I would really like to know how you feel when you see someone like me using the ladies room and women's dressing rooms. Most women are usually polite, but i think are uncomfortable.
2006-12-27 21:41:44 · 13 answers · asked by Melissa S 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Now this is a good question.
I like the fact that CeleryTree was honest and in a respectful way.
However we may all disagree, respect is the key factor when answering.
I am a straight biological female. It does not bother me in the least, it does not make me uncomfortable in any way, if I know a transgendered person is utilizing the ladies room, or the dressing room.
Why?
Because obviously this person is a woman in her mind, her presentation, and her belief.
I cannot negate that.
Genatalia is not a deciding factor.
It is when people refuse to accept people for who they say they are, when they attempt to label that person into a box of their own choosing, instead of accepting who that person believes their own selves to be, that there become issues.
I hate labels.
People are not one dimensional, therefore how can they be labeled?
You are whoever you feel you are. No crap of the world can change that.
And it makes no sense at all to me, if someone lives as a woman, to have to use the mens room. Even if that woman is not a biological woman.
Think about that for a moment.
2006-12-28 00:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Seattle 7 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think most women are going to be at least a little uncomfortable anyway, because there really aren't a lot of transgendered people out there. Anything new and different can be uncomfortable. I'm glad everyone's being polite. Personally, I don't think I'd have a problem seeing you in the dressing room or bathroom. It's not like in the men's room- we get more privacy. If anyone's bitchy to you, they can really go suck an egg, unless you're, like, peering under the stall doors, which seems unlikely.
2006-12-28 11:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of the reactions depend on how you present yourself. If you go a little "over-the-top" in terms of makeup and dress, then lots of women are going to wonder if maybe it's a prank.
But if your makeup and clothes are more toned-down, then most won't bat an eye.
Personally, it doesn't bother me either way, because you're in there for the same reason I am, not to be a Peeping Tom.
2006-12-28 10:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ariadne S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a straight biofemale, I'm cool with it, as I have several acquaintances who are transgendered and after my initial fluster-and-laughter regarding the use of male/female pronouns I kinda got over any real weirdness in my head. I'm a little more polite when transgendered people are in a 'females-only' space such as a washroom -- I tend to not make crude jokes about menstruation et cetera -- but in regular conversation and social activities I'm fine with my acquaintances' gender identities.
Though I do still occasionally screw up my use of gender pronouns, which I loudly and profoundly blame on my own social ineptness ;)
2006-12-28 06:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by impracticalshoes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I dont mind at all. I do think some women are hung up about it, but they are probably hung up about a lot of stuff. Its not like you are in the ladies room to cop a look or something. You deserve respect and safety, like anyother human being. I know what a tough row you have to hoe.
2006-12-28 09:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by sngcanary 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok - here's the honesty:
Unless and until someone is a woman I don't think they at all belong in a women's restroom or other such facility. To be honest, I don't want them in the rest room after surgery either (and I know that's crummy, and I feel kind of rotten about it, but its how I honestly feel).
As you probably can understand, no matter how much we may wish we could think differently there are times when we just cannot alter our true feelings when it comes to things of this nature.
2006-12-28 06:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are polite and appropriate, it is ok with me. And a lot has to do with how you dress. Some guys go over the top, so maybe that's part of it too. Less is more. :)
2006-12-28 06:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I have no problem with it. Who you are and who you choose to portray yourself is your business and not for me to take offese with. I am a straight female, but have many male gay friends. One of the places we go is top a primarily gay male club and it only has one restroom. The majority of the men in that restroom don't even when they see me in there becasue I am confident in who I am and what I chose to represent. Maybe people seem uncomfortable to you becasue you don't come off as confident in who you are and what you represent.
2006-12-28 12:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not care who is in the womens dressing room, as long as they are not trying to look at me in my stall.
2006-12-28 14:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Philosophically, I feel it's OK. But... men are men and women dress in private. It's not just a social thing, it is a boundary.
2006-12-28 06:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋