DUD STOP IT. HIS GIRL IS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. AND HE TOLD ME NOT TO TEL HER. BUT I DID TELL HER. BUT NOW SHE IS PISST AT ME. BUT I DID NOT KISS HEM. SHE DON'T WANT TO SEE ME. SHE BLIEF HIM BUT NOT ME. HE DONE IT 5 OR 6 TIMES WITH OTHER GIRLS.I DON'T WANT TO LOSE MY BEST FRIEND. HOW CAN I GET HER BACK. AND MY OTHER FRIEND STAY WITH THEM BUT KNOW I CAN'T GO THERE TO SEE HER. I DON;T WANT TO LOSE MY FRIENDS

Answer 1

Hi i've been reading some of the other answers and i just want to say that men do force themelves they are not always innocent. Your friends should trust you. I've been in the same situation. My friends boy tried it on with me and i did nothing to him. not a word of encouragement, not even a smile and he still tried. Luckily for me my friend believed me. Your friend obviously doesn't want to face the truth of what this man has done. You should give her time to see just what he's like. you did nothing wrong don't listen to people when they say you led him because judging from what you wrote you were firm and honest but he couldn't take no for an answer. Your friend will hopefully realise in time that he isn't a very good boyfriend. Give her time and support.

Answer 2

You need to get this girl to listen to you and hear your side of things but that's not going to happen while she's angry.

I'd suggest writing her a letter, it's more personal than an email and she can read it in her own time, sometimes words written on paper seem to hold hold more weight to your side of the story and it will give her the chance to read them over and over again.

Tell her what happened, the full story 100% exactly the truth so anything HE says that disagrees with is a lie.
Tell her how you told him to stop, and that she knows this is not the first time and you value her friendship a million times more than any boy could destroy.

A face to face meeting could start an argument which will only make things worse.

Answer 3

Well. You can explain your friend the entire matter. She should believe you. Because friendship without Trust is of no use. Dont worry, your friend will come to know the truth from somebody else. Because as you said that that boy is flirting with other girls also. Or you can also approach some other girl with whom he has flirted and you both can tell your friend the truth.

Answer 4

There is more to this then we can see. There is a reason she believes him over you. You need to address that reason. Give her some clarity in that respect and then she will believe you.

Possible reasons she is deluded may be:

(a) You have proven untrustworthy in the past
(b) She loves him and does not want to be hurt by the thought of what you are saying. She is doing self preservation.
(c) She wanted an excuse to alianate you.

There are lots and lots more but you will have to dig those out sorry.

Answer 5

you have done nothing wrong but you have to wait. May be she is really not angry with you but having problem with her boy. she may be feeling possessive and insecure and your presence may be making things worse. Though you may not be causing any problem, you are like the proverbial catalyst that accelerates her feeling of insecurity. At all cost, stick to you bf and avoid her bf. Go out of your way to keep a good distance from her bf. Things will work out. Give time and be patient, and the truth shall prevail.
Best of luck!!

Answer 6

She Kinda gonna take his side until lshe see's whats wrong for herself. You kinda need to play the waiting game if you want your mate back. If she takes the side of a bloke over a really good mate then her loss to be honest. Let her make her own mistakes and try and make new mates at the same time.

Answer 7

Darling. I think you had some part to play in this game. When you went upstairs with the guy (who was not your friend), you must have stayed back to come your friend along with you. It means you encouraged him to kiss you, otherwise the guy should not have courage to kiss you, knowingly that you are friend of his girls friends. I also gather that when he started to kiss you again, he must have fucked you and you kept agreed with him. You told your friend (who is his g/f) and she became annoyed and she did not want to speak with you. The guy must have also done such acts with other girls 5 or 6 times. So my dear Lady, you have done wrong as you encouraged him to come with you and allowed him to do kiss you and embrace you. Naturally you must have become excited and felt sexual pleasure. You must confess as it was your fault.

Answer 8

Maybe you should learn to spell firt of all ;-)

How old are you? Like 12

Deal with it and move on. At the end of the day she will soon realise what he's like and you just need to be there waiting when it does to offer your support. Thats what friend do ;-)

Good Luck

Answer 9

yes indeed,you did nothing wrong at all. But in most cases, that's how girls are. when their boyfriend cheats on them, they never blame him, they always blame the other girl althought it is so clear that he is the cheater.. My advice is, try to call or email her explaining that it is not ur fault and that he is the one who started kissing u and u did not kiss back and asked him to stop. explain that u care for her and wud never do anything to hurt her. if she still doesnt wanna talk to u, then just give up on her, she might be blindly in love with that loser that she does not see his mistakes and bad sides and finds excuses for him

Answer 10

well that is what you get for being so hot looking. Besides, if your best friend does not believe you or mad at you and you told the truth then she was not a friend like you thought she was. Part of life and growing up.