My wife and I have been apart since April 2006. We been married since April 2003. She stated over and over we have martial problems and I asked several times what it was. She states that all I do is be on the computer doing homework towards my Masters Degree and trying to start my own business. These were my goal prior to being married and I feel it is a good sacrafice. I am not going to be in school forever. I want a house rather than living in an apartment and kids.
She moved out in May 2006 and I have been trying to get her to come back but she states I need to change. It is almost 2007 and I am tired of trying and she is not making any efforts. I do all the calling to her and I never here from her on the weekends. I am 37, graduate in June 2007 with my MBA in Finance.
I need a honest opinion as this situation is keeping me up all night and my grades, health and focus are affected. I feel I never had the support of my dreams from her but if I stop what will my life be worth?
2006-12-27 21:12:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
move on, if shes not suportive of you why should you be supporting her and working to better yourself and her? Time to file those divorce papers! Make it easy on yourself and just let things go. Its been months its not gunna work out by the sounds of it... Best wishes
2006-12-27 21:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by jingles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew, bro. you're in a tough situation, but it's okay, you can handle it. Actually, you know what is best for you. But since you're asking an honest opinion, I would say then: You are right in your dreams since you did not attain it before your marriage. More so, it's a great sacrifice in your part and so to your wife. You just need to pray a little harder, and keep your communication open with your wife. Perhaps at the present moment, she won't understand you and your plans. But don't lose heart. If what you are doing right (graduate studies) will eventually alleviate your problems in terms of your finances and marriage life, go for it, finish it. You're 37 and there's no time of wasting any longer. After all you are the head of the family. You may have a rough start in your marriage, but you just cannot stop it. What you have started you must be sure to finish it. Regarding your wife, don't be weary in calling her. Women most of the time are deciding by heart, not by head. Just keep on cherishing her even you are separated by distance, for in due time, you will reap the harvest of your labor. Good luck my friend.
2006-12-27 21:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Code Tiger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion...she isn't supporting you like she should.You two are not working towards a common goal so its obvious that she doesn't want the same thing as you do.
I suppose you can try telling her your side of the story one more time and asking her for support while you work hard on both of your futures.Considering you are almost finished with it all.
But, you said you keep calling her,she's not calling you..not making any effort to repair the marriage.So, i would just take a clue from her and just file those papers.
She sounds young or immature or both.
Just go ahead and let the relationship go..give her what she thinks she wants.
And when you are living in your own home,married to a loving supportive woman,going to your son's baseball games.........she will think to herself...man was I and idiot.
2006-12-27 21:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on forget about trying, cos once a women change her mind there will be no turning back, am sure she is ready to move, her reasons is mere excuse for her to move out and have the life she wants. Move on full fill your dreams... anyway you are not ready to have kids right now, that's what i understand from your question. You are only 37 along the way someone will understand your dreams and share the same. ALL THE BEST !! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-27 22:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by blurblur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't seem to be supportive; so think about in a crisis later on when your older. Can you depend on her?
Married; but is it "We" or is it "Me" & "You?" She sounds immature and self centered. Doesn't realize the long term of what she is doing and what you are trying to do.
Concentrate on your dreams and stay with your priorities. Don't let her drive something she doesn't even know how to start.
And tell her what you told us. Your the one making all the effort to fix things and she isn't. So tell her if she isn't going to try then your not. Let her do prove to you if she wants things to work out.
Good Luck with what is best. Realationship with her probably isn't worth it, but if that is what you want, good luck.
I need to do what I advise as well; so I know it's easier said than done.
2006-12-28 00:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are trying hard to be successful in life, she is complaining about things that she shouldn't, and fails to see the future ahead. your education and goals are most important here, just wondering after u complete your studies what else this woman will find wrong with u. u need to get rid of her she is an obstacle. she will keep leaving u and finding fault, think she may be seeing someone else. so what is she going to do when things don't go her way, leave like a spoiled brat. believe me there are woman out there that have worse troubles with their hubby's than this. nothing will ever satisfy this woman and she will keep finding fault, divorce her before u become rich and famous and she gets half your as setts.
2006-12-28 00:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's do the financial math. Awife who doesn't want you to be successful who isn't supportive of you going to school and furthering your education for her own wants and needs. Now on her side is she is lonely, she probably didn't marry you to be by herself all the time. You have to decide, do you want to be with her and commit the time to her it takes to make a relationship work? Option 2) Do you want to finish school and be successful and find someone who also thinks school is equally as important. Only you can move forward, can you get over her. Are you really on the computer all the time or is she being selfish. You decide.
2006-12-27 21:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...continue your studies....this is what you should be focusing on at the moment...wait until you graduate and see if she's there, watching you get your MBA...
If not, then it is the time for you to find another...I mean, you're not bad in doing so. It just means that you are human, needing a companion for the rest of your life
Happy Holidays
2006-12-27 21:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Iggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds spoiled and needs to be the center of your attention. Young, immature? Was this just an excuse to break up with you ? You need 2 people to make it work. She won't talk to you about your relationship? You need to really talk to her and find out what she's thinking.
2006-12-27 21:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on and dont ever call her again.
hope you do well with your MBA. I have an Msc in Finance didi not help me very much in my career.
Good luck and enjoy your second term as a bachelor
2006-12-27 23:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Takis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋