I feel that I have a right to know who they are and i dont feel that its fair that they arent looking for me and idk who they are... They were allowed to toss me outta thier lives years ago because they thought it would be better for me but I just don't understand why they have the right to hide the rest of thier lives. People need to face up to thier responsiabilities, I have two children and i think it takes a real peice of work to give up a child because they think the child will have a better life... welp kiss it cause they don't know what kinda of a life the child will have. My life wasnt bad i just think its a lousy excuse to justify giving up a child... get a life admit you were to young to have a kid and didnt keep your legs closed. I probably have siblings out there by now and im not even allowed to know them
2006-12-27 20:47:41 · 10 answers · asked by jingles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my mum was adopted and never gave up ... she eventually found them in her late 20s and everything worked out alright in the end ... i really hope you can get through this and that you find them !!! GOOD LUCK !!!
2006-12-27 20:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by emiily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right Sarah. You do have a right to know who your real parents are. But if they're not makin' an effort to look for you, why should you waste your time? You already have a family of your own, spend your time taking care of them and stop worrying about your real parents. No excuse is good enough to give up your child. And even if you can't raise them, at least try and fix your life so you can then bring your child back into your life. It's obvious that they don't want you in theirs. Just keep praying for them and wishing them the best, don't ever think bad things for them because like it or not, they will always be your parents. But for now, just concentrate on your family. They need you more than you need your parents.
2006-12-27 20:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by yleemoreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know the situation so how do you know she was a teenaged ho? She chose to carry you to term rather than abort you, so hopefully there was genuine concern for your well being involved. To keep a child knowing you cannot provide for it is the ultimate in selfishness, IMO.
Your birth mother could have been mentally ill, or physically ill. Perhaps she was a teenager, and her parents forced her to give her baby up. More than one birth mother has told stories of having their parents sign over their child to an agency rep shortly after the birth, ignoring the pleas of the mother.
If you have made up your mind that she is a bad person for giving you up, then there is really no reason to continue searching for her. If you can approach her with an open mind, however, then why stop looking?
2006-12-27 21:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have obvious issues with being put up for adoption - some people cant face looking after a child and the responsibility it brings - it takes a minute to concieve a child, but a lifetime to raise them and alot of cash!!! If your happy with your life - forget about them - cant you look for any siblings you have instead (they are the ones you want to know). You may want to look into councelling before you consider going any further as there seems to be alot of anger in your question - understandably - and you need to start thinking about your fmaily and life now rather than the one in the past.
Your real parents probably loved you and was a hard decision to give you up - but i am sure they have their reasons - maybe its more than you think - but you'll only find out if you chose to look for them.
Good luck in whatever you decide
2006-12-27 21:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you wonder about who your biological parents are, and maybe you will meet them one day. Just don't make it harder on yourself by thinking that they didn't care about you or want you..Most parents really wants the best for their child, but some aren't able to personally give it to them; it could be a drug or alcohol problem, illness, being very poor or in prison for example.
There's enough parents that never should have had children, but they will not admit the reality of their bad state or they just keep their baby to "have some company"; now THAT is irresponsible and selfish; they ruin a child's life instead of giving them a chance to be loved and cared for by someone else!
Giving up a child for adoption can actually be a very hard and unselfish choice. So please don't think your parents just "didn't want you"..
2006-12-27 22:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by therealtr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you yourself knows when it is time to stop. I would not stop, but that is me.
My cousin was adopted and he was a crack baby. He found his mother when he was in his teens. He also found out that he had two older siblings and one younger. His siblings did not want to have anything to do with him. He also found out that he was taken away from his mother because he was a crack baby and that she gave up full rights to him when he was 3 days old. He now holds hatred towards her and I don't blame him. He is also blind now and has a learning disability. He wished that he would not have found out about her and continued thinking that she just could not afford to have him.
You do have the right to know, but you also know when enough is enough! Good Luck with what ever decision that you make!!
2006-12-27 20:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at it from their point of view, you don't know their circumstances at the time. Maybe you would have had a terrible life if they would have kept you. Maybe you should feel lucky that they had the sense to give you up. Maybe your mom wasn't too young maybe she got raped and knew she would have always taken it out on you. Don't jump to conclusions and think about how maybe it would be really too hard for her if you found her, plus why would she be looking for you when she gave you up? But I do hope you find the inner peace you are looking for.
2006-12-27 20:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sperm comes to a decision the intercourse of the toddler, no longer the egg from the mum. An egg is often X. Sperm would be the two X or Y. If the sperm that fertilizes the egg is yet another X, the youngster would be woman. If it particularly is Y, the youngster would be male. I even have heard that some men have extra of X or Y, yet i do no longer understand if it particularly is genuine or no longer. seems precise, pondering what number couples i understand with in basic terms boys or in basic terms females.
2016-12-15 09:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not determined by who supplied the egg or sperm. Parents are the one that is there when you skin your knee...hurt when you hurt...smile when you are happy. You are lucky that you had parents to raise you. Don't dwell on why but Rather what they missed out on when they let you go. Furthermore maybe they had no choice. Hiding from responsibility...I don't think so. Sorry for giving you up...maybe. Just love your children as a parent should ...unconditionally.
2006-12-27 20:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like who you are, who you have become- then why the need to know? Be proud of who you are. It will make your life feel so much more complete.
2006-12-27 20:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sketti-J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋