It was arranged and unmatching. i would have lived it if was in my home country. Through struggles and good times we have come so far. I was a very young girl when got married and through time i have learned a lot and gained a lot but always feel embarresed to bring in my husband in my society where i work or whom i work with.
He's never tried to achieve something or learn. apart of this he is totally in his world. There is nothing like responsibility. He's not a normal person either he could be very good or very bad. there is nothing like normal. On one hand always proud to talk about his wife and daughter on other ready to beat us up.....
2006-12-27 20:59:51 · 9 answers · asked by malee b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you really don't love him and that you were in the marriage because it was arranged. That is not fair to you or your daughter for that matter. If he is physically hitting you and your daughter, then I would leave immediately. If you mean beat you up as in putting you down, then that is not right either. He should love you and not put you down. I would say to cut your losses and find yourself a new man. It is easy to say, because I am not you. You really need to think about it, especially if he is not contributing to your marriage. Good Luck in your decision!!
2006-12-27 21:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 12 years have gone in drains. Its high time! Such an irresponsible person is not fit to be pardoned and never be so generous to hang on with him for life for the sake of your daughter's future. For you & your daughter's better future, i feel you should depart from him & find ways to be self sufficient & if your inner concious permits find a right guy who can fit into your position now( A few good men still alive in this world who might have been out of such criticalities & still looking for the right person). Some times you have to be selfish for good reasons. "Good Luck" to you & ur daughter.
2006-12-27 23:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sensitive issue. Marriage of 12 years is bond which I think should last for ever. you and your partner/ wife should alway try to compensate one mistake. this is the stage where one feels to get married again but this is tempory.
So if you love her which you have been doing for 12 yrs and have a daughter, so dont spoil this. Marriage needs another chance so avail this and try to readjust to your problems and stay togather
2006-12-27 21:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by changez wali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sure he is facing some problem its better u take him to any therapist who can give medication he will be normal soon
it seems like Ur hubby is nice guy but cant control on his mood n is in his own world n not ready to take responsibility's so first u try to talk to him that how things r going between u n him how u feel about his behave the convince him to go to an sociologist or therapist they will show proper way it will hep u
don't worry things will get better soon
god bless you
2006-12-27 21:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would get out of this relationship quickly. you have to do what is in the best interest of your daughter, and living with someone who is violent is not the answer.
IF he is "like a roller coaster" he needs to get psychologically evaluated. He sounds as if he is bi-polar or possibly depressed.
He probably will not agree to this.
When you leave this relationship I would suggest counseling as well. work on your self-esteem. Go out and find someone who treats you as you deserve, and do not settle.
Good luck
2006-12-27 22:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mckayla M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you, and your daughter are being abused, contact a safe-nest in your area. They will help you get away from this person. You do not want your child to think that this is the way a man treats a woman. Because it is not. A man loves his family and does what he can to provide for them and protect them.
2006-12-27 21:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have no much hope in him. If there is no hope it is better to get rid of him at the earliest. But before that step, I advise you to seek the help of a family member or a professional help. Still he continues to be the same, leave him for the better.
2006-12-27 21:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by jmcm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married 12 year back.... thats good see dont ignore her or hurt her let her hurt u or do wat ever she wants, u treat her as if she is ur another daughter,,,, soon she will change,,,,Try to behave elder ok...
God Bless U.....!
2006-12-28 21:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Janu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-27 22:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by sonu gutam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋