i really cannot stand my husband anymore with his bad temper.but sometimes i felt pity on him, but he's really gives me headache!
i want to stop all this, but how do i know its over?
2006-12-27 21:19:01 · 12 answers · asked by bumblebee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you already know
2006-12-27 21:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over when --
U feel left out - pushed aside - left behind ---- when U can't take the stutation ---- when nothing U do seems like it's right ---- when the other is physically sickening to U ---- when it all seems empty ---- when the conection U may have felt just isn't there. If you wait till you have no feelings atol, it may be most of your life. some often remain. When U want out. If all you fel is sorry for the other or want to fix them or things for them. Been there, Done that and found something beautiful cause I'd "enjoyed as much as I could stnad!"
2006-12-28 05:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by poolque52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been told that it is over when the bad outweighs the good. Sounds like it is over though. You really shouldn't stay with him just because you pity him. Bad tempers can lead to so much more. If you really don't feel for him at all then, its most likely over.
2006-12-28 05:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very bad marrige for 26 years,it was very mental as well as physcaly abusive;I made every excuse for him I could,I to felt sorry for him,but I hated him on the most part.I left so many times even divorced him just to remarry him a year later.I went into counscling for 15 years.it was then my counsler told me I needed a 2 week break,if I didn't take one he would place me in the hospital because I was on the edge of a break down,so I decied to go away as I borded the train a calm came over me,the train was delayed to move for 15mins.I knew I didn't want to come back as I sat there.Once in route I picked up a magizine and read this.
I got flowers today,it wasn't my birthday or any other special day.We had our 1st fight last night and he said alot of mean things that hurt me.I know he is sorry and didn't mean what he said,because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today it wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.last night he threw me against the wall,and started to choke me it seemed like a nightmare.I couldn't believe it was real but I was so sore and brused all over when I awoke.I knew he was sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today it wasn't my birthday or mothers day or any other special day.Last night he beat me up again,and it was much worse than all the other times,how will I take care of my kids,what about money,I'm afraid of him and scared to leave,but I know he must be sorry.
He sent me flowers again today,but today was a very special day.It was the day of my funeral,last night he finally killed me,he beat me to death,if only I had gathered enough courage and streanth to leave him,I'd not have gotten flowers today.
This was my turning point,I'd been there I did leave him 2 weeks after my trip,I met someone a year later and remarried,he is my Angel of mercy;there is good men out in the world that will treat you as you should be treated, Seak help do not wait,if there is abuse get out.I hope this helps you as it did me,don't wait to long.I will keep you in my prayers.God Bless You.
2006-12-28 06:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdew77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then leave him... or is he worth to stay? You know its over, when u have no more feelings for him. At times becos of pity, you will tend to stay and take all the nonsense but it has it stop his tempers? When someone loves u, he will take care of u, protect u, give his life for u.... If that's something u hv not experience, pls give it more thought and consider making the right decisions
2006-12-28 05:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by The Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, see why he has that bad temper, and if it's resolved then everything might be normal. But if it doesn't well try to make sure you calm down by like getting gifts or something he really likes.
2006-12-28 05:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys really have to have a serious talk about how each other are feeling and work thro it together...and maybe do sumthing romantic to rekindle the love<3
maybe also go to marriage councle'n...it will be cheaper than a devorce!
2006-12-28 05:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by ~lovelovelove~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it over then u wont feel anything for him. u just kind of feel nymbh whenever u talk to him or talk about him. in ur case i guess ur kind of angry with him. if u both sit and talk i guess ur problem would be solved.
2006-12-28 05:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by hema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like its over.
2006-12-28 06:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling. maybe he needs anger management. :) i dont know. try counseling if it dosnt work say goodbye to him hes not 4 u if he dosnt make u happy
2006-12-28 05:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kaleo S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋