as she is in love with a office collegue who earns 6-7,00/- per month and she also earns the same amount ,but now we have engaged her to a rich,handsome,good business guy .
now i am feeeling guilty for her as she is upset without asking anything and doing whateverr we want .
but i cant see her crying.while she also know that this is a good decision but still she loves her office collegue.
do u think this is wrong? as we all r asking her to marry the person we all have chosen for her .and now she is also engaged .
what can be done
2006-12-27 21:51:26 · 13 answers · asked by i m ur fren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since she knows this is a good decision, i'm sure she'll get over it in time. you and your family are right - it's a better choice than her own, and she'll come to appreciate it someday. she apparently has sense in her - she realizes what the right path is and isn't making a big fuss, so i'm sure she'll understand and appreciate what you all have done for her. go on with the family decision.
2006-12-27 21:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by tell me all!!! 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I presume you are her elder sister. In a way you have been right in your worldly decision. Money & comforts do play a role in our lives. But you should have asked her about it. It is presumed that together they - your sis & her love - could have managed a reasonable living if the amount earned by them as you seem to mention is 6-7 thousand per month each. If it is 600-700, it won't work.
It is not too late. You can still intervene and give it a try, if you believe that the love is there with full sincerity & truthfullness.
After all it is of no use to force two persons to live together without mutual attachment. Yes, it will be a bit agonising and embarassing. But you may take the rich boy in confidence and if he is good, he will understand. At least give it a try. That will relieve you of sense of guilt.
CAUTION: You must verufy the credentials of the boy your sis loves. It is very important.
2006-12-27 22:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it shouldn't. Yep it sounds icky, but it's not like you can come up with a valid, pragmatic reason for why sex between ANY two CONSENTING ADULTS should be illegal, so what's your point, exactly? Did you really think this was a good "gotcha" question? The funny thing is, I'm willing to bet there are a lot of fundamentalists who are opposed to this, yet they had no problem with either Eve getting it on with her sons, or Adam getting it on with his daughters, or the same problems that would have arose with Noah and family. Then again, speaking of Noah, they feel genocide was justified, so what's a little incest, right? But seriously, DO you have a valid argument against incestual relationships? You can't use the "genetic problems for offspring" card since I'm sure you're not opposed to two people with Huntington's Disease procreating. You also can't use the "it's icky" card because would you outlaw marriages between two really ugly people? A better question for you gay marriage opponents who use the "marriage is for procreation" excuse: Why aren't you opposed to marriages between sterile people? Check and mate, have a good one. Thanks for playing though.
2016-03-13 22:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur sister really love the other person,pls talk to ur parents as she is only engaged and not married. Its not too late. Trying helping her out and she feels that she can be happy wth her choice , then help her.Dont spoil 3 ppl's life just for parents and every1 happiness....and if the marriage is not successful , there will be more problems...so get it sort out soon and all the best to U and ur sister
2006-12-27 22:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Prav 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
a person who is so loving will obviously be too honest and loving even to the future guy.. tell her sorry as yes u all broke her heart..
but m sure she will be very happy as if a gals nature is very nice she will be happy whatever she has got..n with the fact that she also feels her life is going correct..n time will make her feel that strongly...
its just matter of time to go... dnt worry and be with her all the time....till she gets married so that till that she cant ever be alone and left out to sit and think again and again...
2006-12-28 01:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should talk to ur parents regarding ur sister and her office collegue if she thinks that she will be happy with the person whom she loves then she should try to explain ur parents even u can speak to ur parents on her behalf (if she cant express herself) but before that make sure her office collegue also likes her the same way she do and wants to marry her and have that much confidence that he can keep her happy for lifetime.
ALL THE BEST to u and ur sister god bless both of u
2006-12-27 22:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by pearly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
arranged marriages do these things ever really work out for either partner , what happened to choosing the person u love and wanting to be with that person ..... she should suffer all her life becoz the guy she loves doesn't make as much as the other one ...what a way for her to live , but clearly i understand Ur culture and ur way of life , but u have to ask ur self sometimes does money really buy happiness ?
2006-12-28 12:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by amal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most important thing in this case is "She loves him" and I hope he loves her too! If I put myself in your shoes, I would convince my parents that marriage is all about loving & caring, money comes after. You should intervene and play an important role to avoid the greatest mistake that is taking place for which you are the witness & you may repant for life for this. Trust me, take my advice, call the boy home and introduce him to your parents & settle the issue at the earliest & avoid the tragedy ahead.
2006-12-27 22:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody should make such decisions for another human being, because it is none of your business. Obviously you come from one of those cultures where interfering in the right and beliefs of individuals is acceptable, but that does not make it right.
The best thing you can do is find out what she truly wants and then make sure that is what happens.
2006-12-27 22:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ted T 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations
(1) u have got your seat reserved in Heaven and ofcourse other family members have got their seats reserved. Good Job.
(2) Tell ur sis to forgive her office collegue, b'coz Men are made to be dumped for Money / Riches.
(3) Tell ur sis to think of those Big Houses and So Many Cars she gonna have, these will help her forget her past and see her bright future.
(4) All right with all the celebrations, you sis, family members and all. Ur sis will find it easy because she will have lots of happiness as a way to forget past.
What about the guy (office collegue), thought about him, u have snatched his happiness his life, what he has to rely on ??
Ever thought about Implications of ur decision ?????
2006-12-28 00:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋